excessive worrying

i don't think your crazy. i just think you're worried that your life will be ruined if something bad happens.

maybe you should go to a therapist. they might be able to help.

I would go to a therapist, I go to one and they seem to help me, just to get my frustrations out with them putting me down.

You are welcome to talk to me about your problems or jsut need a friend to reasure you that everything would be ok. Just take life one step at a time and talk to someone.

Julie

Who is the he you r talking about? and think to urself...why is it getting to you, try to go deeper than the problem to begin with. When u think u come up with something tell me and I can help more

You cant help but Love, its a feeling you cant help most of the time. HAve you been doing anything with the guy on the interent...if you have I would try and think about who you really love and to me...it sounds like you love your husband more than the guy on the chat. If you dont want to hurt your husband than try not to do anything intenally to hurt him.

well worrying can become a problem but I got over my excessive worrying with pills

Well if you didnt give out your info in detail than dont worry about it, this guy has no way to find you or hurt you and your relationship with your husband. Im not a therapist but Im getting the feeling you feel bad that you have been keeping this from your husband and you are just worried that this guy might ruin what you guys have. You are young and you have to learn that you married this guy for a reason and you probleby love him to death just focus on ur married relationship...not any relationship you had over the net

yea, well cities are big these days so I wouldnt worry about it hun. there are hundrededs and hundrededs of people that live in your city probleby so dont worry about being found. It just teaches you a leason dont give your info out to people.

To relax, I do yoga/pilates. I do it in a quiet room and when nobody i around so i can relax more. There are so many things out there these days to help relaxation

lol 250,000+ is probleby a slim chance he will find you!!! See you are doing great, just think positively and you will do great!

You are so welcome. Im glad I could help ya and if you need to talk anymore I usly try and check this thing everyday so Im here to talk. Just think positive and you will do fine. Nice talking to you!
Julie

well, why are you afraid for your husband to know? if you really are extremely paranoid then i think you should talk to your husband and tell him how scared you are... and you should tell him everything or else no one will be able to help you...
even if that wouldn't stop the weird stalker guy... even if he does tell your husband 'everything' your husband will already know it before hand... who do you think he would believe? his wife who finally got the courage to tell him? or some random stranger who seems to stalk his wife?

anyways... good luck? hope everything works out and the stalker guy would never ever find you or your husband! but... i look at it this way... just seeing how paranoid you are shows how much you love your husband and how scared you are and exactly how much you don't want anything to go wrong with your relationship :)

It is good that you re talking about it and trying to make it make sense. If you are worried maybe you should find someone off line in real life to confind in, a therapist is one option, but it could also just be a good friend to help you keep things in propective. Also just take a deep breath, and let time wash it over, and be careful what you say to guys on the internet, lol. Love ya hun, good luck!

-Mikochan

Well if you think you have OCD...I would see a doctor. But before you go and see one just take it easy and take a deep breath.

There are other symptoms of OCD, but from what you've said it does sound like the kind of thing that may be conected to an emotional or mental problem. I don't want to go dishing out advice or anything but I can see this is really bothering you and the chances are, it is getting in the way of the rest of your life.
Seeing a therapist may not sound like a great idea, but letting stuff out verbally can be a great release, and it is all totally confidential, there is no way anyone will find out, (they are very reasuring about this).
If you are paraniod there are herbal remedies that can help for example things like chamomile tea to soothe and help you sleep. You could also try Bach Flower Remedies or something.
Hope that helps,
*VioletRaven*

All he knows is the city you live in. You've said it yourself. Take a breath and go look through this discussion again. You know how many people he would have to look through, you know in yourself how improbable it is. Say it again; All he knows is the city you live in.
Keep breathing, and just try to hold onto your thoughts, don't let them get the better of you.
*VioletRaven*

Yeah, I know some people recommend pills and stuff but personally I think the natural remedies work best.

I can totally relate to that, it is hard to break out of these things, but eventually it will pass.

Viki, I would reccamend you see a therapist. I never wanted to go to one but I do now and it really does help get your problems out and they will not critize you and everything is confidenal(even your address)This feeling you have about worring will pass but it just takes time

That's quite interesting, I think that if you can recognise that pattern you may be onto something there. It could be the stresses of the season trying to find an outlet.

I agree with Juls. Therapists are very helpful people and it is TOTALLY confidential. Even your family will not find out unless you tell them

You are making sense with that. It is difficult when you know you are letting it get the best of you, but also feeling helpless to stop it. The trick is to let that logical part take control and not the paranoia.

Worring is like a game, it seems like worring takes over ur mind and thats all you think about. but you cant let things get to you. You just need to reasure yourself everything will be ok and if you have a hard time doing that than Im here and lots of other people r here to do that for you.

It's good that you have a plan of what you are going to do. That's a huge step in trying to sort out the problem. I hope it works for you.

No problem Vicki. Im here everyday so just post other thing if you need anything

Don't worry about that, if you can consider the possibility you are going crazy you definitely are not!

Glad you feel better now, just look over what you've written here the next time you feel like that.

Everyone worrys about something in their lifetime your not alone

I second that.

Good for you! ;D
Good luck! You are doing well.

I learned this from my mom when I was a little girl...If you have a nightmare or find yourself worrying think about somethng happy. For example.. FOOD! and umm..your favorite vaction spot to go to. Just anything that makes you happy and your thoughts that you worry about will subside

I don't know about everyone else, but I can tell you that I do. I have made myself feel ill with worrying over trivial things. I don't know that it's normal to do so, but it is certainly understandable, at least in my veiw

Well if you find urslef worrying anymore just read through this convo we have been having and all will be ok I promise you that

well not hearing from him is good, I would stay away from him. there are alot of odd people on the interent these days

Illl be on the chat room of this site if u want to talk

great job!
Thats all you have to do is reasure yourself that everything will be okay and there is really nothing to worry about even if you think there is! Im glad you bought the herbal tablets..I hope that they work for ya!

Hey, you're doing great, keep it up and this will pass.
Well done!

hey viki I just wanted to check up on you...you ok? how r things going?

well im glad that u dont have it on ur mind as much. just talk to me or someone else if its bothering you!
if you have a myspace mine is...
www.myspace.com/xoxjulsxox
if you want to contact me. I do have email and stuff but I dont give ot out on a public chat!