what can you do???

  • ♥Leah♥
    18 years ago

    i need help. me and best friend was both spun out (on drugs), but then i got into some trouble and got sent to rehab. i gave in and admitted that i needed help and i been clean almost a year now. but during my struggle to come back from my living hell into reality i lost my best friend (we had been friends since like kindergarden) i didn't see her for almost 6 months because she was bad off still. well some really bad s h i t happened to her and i was the person she ran to.
    well i met a boy right after i got clean and we been together ever since and we're getting married in september. and since my friend has been coming around he's been real protective cuz he don't want me goin back to my old waysand he thinks that she will lead me there. but i can't just turn my back on her, but i don't want to lose him for helping her.
    last week i snuck behind his back to hang with her and she told me she was pregnant and that she needed me for emotional and moral support, that i'm the only person she can trust. now i can't tell my b.f cuz he'll get mad cuz i was with her and he want understand at all.
    now i don't know what to do. wil some on please help me? please. i am so lost about everything. i mean what's suppost to be more important the guy i love or my best best friend?
    and just like my bf would say, she turned her back on me when i didn't see her for all those months, but i cant hold that against her cuz she was spun out. will someone please help?

  • Juls
    18 years ago

    ok the way I look at it is and always looked at it...

    Best friends will always be there in life,
    boyfriends you know will be there but in some cases you cant come to them. Best Friends are your backbone, your support system, boyfriends are that in a way but I mean if your bf spazzs on you for talking to ur best friend well...I hope you know he isnt real sypathic for you or her. I dont know if that gives you any advice or help but thats the way I think about it.

    ~Juls~

  • **Just Her**
    18 years ago

    actually well said juls... to add onto that... if ur boyfriend loves you should understand that she needs you. i mean friends are friends, there almost like family. and even tho we got older and start getting married and having a family, we can't just keep forgetting about our friends. think about it: how hard would it have been to grow up without friends? you wouldnt of been able too, cuz they help you grow. Their important, like I said, just like family. your boyfrend needs to realize that as much as you love him, you've known your friend all your life and she needs you right now. you should definately talk to him about this.
    good luck

  • Alex Marlatt
    18 years ago

    The way I see it, is that friends are important, they are the people you turn to when crap piles up on you (not literally). And in turn they turn to you when they are in deep. Best friends are almost like brothers or sisters, they are almost family. Him asking you to not help her is well, like saying "right, you can't see your sister again." He should trust you not to revert to drugs, and he should let you be friends with who ever it is that you want to be friends with. I'm sure he is a good guy, but he really does need to lay off her just a bit. Just ask him to, and tell him your reasons, then give him your assurances that you are off the drugs for good. Good luck mademoiselle.
    - Alexander K. Marlatt

  • ♥Leah♥
    18 years ago

    thank yall so much for caring. i have talk to him about it. he told me that he sees where i'm coming from and that he's gooing to try to understand better. he said that he realizes how i fell about her and that he didn't want to hurt me esp. over something that was abviously so important to me. than he said that he wished i wold had talk more in detail about this with him earlier instead of geeting mad and yelling (which i did). thanks for yalls help and support.