My little brother

I am having a really hard time right now because my little brother is doing some stupid things in his life. The trouble is they are some of the dumb things I have done in the past. I am trying to help him, but to him I only seem like a hypocrite. It is hard, I know he needs to find his own way, but I don't have the heart to standby and watch him make bad decisions. I really don't know what do to anymore. I really love him, and we have been really really close, maybe even the closes ones in our family. I know this isn't an earth shattering problem, but some advice would be helpful. I care about my brother and it breaks my heart to see him doing what he is doing. I don't want him to make the same mistakes I made, and go through that mess because honestly it just about killed me and I wouldn't want to wisht that on anyone. Thank you.

-Tainted Mikochan

I honestly don't think you should feel like a hypocrit (sp?). Just because your trying to keep your brother from making the same mistakes you made doesn't mean you should feel bad.
You could tell your parent's and that might help him. But it could just push him further into whatever he's doing.
My best advice is to tell him you don't agree with what he's doing because you've been there and done that. Let him know you love him and you'll always be there for him no matter what he decides to do.
Sometimes you just have to let the mistakes be made and hope for the best.
Good luck~Holly

I have a kind of problem with my older brother like that because I can't stop him from falling so far. He doesn't realize how much he is influencing me. You have to sit him down one day anf explain how low you got how much it screwed you up and how much you regret it. Tell him your there for him and you don't want to see him make the same mistakes you did. Acknowledge that he might think your a hypocrite and say it but your a "hypocrite" that knows what they are talking about and how much it sucked to do what ever you did.
I'm not calling you a hypocrite at all though your more of someone with experience and right now you have to be your lil brothers guide to a better path and not the same path you suffered through.

Problem is he is younger, I don't want to hurt him by telling him my whole story. He told me I was his role model once, there is no way I could taint him with the truth of what I horrible person I was. I mean I tell him that I am worried, that I love him, I ask him questions and I let him know that he can always talk to me, but it just doesn't seem to be enough. I even mentioned it to my parents which is saying something b/c we don't talk. They didn't really have anything to say, the just kind of nodded.

-Tainted Mikochan

well my brother is my role model and he really messed up alot butif your his role model and he doesn't really know what you did don't tell him what happened to you but tell him what could happen

My suggestion:

Tell someone that can help immediately. Just think about it, you don't want to hurt your younger siblings, but what would happen if you don't get help? He/She will be making more ridiculous(sp?) risks that are unnessecary. Later in life, your younger sibling will come up to you and thank you for saving him/her from going down that same road you once were.

If you love someone enough, you should know that finding help is better than keeping a secret.

thank you everyone for your comments and imput. You gave me a lot to think about, and some good suggestions. Thanks again.

-Tainted Mikochan

uh, yeah, um, try to just use "I" statements. don't make it about blame, "you" statements.

Yeah, be his sister, not his mom. When I heard my brother cheated on his gf, I took a rolled up magazine and whacked his nose, "NO, NO." Cutely, and without force, but conviction.