too self consious

umm i was just wondering if anyone knows anything about how im feeling or anything because im really stressed out and ive self harmed over it but you dont want to no bout that so never mind
ok umm
i have a really low self estem and it gets me really upset and its really stupid
it dosnt happen around people i dont know or i know really well, just around people i half know
what happens is;
i dont go up and talk to them because if they dont like me it will annoy them
i cant say i feel upset or self harm because then they might think they have to like me or be nice to stop me self harmming and getting upset
i get paranoid eg. say i went up to someone and hi and they said Oh sorry ive got to go, id think oh they must hate me
and i cant tell anyone how i feel

lol this sounds really stupid dosnt it, sorry : ( its tricky to put it into words
Mexx
o and just for the record im not unpopular im not really popular, im just .... me
o and i no i spelt conscious wrong sorry

I know how you feel, when I was young I mean really young, like 10 years ago, I had a self-esteem level of 0 or -1. I really hated the world and life in general, and I am still kinda suffering from it today, but I got better, it was hard and took a long time but I got better. What I’m trying to say is that everyone feel this way once in a way, what matters in life is that we all have fun and live to the fullest extent of it. I know this sounds weird but you have to understand, none of your ideas are stupid, just look at Columbus, people thought his idea of the world being round was stupid, but is it?

I know how you feel, I think most people do too. Self-esteem, like butterfly wings, once touched, they never get off the ground. Just remember, all is vanity and vexation of spirit, continue to do whatever makes you come alive.

Yeah I know how you feel, I feel pretty much the same way and it is so hard to accept yourself. I majorly suffer from it and can't do anything about it. It loses me friends a lot too as im so insecure. It's horrible.

i'm exactly the same way. and it's a terrible feeling.

i'm here if you ever need to talk. my advice is horrible, but i know it's not good to keep things bottled up, so anytime you need to talk or vent, PM me.

This is so true ^ i guess if we love ourselves, there is no way of not being happy... But you have to remember that although you may be strong enough to take it when you are not accepted by people, others aren't. People get weakened by sad or traumatising things that happen to them, and when they find themselves not coping anymore, they get drawn into the addiction of self-harming. It's not nice, but that doesn't mean we have to pretend it isn't true. It is, and we have to try and deal with it...

Me - Gawd you are such an amazing person, and I really cannot believe you can't see it. You have a lovely personality, you are really pretty, what more could you ask for!? Confidence, I guess... You just have to realise how lovely you really are - nobody hates you! You have a heart of gold, you just need to see it...

Polly xXx

sorry i dont mean it to happen it just does
sorry

Oh my dear friend here is some advice, this worked for me, the first thing you have to do is to stop saying sorry. I know what you’re thinking but hear me out. You’re different from everyone else and you have to realize that you will offend some one now and again, but you must be proud of what you say and do. I am just raking my mind to find new ways to put it but I am having trouble but any how it still worked for me and there is still a lot more I had to do but this is how it all started.

This might sound crass, but try reading good books on other people's success stories and ways in which other people have triumphed in the face of adversity - also books on quotations and or poetry help feed the soul. Good luck.

I am not really very good at giving advice, but this is a topic i know alot about.
A few years ago I was self-harming and I was really conscious about myself and i found it hard to talk to people, i was shy and lonely.
But now a few years on, although self-harm is part of my past i am alot more takative, I can be myself without worrying what people might think.
But if you find it hard to go up to people, i'd suggest you start with some goals, make a goal to talk to at least 1 new person each week then build it up to a day. It will be hard a t first but soon you'll be talking to every new person you meet.
Hope this helps and if you want to chat about anything, including self-harm, email me, i will always listen to what you have to sat and I will not judge you.
love Tara-Kay
xxx
Take Care
xx

I know pretty much what thats like, everyone is different, but I can relate to what you have said.

what daniel said is really great advice, it sounds hypocritical when I say it, but it's true that you shouldn't appologise all the time for just existing. I think confidence just takes a little practice, once in a while look up from the ground and look around you. I'm trying to do just that, and I admit it doesn't work all the time, but if you can just do something small every day to boost your confidence eventually it will add up.
Good Luck
*VioletRaven*

Woh, you should totally listen to daniel, he talks some sense lol...
You know I'm rubbish at advice thea, and im being so hypocrytical trying to tell you about confidence bla bla bla... I just really want to help you, and i get so frustrated that i cant... I really wish you will find happiness some day... Listen to the people on this site, they are all angels (well mostly, hehe)
Speak to you soon, :-)

lol thankyou polly
by the way your brillant at giving advise
ive been trying what you guys have been saying but when i see someone i half no i cant think of anything to say to my shyness carrys on
mexx