Open Up To Friend About Past...

I used to cut 3 years ago.. its a part of my past now but I have 2 really good friends. Well me and my friend actually somehow started talking about realized that we both used to cut, it was awkword, but it was nice to have someone there. Now we both want to tell our other friend and we've decided to do it together. We wrote her a short note because neither of us can just come out and say it "we used to cut", so we wrote it down. Were gonna let her read it while were there so we can talk all talk about it after. The thing is, I'm scared. I'm no good with expressing how I feel, and non of us want the situation to get awkword. What can I do to keep from putting all the pressure on my other friend?? And how can I keep things from getting awkword?

Also, do you think it is better we tell our friend together or should we tell her individually?

PLEASE- someone I need advice!!!!

if u both agree that its in the past...is it something that u really have to tell ur friend unless it comes up in converstion..or somewhere else

No don't. I opened up to a friend and now she's drifted away. When someone says "I'll always be here for you" they're lying.

Kim, that is your situation. Not everyone is like that.

You should tell your friend. You would be lying to them if you didn't. If I had a friend who cut, I would want to know.

The best way to tell them, is to bring up a sad situation in your life. Talk about it with them, and ask them. "How would you deal with it?". They will tell you, and then you can say, "I didn't know how to handles things before, I actually use to cut, but I've stopped because I realized the pain it caused others,".

It's the best I could think of, it's easier said that done, but, I hope things turn out right. Don't keep secrets. Secrets Don't Make Friends.

thank you... all different opinions:S:S...

anyone else got some help... more ways to bring it up or should we even bring it up at all??

I know what you mean, it feels like you are not being honest with your friend until you tell her right? At least that is the way it is for me. I have had a lot of people notice that I cut, and a variation of responses. My boyfriend dumped me, my best friend loved me, some drifted away and others grew closer. It is hard to know what to do in a situation like this. Maybe she had a difficult thing in her past too, so you guys could all get it out together. I don't think she will be angry with you. It doesn't really matter whether you guys do it alone or together, but I would recommend doing it in person that is fair so she can ask any questions she wants to. I wish you the best of luck hun. Let me know how it goes!

Always,
Tainted Mikochan

I think that since you want to tell her, you should.

And telling her with your other friend there is a good idea too, I think. That way no matter how she reacts, good or bad, there is someone else there.

I have some bad experiences with people finding out about my cutting (not me actually telling them) but I have also had some Ok experiences. It all depends on the person, their thoughts about cutting, and how much they care for you.

Good luck hun.

This situation jsut sucks cuz telling our friend together would save some awkwordness... but I wonder if its the right way. I need to tell my firend now cuz its been bugging me lately. But i have to wait for my other friend cuz she comes down next weekend. I just dont know if I can keep lying and saying nothings wrong to my friend. I'm so nervous to tell her... but it feels like I'm lying to her if I don't....

As some others said up there ^ I think it's better to tell your friend individually. Since it's a personal matter, it'd be easier for her to talk to you on your own.

It's better to open up, although it is very difficult. Wouldn't you rather that she found out staight from you instead of you keeping it from her and her hearing it from someone else?

Also, you say she's a good friend, so she does deserve to know.It'll also help strengthen your friendship because she'll know that you trust her.

Best of luck
xxx

I think that unless there is a chance of the cutting reoccuring... you shouldn't tell the other person.. if you both are truelly over it then its in your past and you shouldn't worry your friend about it.. kinda like sceletons in the closet.

siiigh... why are all the opinions os damn different:S:S:S...

more opinions would be helpful

oh well if anyone checks back into this.. then ill let yaknow that I told her. and she took it well, :)