whats most important in a relationship

ok i know if i post this people will say he just wants you for sex but trust me im not naive i know that thats not what he wants but im starting to wonder ive heard that in a relationship sex is really important, and we have no problem with that area but he says its how he can show me he loves me and i tell him that i know he loves me already and i just wish sex wasnt so important to him even though im exactly like him im just not as aggessive about it like i can live without it what do you guys think im not sure i said this the way i would of like to but i'll give it a shot

"I can only express my love to you by having sex." I heard that one before. There are many ways he can show you that he loves you without having sex. Sex is important, but it is also complicated and can cause a lot of problems. Many people have been in sucessful relationships for years without having sex. You need to think about what you really want. If he really love you the way he says he do then he can wait until you are completly ready

i am completely ready its i dont know how to describe it and i really dont need lectures on how young i am ok lets say this, i jsut dont know why sex is so important to him. I wanna do it as much as he does it just bugs me that if every once in a while im not in the mood he wil be ok with it but then ask me in like an hour or so and he doesnt get it that so many people have relationships without having sex my parents never had sex before they got married and they are so in love, my therapist explained to me that once we have sex its so hard to stop but argg ha hha i dont know how to explain it

Get him a porno mag and you get a life away from what you feel are 'heavy' relationship issues at 16. You have all your future to figure that one out. ENJOY LIFE NOW WITH FRIENDS!!!

I read that the only way a guy can feel love is by sex, and that the only way a girl would have sex is if she feels love. I don't know but I think it's true, I don't think it has nothing to do with you being ready and you're not THAT young. Anyways, my point is that guys need sex to feel, not all guys are the same. trust me! So when the time is right maybe you'll see for yourself that guys dont need just sex! they have feelings too.....

mandii thank you , you answered my question, it was perfect, i wasnt wondering if i should have sex i want to , but thanks for helpin out guys it shows you care, but mandii hit it right on the button thanks so much guys

uh, SECURITY?

i already have been having sex with him he is 17 why do you assume he is 20 im not a slut we dated for a looong time before starting it and had a descsion because we both have been sexually abused and we didnt know how each other felt i talked to him about it and nevermind about this whole question help stuff

thanks s much for that, its true and thats what i will do....thanks josh finally someone who isnt giving me a lecture or asking wher my parents are its such a relief.

thanks sarah i think your totally right completely right

you dont know me so how do you know im not mature enough for it, even if i wasnt mature enough i had no choice in the first place but its just your opinion but thanks for trying to help anyways peace

heya, firstly im not gonna give you a lecture about sex, cos that would make me a hypocrite lol. I think guys like sex especially with their girlfriends because its their way of showing you they love you. Yeh its not the only way, but guys like to satisfy their girlfriends, and sex is a good way of doing that. Sorry if it doesn't make much sense, its complex. Maybe even ask your boyfriend about it, you may be surprised with the answer. xx

if sex is the most important thing to him, then tie him up and play with him :| lol jk!! i'm kidding. but i don't know. do you guys have enough or excell enough in other areas that if y'all didn't have sex, you'd still be together and as strong? ask yourself that. if not, then you have a problem. good luck!

I FEEL THE SAME WAY YOU DO, I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I WANT TO WAIT BECAUSE I FEEL IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO BUT I'M ALSO VERY CURIOUS. MY BOYFRIEND DOESN'T PRESSURE ME BUT I KNOW HE WANTS TO. OH GOD THIS IS SO HARD. WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO?

ive talked to him about it millions of times and actually i think i misunderstood, cause he doesnt mind if we dont have sex but WE'VE ALREADY HAD SEX so it notgs that im not ready its we had a big talk about it and i wanted to get married in the temple and he said that he couldnt handle not having sex for a year but i didnt know he said he would though as long as i loved him still but everything is worked out and totally fine we are in so much love thanks everyone that helped

NEMO.... if you dont think your ready dont do it, just cause he wants to doesnt mean that you have to , the first time my boyfriend asked about it he told me he wanted to but only when the time is right and only if i wanted to it made me feel no pressure so jus talk to him he needs to be a special time that you will smile when you look back on it not a regret