there's always that someone else

so last year i met this guy who was in my class and i became crazy about him. then it was time to switch classes and i REALLY missed him. he would ask my brother how i was doing and say hi to me a couple times but it just wasn't the same. then summer came and i never saw him. when the school year started, we would look at eachother but never say anything. its as if we're acting like nothing happened between us. but i still am crazy about him.

then i met this other guy who asked me out and i thought i liked him but the same night he asked me out and i said yes, i realized that i still have feelings for the other guy. i've been going out with this guy for 2 months now and i'm ready to break up with him because i just don't have feelings for him. i feel like i'm breaking up with him partially because i think i'm in love with the guy i met last year. the problem is, i know nothing will ever happen between me and him. we've never even gone out but the possibility that something could have happened i feel is going to ruin every relationship i will ever have because i can't let go of "what could have been" with him. it sucks because he is in the "popular" group in school and i'm not exactly popular but i felt something between us that i can't let go of.

PLEASEEE help me..i have no idea what to do. i can't have every relationship be ruined because i love a guy who i don't talk to anymore or who doesn't even care about me. i just don't know how i can do that because when i'm with a guy all i can think about is him. so please help me!

um ok...thanks?

ok maybe i didn't make it very clear that i got to know this "crush" very well in the amount of time that i got to spend with him. believe me, i've had a lot of crushes in my life, and i never felt anything the way i felt with him. he was different. we had so much in common. and the whole "he knows my brother" thing didn't play a big part at all because he didn't even know that he was my brother until later on. and i'm saying that he asked my brother how i was doing and said hi to me in the hallway AFTER our class ended and we didn't get to see eachother everyday and talk anymore.

and i know your saying social status doesn't matter, but it really does. atleast in high school. i don't know where you go to school, but in mine, i don't think a popular jock would go out with a band geek. it hurts to say that but thats just how it is. our friends don't mesh.

and i am dumping my current bf nicely. i'm not saying its because i like another guy. and thats not even the reason. its because my bf is so obsessive, paranoid, and annoying that i can't take it anymore.

yeah i go to school in pennsylvania. and you're lucky that people date who they want to in your school. in mine, they stay with their usual cliques and it sucks for people like me who don't want to date people in their clique. but i got to know him only in school. we had baking together where i sat next to him. there were 5 kitchens in the class and each kitchen was made up of 3 or 4 people and we basically got the whole 85 min. each day to just goof around with eachother and bake which gave us a great oppertunity to get to know eachother because we spent some time together. so it wasn't just one of those "i saw this hot guy across the room that i only said hi to once and now i'm in love with him" type of thing, i actually knew him. my friend says that hes a jerk that he was able to put our different groups aside in that class, but when it was outside of class and we saw eachother, he just went back to his friends and ignored me. i agree with her but i really really..REALLY liked him and i know i should forget about him and move on, i really do, and i'm trying but its hard and i'm having trouble finding a guy who i can truly relate to like i did with him. i'm a shy girl around most people, and there are just those certain guys who i instantly click with and i can be my self around, you know? i was lucky enough to have met him, i'm just having trouble finding a guy who will completely take my mind off of him. obviously my current boyfriend didn't do that for me. i feel like a horrible person for staying with him knowing that i like this other guy because i really did think that i liked my boyfriend but he is just way too obsessive. and i would have broken up with him sooner but everyone said that i should wait until after the holidays because that would be a little rough for him to go through the holidays with a broken heart.

and i understand what your saying about who the hell cares about our status if i really like this guy. and i would have no problem with it, the thing is that he has to like me back. my friend thought that he did like me while we were in that class, but its been like 9 months since that class(i know, i'm a little crazy and attached) so he obviously doesn't like me anymore.