Former Cutter- Same Problem, Help

I recently opened up to my friend about my old cutting habbits that I used to have a year and a half ago, I told my friend about this one month ago. Now whenever someone mentions cutting (you know, those cruel jokes like "im gonna go slit my wrists now" or "look at this scratch, it looks like I cut myself eh") I get extremely nervous and can't even look at the friend I told when the conversation turns to that subject (we're together a lot because shes one of my best friends).

I don't know how to overcome this nervousness and insecurity. please help:S:S and possibility give me some ideas so I don't get so tense when the subject comes up and shes around...

talk to her about it.. u didnt tell her to make jokes about it u told her to help u .. i know what u feel i told my freinds stuff once i regrt i told them they started jokes and stuff... try to talk to here she may understand and if she loves u and do care about u shell stop... good luck

oh no... its not her making the jokes... its other ppl... i just get uncomfortable because she knows about it.. and i donno

Maby talk to your friend and ask her when people start to say the jokes, for her to bring something else up. To change the subject, And jus tell her you dont feel too comfortable being around people who joke about it.

Best of luck !

- natz x0x

OK I think I understand your problem. It sounds like that when ever the conversation starts, or jokes at that manner, about cutting, you are afraid that your friend will say that you use to do it, and if that is the problem, the solution is easy, you just talk to her and ask her not to tell anyone about it, and I am sure she will understand since she is your best friend. Don't worry it should all work out, and I am positive she will listen.

thanks for all the help:)

i was wondering if anyone else had any ideas on how i can just ease the tension on those situtaions where I feel extremely uncomfortable (its like as soon as cutting is brought up I get nervous because she knows, and I don't want her to feel sorry for me) is there anything I can do without talkin to her about it...

(i really hate talkin about cutting, its hard for me)

Ha, I have a smilar problem. I was a cutter, but I just don't know what to now. Every reference to cuts, knives, ect, and I just go crazy. Their are comments about it all the time and it is really hard to get over cutting because it is everywhere. I hear jokes about it, and comments but it's more than that. In orchestra the other day my ex. took is violin bow to his wrist and moved it back and forth yelling, "look, it's the emo violin!" I remember I got really pissed at him b/c he knew I was a cutter and he was once too so I tallked to him about it. He said he had every right to make fun of emo kids and I said that I had every reason to be offended. I know, this is going into my own thing a bit, but I guess I was trying to say I have a similar proble, and have no clue how to deal with it.

-Tainted Mikochan

I HAVE THE EXACT SAME PROBLEM sorry for the caps but i thought i was the only one haha ... my friend gives me this look like..."ughh do i laugh at the jokes...or do i not....and shes looks down on me at the time like she is ashamed these people are making fun of it and yet she is friends with a FORMER serious cutter" yeah but i just through it behind me and pretend it never happens cuz what else are you gunna do ? u know

exactly the same as me ...happens to me evrytime as my friends think its funny that i sused to do and dont think i still do ....oh well if it annoys you that much just yell at them bcuz them knowing is worht you not having to feel that uneasiness

XoX 2moroNEVAcame

I understand. I suppose i said things like 'this is sooo dull im gonna slit my wrists' cos its just an expression but it was only when i had actually done it that it dawned on me what it really meant. Im glad that i have found i am not alone because now its really uncomfortable when people say things like that-however harmlessly. I dont get cross or think badly at them for saying things like that but its justs cos they dont understand and dont mean it.
It is difficult when people say things like that and i am with the few people who know because you still have to sort of laugh along yet know you are being a hypocrite. I have told my friends how awkward it is when the subject comes up and they are fab- they understand that and always try to change the subject for me. Im sure your friend will do the same if you ask. Good luck.

i know cause people dont care to understand