Selfish Friend - I don't know what to do . . .

i use to have a friend like that, the truth of it is they really don't mean to bring you or anyone else down, no matter how true it may seem. it just happens because they're someone you care you about...and in my case im never too happy when a friend is miserble. now if she actaully says you can only be happy when im happy...then yes u have a problem, and as mean as it may sound just drop her. honestly i hate turning my back on ppl. but if they ever insist on something so mornic like that. then i dont want them in my life.

hopefully i helped :)...oh and happy holidays

-dominique

ok, um, is there any problems she's going through, like at home or at school? why don't you talk to her. chances are she just needs someone to talk to. before you dump her, why don't you try to find out what's wrong.

Everyone has a friend like that. Even I do. I'm 21 years old with my own car, a good job, and I don't stress for money. She on the other hand doesn't have a place to live, she works at a work today get paid today company, and is always broke. No matter what my situation is and the excitement I'm feeling she wrecks it. If she's in a bad mood because of the situation she put herself in then she ruins it for everyone. I've been friends with her since I was 15 but have known her since I was 5. I've learned to deal with it. But as I've grown up I've also learned how to tell her about it. She may get mad but after thinking about it for a minute she realizes it and then apologizes. Talk to your friend because it's not worth losing her over. Some people just don't know how to contain their feelings for the sake of others.

She's not selfish, if she's unhappy she just needs someone to talk to. It may drag you down yes but you just need to talk to her about it, it's not her fault.

See I totally disagree with Sniper dude...like I said before some people just don't know how to deal with their troubles and still be able to listen to others. She's young still and everyone goes through that at some point in their life. She'll learn but you have to show her what she's doing to you.

Well maybe you could try to explain to her that you actually want to know about her problems and ways that you can help her? That might change her mind a bit. It is important to help her as long as it doesn't end up hurting you. You cn help her as long you are still are okay by the end of it. It sounds like you feel pretty okay about life, so on matter what keep that feeling with you and you will be okay. Be the girl's friend if you want but do not let her take your happiness in the process, if that happens then you really need to evaluate this friendship because you wellbeing is important too and you would be able to help her much when you are feeling the same way. Just some ideas. Good luck baby, I have had several friends like that, but well they all went different ways with it, so I guess you'll just have to see what happens.

-Mikochan

Hmm maybe she doesn't realize she's bringing everybody down... I think you got to tell her straight out that she's bringing everyone down, and that yes you are listening to her and trying to help her.

I agree with Mikochan to 'be the girls friend if you want but do not let her take your happiness in the process.'

I also have some friends like that, I just remind them that when I go through bad times that I don't bring everyone down, and to concentrate on the good things of their life.. Look for the silver lining....

Good luck, hope it all works out for you..
Laterz,
Shirlz.

if you've got a friend that's like that...happy for themselves..their accomplishments..their life..no concern for you AT ALL...just drop em..you don't need that extra edge of stress..as far as the negetivity goes..give it right back...eye for an eye..i wouldn't take that for too long..anyway..goodluck with that..keep your head up...hit me back...peace

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