ohmygosh!

please someone help me! im not here so everyone can just tell me im too young && get in a long argument or anything cuz i just need major advice!!

well here goes ..

about a month ago i lost my virginity to a guy i didnt know (he was a virgin also).

a few days ago i was at my friends house && he was there and so was his girlfriend. he was acting weird around me && didnt say a word to me.

i talked to his girlfriend a few hours ago and i told her what happened between me && him a month ago cuz she didnt know. he lied to her about it but she knew something went on between us so she asked me. i told her everything and i told her that i wanted to be his friend. she said she would talk to him.

did i do the right thing?? i just need advice pleaseeee!!

Yes, you did the right thing.

In life, there are actions and consequences. Most likely this guy will stop talking to you, and not want to be your friend. Reason why? Well, because in his mind it is easier to push you out and not have to deal with the situation. All you need to know, is you did the right thing, and kudos to you, and to his girlfriend for talking out things. That is very mature, and anyone who thinks you're too young and whatnot, should at least give you respect for doing the responsible thing. Anyways, I'm in a rush, so I can't really give you much advice. Once I get in to work, I will :)

Darien

Ok, well now that I'm in the office, and on break, I have some time to think.

My best advice to you is, there are other people in this world, and although you may not believe me, when you are older and when time passes by you will see. You will look back on your life, and you will laugh. You want to be friends with this guy, but in his position, it would be hard to. It's really hard to say, because I don't know either of you.

I also have some other advice. (The you are young speech).. (We can argue later)

You are 14 years old, and you have not gone through alot. Right now, this is a life learning experience, you will grow from this. This helps you set yourself up, so you do not make the same mistakes. When you think you have it figured out, something new comes along and trashes it. I don't even have it figured out! Well, I have learned alot in my life. I haven't made too many of the same mistakes. What I learn now, will provide me with what I need to satisfy the girl I am destined to be with. You should be enjoying your teenage years. You will never get them back. Take it from someone about to turn 20. There are so many things I wish I cold have done in my teenage years, and I wasted my time crying over heart breaks and broken friendships. It should have been my happiest times. When you start working and having to pay a rent, you won't have fun. Trust me. Enjoy your time, and forget the little things that will eventually come. Don't try to grow up too quick, because when you are grown up, you will wish to be young again. Take it a day at a time. Well, that's all from me. I probably sound like my father. But he is a good man, and I thank him for everything he has provided me with. So I leave you with this speech, and hoping you will read it and learn from it.

Take care,
and I hope you figure things out.

Darien

Dude,
thanks for putting that out. It's really what I wanted to say, but I tried to be nice, so it would be like I'm comforting her. I'll add to what you said. You missed you.

What if you got pregnant!?!? You still have your parents looking after you, what makes you think you are capable for taking care of children of your own!!! You think you parents would put up with another baby in the house. Then there are complications if you were to get an abortion! ...ahhh whatever, I'm not your father, I'm just telling you, think before you act.

im 14 i have rules for these types of things. i'll list a few.

RULES:
1. DONT HAVE SEX!!! (unless you can support your self/baby.)
2. only have sex with someone your with and even then STILL wait.
3. use your common sense, it's needed 100% in life. (if you dont have it you're screwed beyound your imagination in life)
4. dont have sex IF YOU DONT EVEN KNOW THE FREAKIN' PERSON!!!!
(outcome of you doing so may result in you having a dieses that can potentially kill you.)

females make them selves look more and more like sluts just cause they dont carry them selves well. one night of having sex with someone can easly send the message that you're an easy target. guys would go to you for a one night stand.
guys would start asking you out and saying 'i love you, baby' just to get in your pants.

shish... i know cause this happen to a friend of mine. one night changed a lot for her and she regreats all of it. sorry for any misspelled word, im sorta pissed off now.

im out.
Revo

Yeah, hindsight is 20/20, you could probably learn a few things from incidents like this. 1. Don't have sex with guys you don't know. 2. DON'T HAVE SEX WITH GUYS YOU DON'T KNOW.

To the OP, you did the right thing, talking to the guy's girlfriend right out. And Darien's right, you don't have any chance being friends with this guy again, but frankly, why would you want to? He sounds too cheap and easy to be worth anyone's time. You should still be friendly and civil toward him though. No point lowering yourself to spite him.

YEA GIRL YOU SHOULD NOT BE HAVIN SEX WITH STRANGERS YOU COULD HAVE CAUGHT ANY TYPE OF STD YOU NEVA KNOW THESE DAYZ I AGREE WITH YOU SOMERANDOMDUDE GIRLZ THESE DAYS ARE GETTING LOWER AND LOWER STANDARDS. YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW IF HE WAS REALLY A VIRGIN OR IF HE WAS JUST TELLIN YOU THAT PLEASE DON'T BE STUPID AND HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND!!!! THAT MEANS THAT YOU WERE JUST BEING FAST AND QUICK TO PULL YOUR PANTS DOWN GIRL U BETTA GET SOME ACT RIGHT BOUT YOSELF!!!!!!!! (BUT DONT FEEL BAD) I'M JUST KEEPIN IT REAL AND U NEED 2 USE CONDOMS

Oh calm down Tenisha. There are test to see if yah gotr aids or hiv or somethin else. She made a mistake and handled it better than most would. If it had been me I would have done the same thing. I have to go against you and say that she did what was right. Hell she might have made a mistake but she handled it better than most adults would. She would have done it at some point anyway.Kudos to you greenmunky.

hey gurlie, you a little young, you should have waited, i know what its like to have a girl sleep with someones man, my friends done it, but you needed to keep your mouth quiet, maybe he realized it was a mistake