What a woman wants...

Okay, this is probably going to strike some contradiction considering that a good portion of you people here are females.

What i want to know is how come a woman 90% of time is more attracted to some guy who will act all bad ass, cocky, moreless treat her like shit and least attracted to someone who is a real gentlemen. I know this is going to get some arguments, but i have seen it, tested it to some extent, and the final result was my above theory/statement. So just let me know what you people think of what i said, and possibly a reason why.
TTFN, Your friend, ---AL---

Well my point of view :)

Women are feminine and soft. They are emotional and they have a lot of feelings. They like guys who are cockier because they want a man who will be able to take charge. They usually fall for the cockier ones beause they want a boy who will be shy and soft around them. But we do not like too emotional men. I'vehad expirences where my past bf was a gentleman but he cried more than I did and it got annoying. So we prefer cocky guys but ones who will be nice to only us from time to time however, we do not mind being treated bad. Eventhough we act like we hate it, it gives us inspiraton. Why do you think there are so many sad love songs out there? Heh.
Well that's my point of view.
take care

Im my point of view, every girl want a rough neck. they want some one who could take charge and protect them if the situation present itself. We dont want someone who is more emotional then us, cuz trust me it is not attractive. And I have many friends who get treated bad and they still say. I guess they love the pain. And like the girl said if girls aways had someone who treated them good they would never be any sad love songs

True, i just find it funny that girls only look for a guy who treats them like a jerk, but expects that guy to be a sweet and kind and all that stuff. I mean, a girl can meet a gentlemen, whose not overly emotional, and just pass him right by, only because he wasn't an ass to her. To me, that doesn't make any damn sense.

My opinion is we like the attention we get from them and a girl likes someone who can protect them i like a guy that makes me feel protected.
And most of the time that guy starts out with a little sensitivity and it gets them a long way ... first impressions .. they say something we like and we fall ....
And because those guys put it out there that they like you. most gentlemen tend to be shy and hold back .... so we dont know if they like us or not ...

hmm... i dunno, i guess sometimes its hard... but i like guys who are tough, yet sensitive... not tough in a way like, being an ass to everyone all the time and stuff, or lots of muscles.. but someone who is strong in a sense that he's there for me and supports me, who will stand up for me or try to protect me from things he think will hurt me

i guess has to be a bit of both for a relationship to last? anyways... i've got a boyfriend who loves me, and that is already enough :)

-kelsie

i like tough guys but not mean guys, theres a big difference. some guys only use their strength when its necessary like if someones attackin their mate and they step in, or when someone gives pills to their friends 14 year old sister. i like those guys, not the ones who are just generally tough guys.

overall i prefer sweet guys, who treat women with respect and thats the general view of my girl mates too. they only really go for 'tough' guys for a bit of flirting or one night stands

I was with a "bad boy" for a few months but that didn't work out..but i was attracted to him because he was the complete opposite of me..im shy and a girly girl, he was loud and confident.
Then my now bf, he's a bit of a bad boy and a good boy. He's shy, kinda romantic, but can be fairly cocky, but at the same time he knows when to be serious. Also, he can be an a$$ to everybody else, but hes still all sweet with me :-) but atm hes in my bad books so grrr xx

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How can you tell us we need to grow up mentally
When the situation goes both ways.
If we need to grow up mentally what your excuse?

i don't know. i don't go for really cute guys, and i still end up with assholes. i guess you just can't tell anymore.

I dont really look for cocky guys...they jus sorta find...me. Iguess i attract cocky a**holes....i dunno but i dont look for them..in my opion i dont want a...wimp. but i want a guy who treats me right and holds me tight when things get rough...and if he has any problems i want him to come to me and talk....but i haven't found one...looks dont matter to me...but i still have no luck finding nice guys...and plus there isnt many good guys that i see out there these days..thats the way i am....peace

I like who i like, I don't know, sorry i couldn't say anymore....

cause we're pretty stupid at times and we always want what we can't have. theennn when that guy hurts us we turn back to the guy who's the sweetest gentleman. we're blind and we don't think right. it's quite sad :( we should really try to think better and consider the guy who treats us right.

though u may not call me a 'woman' i am female..lol. and my point of view is diifferent than alot of other females here. i mean HELLO i dont NOT want to be with some one who treats me like dirt. i wan to be with a nice sweet guy who knows how to make me laugh. if with that he is tough around others and can protect me thats fine.. but to me the first thing is more important. :D
♥ CheRRy♥

Well to be honest with you...most girls go for the jerks, because most guys ARE jerks. It's hard to find that good guy, and 1/2 the time we'll walk past them because it's so engraved in our heads, that all men are jerks in their own way. If that makes any sense at all. Lol.

I've been through my jerk stage. It sucked. I thought the guy was the best thing that ever happened to me, and he ended up useing me, cheated on me, and it was just a mess. I learned from that though and now...I'm with a GREAT guy. He's amazing. Some girls DO find the good guys. You just have to keep trying.

satinrisse and angelina taylor:

I had to check your profiles out because your responses sounded like they'd come from someone older.

It's good to know that some girls have what women once died or chained themselves to railings for - and that is the power to see through the shit in a male dominated world. I applaud you both!

A girl doens't want a guy who is too sensitive, for that she'll turn gay and go with a girl. That's why guys are called guys. Cause they're supposed to be tough and the opposite of us. That's what a girl has best friends for.

Some girls just need to grow up. I know that I'm only 19, and that I myself still need to grow up, but there are so many girls younger then me that fall for those guys that treat them like shit, sorry, and think that he's "the one" because in the end of it all...he says I love you. And it melts any young girls heart. Like I said before, it did mine as well.

And for those good guys out there that wonder why they can't get a girl...think about it...do you really want someone that just goes from jerk, to jerk, to jerk? Obviously there is something not right going on in their head, and they are going to think that since you ARE so great, that you ARE a jerk. Think about it. Just wait...most girls do mature. And as you get older, the right one will come around that will see the good in you, and you'll be very happy together. Just hang in there, and don't give up hope. Once you do, you're just like the rest of them.

i thinks its cause most girls like someone who will protect them and stand up for them and quiets guys dont do that so much, also the cocky bad ass ones are those who will catch your attention and make youlaugh even if they treat you bad so long as at the end of the day they say they love you with a sweet smile you are willing to forgive them. . . i know it dosent make sense im a girl andi dont even get it lol

well al i think your wrong well yes i love thugs but when they start to treate me like shit they have to go i love gentelman too ok but right now thugs are in my heart but my boyfriend is kind off a thug but he is really sweet and caring with me but yes some girls like those type of guys because their stupid they dont value gentelman but me i do iam thankful to god for my boyfriend well bye

Well i am a girl and i think we like "bad boys" cos they are stronger than the no affence but woses out there and like animals we look for the strongest mate as you will

Personally, I have a thing for the shy and sweet guys. I would fight too much with an arrogant guy, I won't put up with him if he treats me like crap.

well i'd accualy take anyone roght now i dont know i just want a guy and yeah i think that i'd want someone who i know can like protect me but like she said it's really immature too make a fool a your self for nothing .. it's just stupid some people are stupid enought too laught at them but that only encourages then too continue doing wath they do ike i have a friend and she's not really a bully but she makes fun of some other girl and last week that other girl stood up for her self and said why are you doing this to me and she said cuz it makes people laught well thats really only thinking about her she never tought about how the other girl felt about it and since the she kind of stopped
-mell-xo-

if i like a guy is cuz there's somethin in him that made me fall for him..i don't choose them under "sweet" or "tough" guy prototipes..u never know how they really are until u get to know them..even the "tough" ones have their own shy side or somethin.. "sweet" ones may not be as sweet as u might think they r.