Parent/Guy problem...

okay. I met this guy on the internet in a chat room. He is 17 (im 14) and we started talking and i think i know almost everything about him, and he about me. He lives in Arizona and I live in Missouri, but we have been talking about me going to see him or the other way around someday. Now, I know it's stupid, but I really think I could be falling in love with him. We literaly think alike, and it's gotten so that we know what the other is thinking and we often say the same thing at the same time or finish each others sentences, and we really understand each other. K, now for the problem part. I had told my parents that he lived in Eldon (the town I lived in b4 i moved here a month ago) and that I had met him there. They believed me and were okay with it, but of course my mom can't stay out of my life so she went through my phone book and my journal and my archive of the convos i had with him and she got very mad because I was talking to somebody I haven't ever met. She said that "it's scary" because if he has my phone number than that means he could have my address (i didnt tell her i gave it to him) and he could be some "30 year old perv" from a chat room and he could hunt me down and rape me or whatever. I know this guy isn't lying. I don't know how I know, but it's just a feeling I get and my instinct and I know he has told the truth. I understand my mom's concerns...I know all about that, she has made me read stories about girls getting hunted down off of the internet and all that, and usually I am very weary about giving out personal info. But i talked to him for a long time and viewed his webcam and then gave him my number. I told my parents I had seen his webcam and they started telling me that it could be any file and could've been recorded a long time ago, but I know that isn't true because one time he turned it around to the computer and showed the picture of me on my profile and the convo we were having at the time.

so my question is what should I do? My parents are saying they cant trust me and they made me change my yahoo messenger screen name (my new one is imma_spoiled_1) and mom is going to have them run a background check on this guy and all (she's a cop so she can run his name) and it's just a lot of crap. can anyone give any advice on what to say to them or anything, just what to do????? please help me!!!!

Well I know what your going through..my best friend did the same thing she met a guy online a long time ago and her parnts didnt aprove..both of us have been talkin to him and all that...If you really honestly like this guy you should have your parents talk to him...i know you probably dont want that to happen but that worked for my friend..and eventually her parents talked to his parents and now my friend and they guy are engaged...they ended up meeting eachother and he wasnt a freak...but believe me u shouldnt be mad at ur parents for what there doing because you can never be too sure. he could be 17 and all that like he says but 17 year olds can also be weirdos just like anyone else. So i think your parents should talk to them and to his parents and you will have a better chance of being able to be with him. I have met a guy on the computer before like 3 years ago and we still talk and he comes to vegas where i live and visits my boyfriend and I he is a really cool guy..so sometimes it works out good and sometimes it can be bad..just be careful and talk to ur paretns about it. Let your mom run a background check on him and all it might be a good thing for you too..cause u dont want to be with no weirdo. Ok good luck
Lisa

i think you should go with whatever your heart thinks. I've learnt that you should often follow your heart, cause you will always wonder what would have happened! Your parents may only be trying to protect you...but you need to live life to its fullest and do what YOU want, not what they say....

Penny xxx

I agree with penny, but please be careful!!!

hmm-update. My mom woke me up this morning and said that I had got a letter that she thought was from David (a friend I have in boot camp) but wasn't sure. SHE HAD OPENED IT AND READ IT!!! This is pissin me off! She said "well I had to open it because of Everything going on right now" I am going to go crazy if I stay here any longer...I don't know what to do. I hate her!!!!! I really do!!! what should I say to make her stay out of my life??