shy, lonely and depressed! how the hell do i get a bf!!!!??

see above, pretty much explains my dilema.

well im shy so i will give you a virtual slap if you tell me to "just talk to people more" and i have a habit of seeing things in a negative light.... so please advice on how to get a guy would be helpful!

hiya, im shy like you too and it drives me insane when people say "just talk to people more" its hard for a shy person to do!! I used to feel really negative about everything, but thats changing now, i just stop negative thoughts, once i did that i didn't feel so depressed.
I know i'm not being helpful, but I got my boyfriend when I was least expecting it to happen. Love will find you. xx

As a girl with a lot of guy friends, I will tell you this: Just like we like guys with confidence, guys like girls with confidence. You need to learn to love yourself before anyone if going to give you the time of day. Try highlighting all of the things that you like about yourself and focus on them. Before even attempting to talk to people, you need to get to know all of the greats things about yourself that they should get to know as well.

The fact that you think there should be a simple solution is naive (I'm ready for my slap, but it's true and I pride myself on my brutal and blunt honesty). There is no simple answer in attraction or romance. I always think that the "friends first" method works very well. One of my best guy friends is now my boyfriend, and we're very happy.

I agree with Sunny. There is no other way that you can come out of your shell, unless you start to talk and mingle with more people. You have to show that you're confident..

thanks for the advice... firstly im not desperate for a bf... i just feel lonel cos all my friends are with someone....and i have lots of guy mates allready and the ones i fancy come to me for advice on girls they fancy so thats no use! And i have been single all my life and yeh i do enjoy it at times.. but i want a first kiss, i want someone to cuddle me!!! that doesn't make me needy...i have had problems in the past which have pushed guys away cos they thoght i was deressed but i got help and im much better now... but cumon do you lot not know how hard it is if your shy to talk to a guy you like!!!! whether your confident or not!!!

lilly, i know how you feel.
I am shy, i have not much confidence in myself and sometimes i feel lonely too.
I have only ever liked one guy seriously, we split 2 years ago and i cant find enough courage to talk to another guy. Its not only because i am shy, its because i loved my ex, i still do. But honestly, love will find you, when you get older you will feel less shy and more confident, give it time.
love ya and best wishes
Tara-Kay xx

hi. guess what, i too know how you feel... seems there are a lot of us. can i just ask, do you think its going to go away? i mean do you think you will get happier, less shy, and less lonely? because if you think you might get better i would def wait until you do before you look for a guy. although you may think he would make things better, but guys can be a lot of stress. i feel the same way (shy lonely depressed) and as much as i love my boyfriend i wish id waited until maybe i was feeling better, because he seems to be making it worse. think about that and maybe you should wait for a while.
Polly

I used to be shy, I used to have major issues getting girl interests. BUt that changed. The reason is I stopped hating myself, and being so negitive towards life. I know its hard to stop being shy, but one of the main points of being shy is self inadequacy. Well, for me, I just said fuck it, and stopped caring if others viewed me negitivly, I started to let myself hang out there socially, and just jumped, and surprisingly there were many people there that accepted me and caught me. if you just work on it yourself, it will happen to you aswell