Repeating Cycle

Do you think if a person is raised a certain way and around a certain type of people that they are destined to repeat the ways of their rasing...for example if you were abused as a child when you get older will you become the abuser or if you raised around druggies will become a druggy?

PLZ tell me what you think

I think it depends on the person, in most cases yes but in some they grow stronger from it. Like David Pelzer(or something like that) the auther of "A Clild Called It" and the rest of those books. I think it depends on if the child ever gets help too, if some one reaches out tp them, it could save them, and others.

JBN

Thanks for your comment...
I agree if someone reaches out to them it can make all the difference
But I can't help but think about those who don't get help are they just doomed? And to few get helped or get stronger from it.
I guess what I'm kinda getting at is how can we stop the cycle.
I really enjoyed your comments....Does anyone else have an imput?

I agree i think it depends because if you want to be better than what your"parents" ( i am guesssing) are you know that and you'lkl stop that i tell my self every day ill never be like them and i pray i wont!
and the dave pelzer books are awesome if you havent read them and his brothers book A brothers Journey by Richard Pelzer is good too

XXX emogirl

We just had this talk in my Criminal Justice class. Weird. Anyway...I'll say the same thing I said in class. It's all choice. Just because you were raised one way, doesn't mean that you will turn out that way as well. The only way that you can avoid going down that same path is if you yourself decide to not do it. Yeah it will have some kind of impact on the rest of your life, but only you can decide to make it have a good impact, or a bad one. It's all by choice.

"if you allways do what you've allways done then you'll allways get what you've allways got"

kind of relavent, i think that a lot of your life is dictated by your upbringing but on the other side of the arguement as a child you will always see the bad points in your parents and try not to emulate them so yeh a very interesting question.

It goes both ways like poeple have been saying. You learn from your parents, so you can often pick up what they teach you, sometimes without understanding it is wrong. However, like Bob and others have said, you can brake the cycle and in the end you are your own person. When I was little, back when things were on good terms with my mother I used to tell her that she was the best mother in the world, and she would say I only thought that because she was the only one I ever knew, or she would say something like, "I hope you grow up to be better than me." Parents teach us a lot, but we can also learn from the mistakes on how not to be in life was well as how to be, even parents are not perfect.

-Tainted Mikochan

You are influenced into becoming whatever it is you see.

That's where the phrase "monkey see, monkey do" comes from.

Luckily, there are some people above that influence rather than being below it.

Well my brother is a druggy + drug dealer....
My Father is an alcoholic
And my mother will bring me somewhere drop me off and leave for hours......

Hopefully I will never become any of those things.....I have been influenced by them but it matters on your will to whether you end up like them or not.

Bob...help me out and fill me in a little on what the book is about...lol.

Fallen Angel, I do not think that there is a cycle.

(Bleh you read why)

The Wingless
I wasn't saying that if you were treated a certain way you'll end up that way. I was simple asking a question therfore I did not give my opinion. So how can disagree with me???

oh haha. sorry.

its ok...lol

Ya I don't know how I ended up how I did. My father use to hunt, and he still fishes and I use to go with him all the time. But then when I was about nine-ish I had this like epiphany where I knew that hunting ect. was just wrong. And I told him so and he stopped hunting after I had a tantrum over a deer he killed. I think society influences people though to some degree, but then you get those people who are dead set on being unlike society. I suppose that is still being influenced huh?

Again...I have to say that what you do with your life, is choice.

Take my 2 older brothers. They are my moms. Not my dads...so 1/2 bros. They had a hard life...their biological father left them and my mom, then the next guy ran off right after the divorce and they haven't heard about him since, and so when my dad came along, he couldn't adopt them like the second guy did. My oldest brother has made his life worth living. He just built his own house, got a new truck, him and his wife are trying to have a baby, they have a great life and I love him a lot. My other brother however has been in and out of jail his whole life, had to live with my grandparents because for the most part my mom was a single mother, and she couldn't give him the attention that he needed and he was still in and out of jail, and it wasn't till about 4-5 years ago that he got out on probation, and is just now starting to turn his life around...and he's 33ish years old. I've only met him once, and I live about 2 hours away from my oldest brother and know everything about him.

Choice people. It's all choice.