What should I do...?

  • DeathsRose
    18 years ago

    I like my best friend, but he had a girlfriend. He keeps telling me how funny, smart, and pretty I am, but that he is in love with his girlfriend and we can't be together.
    He makes me feel so good and then he makes me feel like shit (by telling me we can't be together). With everything else that is going on in my life this was the final straw and I tried downing pills so I could die, but he eventually got that out of me, and he screamed at me and told me that he didn't want to hear that I did that again because he'd die without me. I mean I don't want to hurt him, but I have been thinking about slitting my wrists so I can die and stuff. I know that is not right and that I would really hurt him, but I don't know what to do. If you are still reading this extremely long rant sorry it was so long. What should I do? I'm sooo confused...

  • Purple
    18 years ago

    That wasn't too long, kinda short compared to other people, and we read it because we want to, you don't need to apologise. If I were you I'd try to ask him to quit playing with your heart like that, he's making you fall for him by complimenting you so much, and then he's braking your heart by telling you that the compliments mean nothing. It's natrual for you to like a guy who's so sweet and seems to care for you, none of this is your fualt. I could go with the focus on his happiness thing but it just doesn't seem to fit here. If you die neither of you could ever be happy, you don't want that do you?

    I keep on thinking that you should tell him how you feel and get him to stop complimenting you and acting like he's your boyfriend. I'm sorry if I'm way off with what this guy is like, I'm just trying to go off of what you said. I think you need to get him to stop playing with your heart.

  • Void
    18 years ago

    Hey, I have somewhat the same thing going on. It's with my boyfriend, we met on the net and he lives halfway around the world. (Please don't judge me on that because I really do love him and I'm so sure he loves me to, he's just scared of it because we can't be together) Well, he's always telling me how perfect I am for him and 'we were meant to be' and 'I'm so lucky I found you'...Then all of a sudden he'll turn around and tell me that he can't handle the distance and it will never work. Can't guys see what they do to us sometimes? How do they not understand? ... I guess my only words of support for you is to try and move on. Believe me, I know that's hard as I am in the middle of doing that too and it's killing me. But It may just be all we have. Tell him what you think about your friendship and try your hardest to move on. *sigh* I wish I could say something better than that. I'm here if you need someone to talk to.

  • AGirlWorthFightingFor
    18 years ago

    I've been in that situation too. Complete with suicidal tendancies... My advice is: Forget about him. A player masquerading as a sensitive guy is nobody's friend.

  • DeathsRose
    18 years ago

    I've been thinking about it and I guess that its better to have him as a friend who does this to me than not to have him...as a friend or what ever. I don't know...I just don't think it'd be the same if I didn't have him...like this or otherwise. I mean I know that if he broke up with his girlfriend that I'd have a 90% chance of going out with him...so all I can do is pray that they brake up. But if they don't...I know we will be real close friends forever...and I like the thought of that...And I know it is stupid to try to kill myself over this.