ohmygosh ..help please!

i need advice. i just dont know what to do. im going crazy right now. ive never really "had" a relationship && i want one so very bad. i like a lot of people. people just dont seem to like me.

i was kinda "weird" in 4th-6th grade && im in 9th grade. im not weird anymore it was just a phase i went through. and now people dont like me because they see me as the old ericka. the one that was weird.

ive also noticed, guys that dont know me seem to really like me. but i never see them cuz they live like 30 min. away.

i just want a relationship at my school with somebody. how do i manage to get them to see the "real" me && not just the weird me??

loves.

ericka.

i would help you if i could....but im in the same boat you are.

all i can say is get out there and try to make new friends, get the "new" you out there..and soon enough the right one should come around and see ya...

i know going into highschool was an awesome opportunity for me....in elem. and jr high i was always really over weight and not a "kool" kid....but going into high school i had changed so much and just making new friends and changing your friendship with the old ones really helps.

it hasnt helped me too much in the relationship area....but soon enough if you make new friends, they could soon turn into more....

so yea just get yourself out there to the new and old friends!

well thanks for that advice. but im just really shy. so its hard for me.

trust me...im terribly shy too.

just talk to some people that sit around you in your classes...and soon enough youll have more friends.

i met a friend at the beginning of august....and just making friends with him ive met almost 20 people (literally) and made great friends with most of them....and a few of those people were guys that ive had crushes on. so anything is possible, by simply meeting one person.

so just meeting a couple different people can really open the doors to many new people.

just start out with a simple saying hey or asking them a questioin about somethign about class can start a conversation.

and i dont know if you go to church or not, but if you do, talk to more people there. youll make friends like you, and that go to different schools and therefore make more and more friends.

and being shy is ok, you can still make it work!

good luck!

hope i helped some and didnt ramble too much

haha thanks && you didnt ramble. i thought it was helpful. i really do wanna make new friends like you said. but some people are real shallow at my school and dont wanna know you. so yeah, its really kinda hard.

loves.

ericka.

just be yourself. i know that somethimes it is hard but that is what you have to do. i mean they have to know what to love before they can accually love right. so think about. make friends even if people are stupid and cant see your a good person then it not worth it. but i am sure there is some one who feels like you in some way. well i guess that is all i have to say. i hope i didnt confuse you more.

Emma

You know what I have noticed. People notice confidence. If you like yourself, people will like you. If you act like your worth seeing/hearing/ paying attention to, people will do all of those things willingly. Of course not to be too over-bearing and just rediculously cocky... But keep your head high, show yourself - the real, 'new' you- with a smile on your face. Be proud of who you are no matter what. Sooner or later it might just help your self-esteem where you get to the point that you really are proud to be yourself; and other people will want to know you. I don't know how much this will help, but it is something I have observed and I thought I could try helping you in some way. The best of luck to you, with everything!

..damn kids...ok your parents tell ya that bf's and gf's aren't good at a young age..i'm 19 and i've got a son on the way..but anyway...what your lookin for is a chilled attitude..people wanna kick it with someone that's chill and layed back...not someone that's all uptight...if your shy..don't let them know it..what they don't know can't hurt em..and you get points for lookin the part...so if ya do get nervous...jus chill...mellow out...take a couple breaths and see where ya get from there...

i totally agree with steph...

well thanks for the advice. ill try and use it!

Yeah, I get what you're talking about here. But if you're shy, make friends with shy people. That's what I do.