"I'll always be here for you" .. Yeah right ...

Don't you hate that?? When a friend says she will always be here for you no matter what, but when things start to get serious and too deep when you need them most, you're ditched? This has recently happened to me and I don't know what to do. Ive said ill change, but now ive figured that if she was a friend she would accept me for who ive become. Which of us is being a little selfish? If any ..

I don't think either of you are been selfish, You shouldn't have to change if you dnt want to put but on the other hand sometimes its difficultto people understand just how bad things can get. If shes your friend it will be hurting her that you are like this and there is nothing that she can do.

You need to talk to each other, thats if you both value the friendship and sounds as if you do.

We've talked numerous times, and just end up arguing. She's said to me that im too depressed and she doesn't want to hangout anymore. She's also made new friends. Ive given up talking to her, I guess that's it between us. Thanks for replying.

no worries.

Maybe she just needs to grow up a little.
Take care of yourself.

"You arent being selfish, and i know how you feel. Though i know most 12 year-old girls dont have to worry about their friend cutting or suicide, but i still have heard 'ill be here for ya, dont worry!' it hurts alot, and i know first hand.
but i know it'll happen, and i know there are others in the world who WILL stay by your side. i hope to find one..

DO NOT CHANGE FOR ANYONE. NOT MATTER WHAT. I dont go for that stuff. if someone cant handle your true personality, then they arent worth your friendship. "

I'm 16. Lol. Im torn between losing a friend but staying who I am, or changing myself and keeping her as a friend. I just don't know what to do anymore as ive tried so much to fix things and she just doesn't seem interested, and she knows how much she is hurting me. Ive dcided not to change, but still im torn. I guess only time can tell what wll happen.

Ohh you're 12. Ok ignore that last comment.

"Hmm....I've had that happen so many fucking times before. Stupid bitches. Email me chicka, beyond_bitch_33hotmail.com take care"

Ash, thanks. Ill give you an email sometime soon if that's ok. It just bugs me how much people can let you down. Its so unfair.

no one is being selfish. you shouldn't have to change for anybody....but yourself. as for your friend it was wrong of her to ditch you, but at the same time i don't blame her. i know that sounds mean, but let me explain. i was in a similar situation like this back when i was in middle school. my friend being the one in need, me being the one who promised to always be there. and i was. however, being around i realized was sucking alot of happiness out me. she made me depressed and i didnt like who i was becomming. i didnt ditch her. i just avioded her, as well as her problems, until i felt better. was it the best decsion no...it wasn't my finest hour. however, when you surround yourself with someone who is depressed, they tend to bring you down as well, and maybe that's what you were doing to your friend. now im not trying to place the blame on you. you probably can't help but be sad. at the same time though, you need to realize that some problems you may have, might be too overwhelming for your friends. just give her time...she'll come around...and if not. get professional help. because as much as a friend may promise to be there every step of the way...what kind of advice can they give besides " everything will be ok".......now im not trying to be a buzz killer. i just wanted to explain the reality we'll all have to face at one time or another. truth be told, if this friend of yours can't handle the problems of your life, it's either time to ditch her...or to ditch the drama.

Dominique, thanks that makes sense now. It hurts like hell but yeah ... it's makes sense as to what she has been doing now. Thank you.

It's true... When I think of the hours I have spent on people (not with the intention of getting it back, but still it'd be nice) I still find that when I am in need, I am completely alone. Self reliance is not always that easy... Still, will be there listening to them as I never want them to feel this.

The comments on my poems are often from my real life friends "I'm always here for you, love you so much" ...it is a massive farce.

People are self absorbed, deluded creatures.

You aren't selfish, not at all... Nobody deserves to be alone, but sadly you'll be severely disappointed if you depend on anyone but yourself.

Damn, that was a sweet message of hope, sorry, I truly hope things work out for you xxx

i think none of you is being selfish..theres just a boundary between how much a friend can take in. Some friends can help you with everything they can, maybe that was your friends stop. Im trying to not confuse you but i think i might. sry...i tried to help.

Well Jesus, you know how ti felt when Judus betrayed you .. this is kinda like that. Go figure. Jackass.