help me please im tearing myself up about this..

I use to go out with this guy, but things didn't go to plan ... Then i started going out with his mate, my ex didn't mind ... They both live a train journey away and i've only just started to visit regualary ... But then my ex came round and i thought it would be fine as he has a new girlfriend now, but all the feelings i had for him have come back ... I've told him this and he says he shares the same feelings but he doesn't want his best mate, his girlfriend or me or him getting hurt by anything ... And he doesn't want another heartbreak .. Please does anyone have any advice for me ... I love my boyfriend but i think i love my ex too ... And i'm always thinking about him.
...help...

I'm only 16 years old but you know its up to only you to choose who you want to be with.I mean, lets say your not goin out wit neither of them and they both came up to you and asked you out which one do you say yes too. Or name things you like about them both and who has the most is the one i believe...

That is true. Only you could have put it in a different way because that was pretty harsh. When you find love you will know. What you think is love right now is puppy love. You think you are in love but the truth is it's all in your mind. As a teen you can't be "in love" or at least it's very rare. Most of the time it's just puppy love. You break up, move on, then think you love your ex still. If you think you love two people then you're no "in love". You're 14 and have pleanty of time before you find true love. Trust me i know because i'm 14 as well. I havn't been "in love" but i have loved a guy but not in that way. He was my first love but ofcourse it wasn't true love. Just think about the guy you like more because truth be told, you can't love them both.

Hmm yeah i guess you're right but alot of people think they are "in love". Nomatter what you say, they never seem to get it through their heads. I don't even bother to tell people they aren't "in love" anymore because they won't listen.

thanx people for your help ... I havent been able to get on this site for a while.
But things have got worse ... Not the way i planned for them to go...
me and my ex kissed ... Wasn't the best thing to do ... And it was in my boyfriends house and we were all kinda drunk and my bf went outta the room and it kinda happened ... Now im all confused, and dnt kno what to do coz i dnt wana hurt my boyfriend coz i have feelings for him ... But i really wana be with my ex who i think about constantly...
btw the only reason we broke up was because my current boyfriend told me that he was cheating on me ... which wasn't actually true, but that was a time a go now...