It just kills me...

Okay..man...where to start..

My bf and I have been going out for a year in January. We've been through so much but our feelings for one another are really strong. I was so excited when he told me that he had finally got a job. I guess I even kinda pressured him to get one. Well he likes his job now and works with a bunch of friends.

---The Problem---

He told me when we first started going out that he didn't like drugs and everything, that's really good cause i'm against things like that. But he did menton that he didn't think drinking was bad and everything and that he'd probably do it once in awhile. Well he works at a restaraunt and it's also a bar. They serve alcohol sometimes, even to minors! My bf is 16 and they still give it to them. He told me that he tried some stuff and I was like...well...okay, thinking that it was a one time thing. Last Saturday I guess his work had a big party and everyone was getting drunk and stuff so he drank too. I don't think any of you will understand why this kills me so much but please let me make an effort.

My dad drinks once in awhile, he's an asshole already and drinking makes it so much worse. My uncle, an alcoholic, he tries to abuse his wife and threatens to kill her and everything! My ex boyfriend..in the middle of our relationship he started drinking, he acted so stupid and always told me that I was worthless...that led to the downfall of our relationship. I've had so many bad experiences with alcohol that I really don't want him to do it, but he doesn't understand where I'm coming from. Now, everytime he's at work I think that's what he's doing. My trust with him and alcohol is very low...it's low for anyone that drinks.

When he told me about it I freaked out. You know what he told me? He told me that it was immature for me to have morals against drinking! Immature for having morals? I've never heard him say something so stupid. I hate alcohol so much that when I think about him drinking....I dont want to be with him anymore.

What on earth do I do about these feelings? Am I being unreasonable with my reaction to him drinking? He's only 16! *sigh*

Sorry this is so long, but I didnt know how else to tell you.
--Thanks---
--Kayla---

an alcoholic by 16...sigh...

well, a few beers at parties now and then is okay. it is not an excuse for being an ass. if he's a good guy otherwise, though, you shouldn't have a problem with it. I think.

I never said he was an alcoholic....

I don't think anyone will understand

i understand how you feel about alcohol, i feel the same way. my dad drinks a lot. i mean A LOT!!!!! but any way, did you try to explain to your bf about how it makes you feel? maybe he doesn't understand? i don't know. um, if you bf starts to change because of the alcohol, you know, like become an ass, you should dump him. if you want to that is. i don't know, i've never had a bf that drinks. i don't think i was much help. sorry!!!!!
**lisa**

Okay well I talked to him about everything and he just doesn't understand. When I tried to tell him about my bad history with alcohol, I told him about my uncle, and asked him if he wanted to be like that. He told me that I was comparing him to someone completely different from him. But when my uncle was sober he didn't act that way, it changed him that much.

My bf blows up on me completely, every time I try to talk about it with him. He might have to work New Years Eve and I know that it'd be a perfect time for him to drink. I asked him that if he absolutely HAD to work that he would promise me that he wouldn't drink. He basically told me that he wasn't going to make a promise that he would break.

That's so shitty. I can't just break up with him. We've been through so much and I care so much about him. But if it continues to get worse....I'm afraid I may not have a choice.

-Thanks guys--