Trust

I was wondering, many loving relationships fall becauseof two things: Cheating and Money.

Cheating goes on along the lines of flirting, text messaging others of the oppisite or even same sex.

While money goes along the lines of joint accounts, credit card payments. That kind of stuff.

But do you trust your partner enough with your money, and do you trust your partner not to look around for more tail?What do you think.

If not, won't the very foundations of the relationship crumble. Because trust is a huge thing....

Trust of course must be earned, to be solid enough to endure.

Money should have nothing to do with a loving relationship, so say I...the guy with no kids and limited responsibility!

Flirting is a healthy expression of life...and shouldn't be supressed within the confines of a relationship...it's when you stop flirting to please someone else you are in trouble...because repression of anything sexual is bad news all round.

trust me...i'm a drummer to the beat of life.

I can say that flirting is quite good....

But I think that you will be in big problem, if you flirt while you are on the relationship. I mean, c’mon if you are looking at other girls, when you are suppose to be in love with one woman. It shows your true feelings to the person you love.

That you don’t love her, as well as you think.

As for money, if you can’t trust your own aficionado. Tell me who can you actually trust?

But then of course, many a relationships have died, due to cheating and money…Or am I wrong?

Why do you think I am STILL single .... trust is a VERY BIG issue for me.

--Sher

LOL: You know what Bob, you are absolutely right. I do not trust myself to stay in school if I get involved in a seriouse relationship.

Right now me education comes first and I am happy with that decision.

--Sher

I'm naturally an anti-flirtist when in relationships.

That may seem like an odd statement to everyone here, because I'm so flippantly flirty on the boards half the time, but in truth and in person I'm nothing of the sort. Everyone but my lover disappears, and I barely even acknowledge other guys. It's just how I'm wired I guess. I absolutely hate when that's not reciprocated, because I feel disrespected. I think that when you're truly in love with someone the urges for other peoples attention get less and less, and that nothing matters more than each other. If that's not how you feel once it's longterm, I dont think you should be together.

Money is a tricky one. Too often love of money is misinterpreted as love of a person. Money will make people do things they'd never normally do. It's the most important key to survival in the world for most people, whilst love is a game they use to get it.

Okay so what do you do when you trust them,but they dont trust you because one mistake you;ve made teo years ago

Either earn their trust back, knowing you may never redeem yourself, or cut your losses and move on.

Trust is something earned...

Trust is nothing but stupid feelings.

I'll be honest, it comes out of love, love is a useless feeling, so why the hell trust someone only to know they'll hurt your feelings.

appologies, I'm just angery all the time.

People cannot gain anything without sacrificing something, you must present something of equal value to gain something. -FMA-

^^^BS

Wow lots of anger in the room.

Think of the deathbed scenerio. You are lying there looking over your life, and i garantee you will regret every chance to had to trust and love someone that you didn't take.

So quit being little scaredy cat love kids and just get out there...

GET YOU ARSE KICKED BY LOVE!!! HA HA

Steve: This is a place to discuss about trust. Not about me not keeping a girlfriend. And if you must know. I am a flirtatous guy so I guess you are right. I don't keep girlfriends. Just playmates.

Love is bittersweet at best, but you'll never FEEL better than when it's good and you'll never come to grow and understand life and people better than when your heart has been broken.

Trust, there is no relationship without it. It will not last. If you cannot trust your companion, then you shouldn't be with him'her at all.
Point Stated.

-*-Cherri-*-

There nothing wrong with a little healthy flirtation.
It's like an inate part of my essence. Those who know me know me to be a charmer. A guy I worked with once called me (said I was like) peanut butter, referencing the fact that I could spread it thick and was really smooth in doing it. Flirtation is just a dance and just because you dance with someone that doesn't me you have to go home with them, it obligates you to nothing. Flirtation also serve as an ego boost. It's the "I still got it factor". It can provide you with positive energy. It can help to arouse your amorous passion that may have gone a little stale in the relationship. It's a good thing, if you can understand that it's only playful banter and nothing of substance like your relationship. It can be done without it leading to the things that would distroy your relationship (i.e. sex and such). It's just a matter of impluse control.

Flirtation is fine untill the line gets crossed, and then there is no going back.

I will always refuse to have joint funds.... Its not that im tight or anything but I've seen so many relationships crumble due to trust issues about money. The healthiest relationship Im witness to, both parties have seperte bank accounts etc and neither knows the others details, they are very much in love and pay half of everything. You dont need to have everything together.

As far as flirting goes, Im not a naturally flirtatious person but ny gf is. At the end of the day, as long as it stays as innocent flirting then it doesn't bother me. People can yearn for my girl, dance with her and have a good old flirt but at the end of the night, she's coming home with me. Im proud that shes confident in herself and if other people want her then thats their tough luck coz she's with me. I think trying to repress a partners sexual expression is more likely to encourage them to cheat than if you understand that they might be flirting with someone but coming home with you.

wow do relationships really end because of test messaging?

i agree trust is huge. a lot of people cheat and it is ridiculous. but its also human nature. we cant help admiring someone that needs to be admired. thats where trust is important. i know couples who can talk about how some other people are hot, etc. but they are still together.

money i cant really say anything about.