wut do you guys think? help!!

ok, i was with a guy for almost a year and we just broke up a little less than 2 weeks ago. i broke up with him because he wasn't comforting and i was going thru so much and it hurt so bad cuz it was like he didn't care! and when something would come up between me and him, he wouldn't talk about it.
but i realize i was wrong to put it all on him when i was upset, because thats too much for him! i feel real bad and he said it's wrong to just think he's always gonna take me back when i leave him. because i do always come back.
so now he wants to still talk and see eachother. but when we talk, one day he'll be sweet, the next he's quiet, it's always something different! and when we see eachother, i keep a distance because he's the one that wants to be just friends but then he always grabs my hand and kisses me and all that but then says he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now.
so is this wrong? i mean, i feel like he wants me but also wants to be single and is trying to have both!! but then he could wanna just have a loving relationship but not date so i can't leave him. i dunno! what does it sound like to you guys?

ok first of all i think he loves you but he doesnt want to be in a relationship cuz u keep leaving and u shouldnt have dumped him right away u should have said u rno being comforting im going through a tough time please stick with me for a while soon it will be over ... or you can say u r being distant u r not trusting not talking .... if this continues we might have to break up.... also have u considered the possibility that since u were going through sooo much u might have exaggerated that he was acting wrong perhaps?

One thing I have learned about guys, they are either just as scared of love/committment or any feelings as girls are; and most of the time even more scared than we are. Having such strong feelings for someone is really hard, and makes someone see things ina different way. Some of us go crazy, thinking of all the possibilties, being paranoid of a broken heart, and trying to keep our guard up to keep our heart safe - but we just can't do it because we love too much...
Well, by how you described him, he sounds Alot like my boyfriend, and that just means that he really is scared of getting hurt. He loves you, but he wants to (and is) deny it, because that way you won't be able to hurt him. He may not be being that open, but a relationship is based upon trust, so when he's not talking about things - you either need to talk to him about how you feel, or just trust his instincts, and move along with him. Don't blame it on him, and I know it's a little too late now, but... Don't break up with him either. lol. Love is a two way road, if you want him to be there for you, you need to be there for him.
Anyway, point is, right now it seems like he does have feelings for you, he's just frightened. He's probably put up his wall to protect himself from another rejection, but at the same time the love in his heart is trapped behind that wall...

*sigh* I'm trying my best to only see one side, and to stick with one point, but so many different ideas are in my head at the moment, and I don't even know if any of the above made sense. So I'm just going to wish you lots of luck, and leave while I'm still speaking ze inglish.

agree with both of you
Very nice steph :) I like the 2 way road analogy

THANK U ALL SO MUCH!!! IT'S LIKE REALLY, I DON HAVE ANYONE TO TALK TO ABOUT THIS!! BUT OUR RELATIONSHIP NOW IS BAD!!! I CAN TELL HE HAS PUT UP A WALL TO HIDE HIS HURT FEELINGS AND ACTING ALOT DIFFERENT AND I'M MAD ABOUT HIM TREATING ME LIKE JUST SOME GIRL! AND I TOLD HIM THAT AND HE SAID SORRY AND THAT I'M NOT JUST SOME GIRL AND THAT HE'LL TRY TO TREAT ME BETTER. IT'S ALL SO CRAZY!!

Guys don't like to talk about stuff, whether it be their feelings or whatever..they hate that kinda stuff. If a girl is upset usually she wants to "vent" to somebody, and them just letting her "vent" makes her feel LOADS better. A guy, likes to do his own thing, he doesn't like talking, he likes to think it through, work it out by himself. You're probably wondering where this theory came from..a combination of "men are from mars women are from venus" and my boyfriend. And its true!