mistrust... help please >.

i can't believe i just did this today but my friend saw my boyfriend with another girl today at the mall and he was holding onto a ton of bags with her hanging on to his arm. he had his other hand in his pocket but like, when he saw my friend, then turned around she kissed him...

my friend told me and i thought they were going out.. and i just basically freaked out.. he's been pushing me away lately and i guess i've been paranoid for a while... i was kind of happy to hear that because maybe he found someone else he can be with? but turns out theres nothing between them and he had to put up with her because of parent's business.

now he's really mad at me but i didn't even know about this girl til after, and she's been living at his house with her family for a week now? but anyways, he feels like i don't trust him and he's really mad at me.

anyone have any advice to help me make things better with him? >.

Hun, you should NOT feel guilty for this. Your boyfriend should've told you in the first place if he was going to go somewhere with a girl. You should trust him but trusting somebody does not mean let them do whatever, whenever. If he is mad at you then you go right ahead and fire right back and be mad. You should not feel guilty, if I saw my boyfriend in the mall with another girl I'd hit them both in the face right there and then :P. Do not let your boyfriend make you feel guilty, he doesent deserve you if hes like that. How do you know he isnt lying? I mean, did she kiss him on the lips or on the cheek. If its the lips then what is your boyfriend doing, is he soliciting himself for his family business? Also, he shouldn't be pushing you away, if he is then dump him. He should love you and tell you everything. Trust isnt just given, it has to be built on something. Dont let your boyfriend bring you down, you dont need him and you have every right to be paranoid. I mean he was with another girl in the first place, how would he like it if you were with another guy??

well... we're talking a lot of business here >-.< well.. ok not so perfect sometimes but all these other girls ages 12 to 30 think he is! so i kinda sometimes worry... but he always does something to make me feel better... all i needed for him was to say 'i love you' and i would've forgave and stopped being paranoid right away... now he's pissed but i guess no matter how paranoid i was i still shouldn't have basically said 'he didn't love me'... but he didn't need to do anything.. all he needed to do was to tell me that he does! -.-

my friend was telling me i'm basically screwed since i didn't trust him, that i knew how he feels, that im screwed for denying his love -.-... was it wrong for me to do all this?? i mean.. ok he was about to flush my promise ring down the toilet if his best friend didn't stop him -.-

im just so stressed... he's just gotten out of hospital, but then he had to get back to work right after (yes, even though hes not even 18 yet) and hes suppoosed to get lots of rest, but he didnt, then they thought he might've had brain cancer but turns out the x ray machine had problems and hes ok...(thats when he started pushing me away more and more...) then this girl came along to visit and he got really upset, lost all sanity, cut himself and tried to over dose, both within 12 hours... and he gets dragged to the mall by some rich brat whos a big flirt

like. he saw my friend... and stared at her? probably knew that she would tell me he's been keeping something from me... but when he turned around, that rich girl kissed him right on the lips -.- its just driving me crazy how money has ruined his life, and mine(at a smaller extent)... and now his family business is affecting our relationship...

hes really mad right now since i was saying we used to be happy, it used to be perfect, we used to love eachother? it used to be just him and me... not only i questioned if he loves me or not, i thought everything became past tense -.- and thats something i should never have done -.-... i don't even know how i can make up for it.. i hurt him a lot this time...

i saw a dead cow once and realised i was in heaven

ok... i don't understand that but... x.x... he forgave me and things are getting better, i just talked with him for 5 hours straight(which doesn't happen often since we both work and go to school, him having to attend all these functions for work)...
i feel whole again and that warm feeling came back...
christmas turns out to be merry after all :)

- kelsie

dont feel guilty. i mean she did kiss him. just tell him he would have been jus as mad if he heared a boy kissed you. and you know he would be. all i can say is talk to him

You have a right to be angry! He has a girl living at his house and you didnt know about it. He can't get upset with you because of this. He KISSED her?! I think that's sending out a message loud and clear. I would talk to him if i were you. If he's still mad after you talk to him, maybe he's not worth it.

Good Luck&&Lots of love

--Steph