2 years...

i dated a guy for a little over two months. and then he broke up with me for different reasons. (they kept changing)

this was 2 years ago (almost exactly), 2 years and 9 days to be exact.

and i still havent moved on. i cant. ive tried. i dont know what to do. even though im young, i know i still love him, and cant get myself to move on. even me knowing that he doesnt have feelings for me, i still cant.

anyone have any advice? all comments and opinions are welcome. but please say all of them in a nice manner.

This might seem strange, or shallow, but flirt. Flirt flirt flirt. It makes you feel about a million times better just having a reciprocated attraction with someone. You know he doesn't have feeling for you, and that's a great step to admit that. You really just need to look elsewhere. Someone else will make you waaaaaaay happier than this guy ever could.

I'd had this mutual flirtation thing going on with one of my best guy-friends for about a year and a half, and all the while I'd dated other guys... well to make a long story short, my aforementioned "guy-friend" is now my boyfriend.

Agreed. Not even "Mr. Right" though. Right now, it's perfectly fine to go for "Mr. Right Now."

Haha, glad to make your night.

well actually 14 at the time....same difference though.

this may or may not have anything to do with it, but i was very mature for my age. i had people thinking i was like 17 when i was 14. so i mean for me it wasnt just a random relationship that wouldnt mean anything. i had feelings for him then just like i would have now if we were dating.

and actually i have stronger feelings for him now then i did then.

and the whole flirting with him thing....i dont ever see him. i have all these really strong feelings for him and i NEVER see him.

you would think that never seeing him and after being apart for so long that i would get over him. but there is SOMETHING keeping me to him. and i dont know what it is.

i guess thats my biggest problem- i have all these feelings for him yet never see him. i mean sure i could see myself having feelings for him if i saw him everyday or soemthing, but i dont.

so yea idk.

First: Yeah, I have the whole "I look and act 3-5 years older than I am" thing too. Sure your feelings may have been genuine, but now you're just in over your head. In fact, the "I look and act 3-5 years older than I am" schtick is even less of an excuse.

Second: I did not by any means mean flirting with him. I meant flirting with OTHER guys. You need to see who else is out there.

ohh i misread it. sorry i was half asleep.

ive been flirting with other guys. ive tried everything i know. ill like guys for a while but then find something wrong with them and stop liking them.

when actually my ex has 50 million more things wrong with him than they do and hes the one that i should stop liking.

I cared for a girl when i was 13... I still care for her now even though its 4 years later. Sometimes it takes a very long time to get over someone, sometimes it never happens. The point is, you just need to find someone else. Love is like the horizon, an imaginary line that vanishes as you walk towards it. Everyone’s personal definition of love changes. Because all love is, is the pinnacle emotion that one has felt for another, and one day that pinnacle will become higher, changing your personal definition of love.

thanks everybody!

anyone else have anything that has helped you move on from someone?? i need something else to try

i learned to get reallie mad at someone i really liked before.. he was a reallie good frd of mine and we were almost officially bf/gf? but that never happened... my bf tried many ways to get me to hate him but they haven't really worked...

anyways.. just some ideas?

sorry...i couldnt totally understand that....

you think i should get like really mad at him so that i dont like him anymore??