Girls ask yourselves this question......

I don't want to appear dumb or naive, but why oh why do I keep seeing posts by so many girls asking the obvious questions after they have dated/slept with or shacked up with a total waster?

Tell me, tell me what attracts you to them?

My theory is this. A guy who is maybe shy intelligent and a little sensitive will hang back and hope and pray to meet a decent girl by chance or in some romantic or traditional way (whatever that is).

Alternatively, a guy who puts it around, is ruthless rather than sensitive, will approach you first and have no qualms about getting straight to the point- usually because what's in is trousers gets more use than what's in his head!

And so the girl is flattered by the approach and jaded chat up line. she giggles. He's in. The rest is history. He who came first was served first, while the good guys watched in the sidelines.

And so the dilemma begins due to what you've ended up with - i.e. 'Dear poems and quotes, my guys such a hassle to be with but |I love him' etc etc

I'd like to hear your alternative theories on your reasons for 'asshole attraction'.

your right. girls like attention i haev this theory. Girls will give sex to get love and guys will give love to get sex. its just the "hunter" nature but not ALL guys are like that. but yes grils are despreate for attention. A gril should have standurds and NOT lower them . if u lower them once u'll lower them all the time .

i heard something cool the other day, about 'good guys'
it sounded pretty cool:
"Girls don't notice the good guys until they get tired of bad boys"

just thought i'd share.

Yes, attention is important. and the boy too shy to make the first move just makes things complicated.

There's a difference between being assertive and being easy.

Wow, you girls have certainly got your heads screwed on!

Alexis: I like your observations - in fact they're all good.