Rules of Attraction/Compatibility!!!

Rules of Attraction/Compatibility!!!

A Good Rapport: Having a harmonious relationship -with give and take-wherein communication flows freely and the parties involved have a mutual understanding of one another and relate well.

Mental Chemistry: it is important to a relationship and its survival to have mutual mental stimulation, to be mentally stimulated by your partner, that the parties involved are mentally compatible and able to communicate on a mental level. When the passion dies down and animalistic desires stop being the driving force of your relationship, that relationship has to be sustained in other ways, communication being one of them, and if you're bored by your partners mental aptitude, their ability to effectively carry on a conversation, you're soon to be bored, by them, thusly, you must have some sort of mental rapport, chemistry, to carry your relationship, when the intoxicating highs of love wane, die down!!!

Physical Attraction/Chemistry: that the person you are involved with be someone that you find physically attractive and by whom you are physically roused, stimulated, that this person be someone you have a physical attraction to and for and find stirring.

A Mutual Affinity for one another: that you both have a mutual/shared attraction, liking, of one another.

An Emotional Connection: that you have strong feelings of love, caring, devotion, and kinship, toward each another.

Amorous feelings of Attraction/Affinity toward one another: that you're strongly attracted to one another, with feelings of sexual love, desire, and affection, that you're enamored of each other.

Sexual Compatibility: that you and your partner be on a similar sexual level, that your affinity of the sexual be in and of the same range, and your sex drives be in close proximity of one another's.

A Soul Kinship: that you share a likeness of soul, spirit, being, that your essential essence be similar, and you possess a spiritual connection, a compatibility of souls.

These are the rules of attraction/compatibility, as I see them. If you agree, disagree, or feel some rules are missing, were left out, let your voice be heard. Feel free to add some additional or comment on the existing…

Can I ask what is the point of this thread?

Point of thread is enlightenment. Some people could use such relationship wisdom, as basic rules of compatibility and attraction. As someone said once, in response to reading these basic rules, "too many people have a laundry list of material qualities and if that is not met, will disregard even the most stirring incidences of true compatibility and transcendent attraction". The point I would make is how many of us talk about wanting a worthwhile connection with someone, but have no idea of what would make up such a connection and without the sound knowledge of such, just end up looking for these connections within the shallow veneers and not looking much past that and then end up wondering why what we fell in love with "suddenly" lost all of its luster!!!

Sunny it's knowledge based upon observation and introspection in looking at life, love, and relationship. It's like the male or female that you find incredibly hot, attractive, but they don't stir you in any other ways and soon you find yourself just bored with them, because there just wasn't enough else there. There are certain people whom you just have a synergy with and being with, around them just fits, works, and it's this wonderfully stimulating give and take relationship, and then there are those who had that one thing or two you found attractive about them and past that you're left struggling for things that make it work, worthwhile, and keep you stimulated. I just sat back and took a look at the things that made for a strong, long lasting relationship, outwardly and introspectively examining what they were.

And Sunny, to your question as to whether there are rules, I'd say no there are no set rules. We all seem to make up our own, but there are sound guidelines that we can follow to better our chances for something more worthwhile, of finding a relationship that can last long term, and these are some of those guidelines that could be followed. What I have posted are some things that factor into a happy, harmonious, union. Now, a relationship does not have to encumbrance all these factors to make it a happy and harmonious union, but the more of these factors you have, the greatest your chances of one!!!

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