my friend is pregnate ...help plz

ok one of my best friends just found out that she is pregnate, and she wants every one to feel sry for her. And I would, but she is 18, she lost her virginity to this guy she had only know 3 days, and thinks she is in love with him. now, she had a scare before, and i thought she would have learned, but she didn't. now she wants every one to feel sorry for her, but they had unprotected sex every night! i mean, its not like it was an accident, and she doesn't know how babie are made. she thinks she can act like a bitch cause she is, and she told me she is going to get drunk on new years. i dont know how to feel. i want to be there for her, but if shes doing this to the baby (drinking) what should i do?

Hun theres really nothing you can do. Honestly it sounds like your friend is being completely selfish. I mean does she not realize this could harm HER baby??? Hun if I were you this girl is no good and I would just stay out of her life. If she wants to do this to her baby then she is a horrible person and she doesn't deserve to have any friends to support her. She's going to be a terrible mother and I would suggest you tell her to put her baby up for adoption. You said she's in love with this guy who she slept with after 3 days.. It sounds like she's trying to blame him for getting pregnant. She made the choice too. Tell her to give the baby up and find it a good home. Because from what you wrote this girl sounds like she will be a terrible mother.

lol, thanks, im a bad speller. Any way, she already knows what it does to the baby, she had child develoment and had to do a report on it. And plus she said she didn't care, one time wotn hurt it that much.

i dont want to abandon her cause she wont give it up. And he went home to his parents for christmas, she called him and told him his response was"o! well im busy so ill talk to you later" she thinks he is going to marry her, but he was supposed to be home monday, and hes not back yet. i dont think hes comming back. anyu more advice?

sunny it also makes me very mad. i am looking up info on it and sending it to her through email, cause we had a fight and are not talking right now.

Having a couple of drinks won't harm a baby. My dad's a doctor. It's only if you drink a lot that it will.

You need to get through to her that one time can hurt a baby!!!! It doesn't really matter and you know what call the cops on her you said she's 18 well the legal age to drink is 21 put her in jail for the night!! LOL now that might help her. You also need to get through to her that the guy probably isn't coming back!!! I mean common she needs to grow up and realize her life is going to change forever.

wait... you said she had sex with this guy and she doesnt even know how babies get developed????
whoa... weird chick i have to say. and she had sex with only knowing this guy for three days, and on top of all that!!!!!! she thinks he's going to ask her to marry him!!!!!! you're friend is in LaLa... her head is in the clouds. o.O! cant forget about her drinking and not caring of the babys future state of well-being. she is so selfish and ignorant. shish. that is why i have two VERY IMPORTANT RULES about sex and life.

RULES:
1. only have sex with some you TRULY trust and someone you've been with for along time.
2. common sense is needed 100% in life so USE IT!
(if you dont have it you're screw beyond your imagination in life).

your friend obviously doesnt have common sense and there is nothing you can do about that. she is going to be a bad mother.
sorry that i am not helpful and i said everything you're not looking for, but it's the sad truth...

BX Girl

chill with her on new years..and if she drinks...f_ck her sh!t up..*no stomach shots* my gf says no boob shots but to hell with it..if she wants to drink..f_ck her up.... Just ask her if killing her baby is worth a good time to her and if she says yes then, that is not a friend that you sould have. Another thing, beer is not the only really bad thing caffeine is too. and if you don't then give me her address i'll give her my 2 cents..

Yeah I agree you should be with her on new years. If she tells you to get her a drink get her one and make sure there is no alcohol in it. Tell her there is and watch her act stupid thinking she is drunk.. LOL take pictures and post them... LOL FUNNY

Yeah that is also a good point. YOu shouldn't be hanging out with her. But still if your going to try to convince her not to drink!!!

Hey, well there's a few things I want to say. One, the best thing we can do for the drinking situation is to try and get it through her head.. but she seems like the really stupid type (and that's said in the nicest way possible)that just won't get it... So if it doesn't work, the next best thing to do for the baby is just hope (and pray for those of us who do) that the alcohol won't change anything. My mother drank and well did stuff I'd rather not talk about, and she was really lucky with her children, for me and my siblings have turned out alright, so we can just hope that her baby will be as lucky... As for the guy, that really sucks that he's such a *cough* , I really wish people weren't so stupid. But unfortuantely there's nothing we can do about him either.... And lastly, her having a baby, may be hard for anyone to handle (especially her) and even though she's abusing her rights to your sympathy, you still might want to stick with her... I promise that after she has a baby - if she keeps it - she'll grow up really fast. A baby changes everything, and if she decides to keep it she will realize some other aspects of life and feelings that she hadn't before... In the end, I'm sure things will work themselves out - the world works in mysterious ways - but I do think you should stick with her atleast a little bit. Not for her, but for the baby.

thanks you guys, all your posts were helpfull. I went to a web page on the effects of alochol on babies and sent her the hole thing, at the top i told her if she was gonna screw the kid up or maybe even kill it, then fine, but i wasn't gonna be there to help her. and now she is really *issed at me. Her b/f was supposed to be back last night, and he is not back yet, he said he is commin back on saturday, but i dont think well ever see him again. She isn't comming to my party for 2 reasons, no drinks, and she is mad cause now her mom, dad, and brother knows she was gonna get drunk. i am goning to try and be there, but no0t for her for the baby.
~PK

Well at least you want to be there for the baby!! You sound like a great friend to have

lol, thanks.
~Pk

well its new years, what are you guys finally gonna do??? is she still gonna drink??? it really pisses me off the way ur so called friend is being....stick with her...one day she'll realize she had a good friend, and if she keeps the baby..then when the baby grows up u can tell him/her how you sort of saved it...:)

disgusting.......grrrrr

So did she Drink???????

...its nice to know the baby has a great person like you looking over her/him...
Truly great person

Laterz,
Shirlz

1. I can't help, I am not a doctor.
2. Go back to one.

Happy reading.

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(")-(") Arrivederci!

hye thanks to all of you for helping and giving me advice, and for saying i am a good friend, and even thanks to arri cause well, your post just made me laugh. lol she didn't drink and we "made up" but she got mad at me again cause i am a virgin and she told me "need to get laid so i wont be sucha *itch to her" and i told her it looked like she got laid one too many times, so maybe she should not be giving me advice. And she also found out the she is 2 1/2 months pregnate and its due on my birthday! lol, i just dont know any more. but thanks you guys your great!
Love always~
~PK~
P/S/ Congrats to my friend Sarah and her new husband Chris who are now expecting! congrats guys love ya and good luck!