Losing Hope...

is it bad that it's been about 2 months since my boyfriend and i broke up...and i`m still not over him?
because all i do is think about him and what we did together. i try not to, i really do. but everything reminds me of him.
will i ever get over him? because at this point...
i`ve lost all hope.

Lauren....i understand. It takes time, but you will get over him. It took one of my friend a long time to get over her ex and it took me a long time to get over mine. Now i'm over him and have moved on. I found someone who i think is more my type, which you already know about. You can't let this get to you. What was the reason you broke up? Guys come and go. You just need to think hard about things and realize you will find someone better. When you break with a guy you really care about, things are hard to deal with. You need to realize it's not gonna go away, but you can move on. Take your time. Everyone knows that break ups are never easy to get through. Good luck.

actually, HE broke up with ME. that`s what makes it worse. but i don`t really know why.
but the DAY after we broke up, he went out with this SL.UT.
i`m so mad that he ruined our 5 month relationship for a 2 week fling. he didn`t even like her, he just wanted some.
uhhhhhhhhh
i just wanna be happy again...
but thanks for your help :)

I know how you feel hun. You'll be ok. A couple of years ago my boyfriend of like 9 months broke up with me because I told him that I didn't want to have sex with him anymore. So he broke up with me and dated one of my old good friends. It was hard...and I missed him a hell of a lot. But...you WILL move on if you put your mind to it. It will be fine. Promise.

I know exactley how you feel...or at least i use to....my boyfriend last year broke up with me cause he just wanted to be friends, and honestly you know how long it took me to get over him......8 months, and you know i still get a little butterfly feeling when i see him still...cause you know he was my first love....but we both moved on, and me and his girlfriend of course do not get along, and my ex with my boyfriend do not get along, even though i wish me and him could HAPPEN again, its not, and that quote is true, " if you love someone let them go" cause all you want to do is see them happy or at least thats what i want, even though you may think "i will only be happy with him" trust me there are better guys in the world and you will find someone out there

we all understand that it hurts when u break up with someone..
its one of the worst feelings to experience! eps when he splits it off with you for someone else! but at least he didnt cheat on you! now that..... now that is nasty feeling which i neva wood want to feel again!!

its been 7months since he cheated on me and i said no more thats it!! and its taken til now to find someone niceer someone who isnt fake an actually likes me for me! and i like for him!!!
so getting over him will happen! like everyone ahs said! it jus takes time an like they say "he may not love u the way u wood like hiim too but he can onnly love u with what he has!" u might still love him but i think in due time you will move on and that! youll always hold bit of you for him! no - one can forgeet the feelings when u love someone!

keep srrong and youll pull tthorugh there may not feel there is light at end of tunnel but believe ne there is and when u see grab it with both hands and dont let it go!

take care xxx

i`ve been cheated in before...
by him...
and thats who he dumped me for.
thats why i`m so upset. he dumped me for her, not because he liked her, he wanted 'some'.
and our relationship lasted about 5 months (not long but long enough ) and theirs lasted about 2 weeks.
i can`t seem to find anyone like him.
he was amazing...
we went through so much...

but thank you all for your help. your words encourage me.

:P

I'm so sorry Lauren. If he dumped you to get "some", then he's obviously not worth it. If he left you and got with a slut, he obviously didn't care. Some guys are deciving. Yeah he may have seemed like no other, but trust me there are better guys. Guys that will love you for who you are and could care less if they get "some". I really hope this helps. You can find better. A guy who wants a slut isn't worth your emotions.

Number 1: Many people have remembers the good times in a relationship, and wish they could re-live it. But one thing you should learn is that you should not pine for something that is long gone.

Number 2: You should be strong, and look at that relationship as a stepping stone to your true love’s Island.

And remember that all girls feel how you do when at the end of the relationship, so basically grow a strong armour of a heart. Because what is too come might be more heartache. But that is what life is.

thank you guys for your help.
i feel ridiculous. and pathedic. no matter what i try to do...it seems to get me no where.
maybe i`m just dumb like that. and i KNOW other girls feel this way...so i feel like i`m complaining for nothing.
but thanx again for your help. it is GREATLY appreciated.
-lauren

Lauren i really hope things work out. it suxx to still be in love with a guy who soesnt feel the same or w/e.. i hope things get better and u find some other hot guy to drool over...yum... lol.

♥Lauren (my name too! Laurens rule!!)

You said that you can't find another guy like him...why would you want to? He cheated on you, and then left you for her because he wanted some. Who wants to go through that again? If before that everything was great, then good for you...but the only way to get over someone is to find someone new. Or to just do something new. Get a new schedule going and he will soon leave your head.

Why would you want to be with somebody who cheated on you? If you continually let guys run over you and dont stand up fro yourself guess what its not gonna make them love you anymore they are just going to CONTINUE to put you through hurt and pain. there are too many great guys out there for that.

other than the fact that he cheated:::
we were amazing together. i never wanted to know what it was like to be without him. and i`m glad we were so great together.
and i don`t let ANYONE run over me. i am a very opinionated person and i stand up for myself.
he was the first person i loved. and i could`ve sworn he felt the same.
maybe he did at first then found out i was a loser...i don`t know.
and no one seems to compare to him. the NICE him, not the player one. when he was nice, it was like a dream come true.
maybe i deserved him cheating. maybe i did something for him to be mad at me.
maybe i`m impossible to love. i can`t expect much from anyone because right now, i don`t even love myself.

well thank you all for your words. i`ll take them in mind...and i`ll say i`ll get over him but in the end we all know the answer, i won`t. but i`m gonna try. hard.
thanks again XD
lauren

no its not bad because im in that same suitation. Me and my botfriend broke up 6 months ago and i still love him. he slept with my cousin and they are together as a couple. They have a baby on the way and it is hard for me to see them together. i cry everytime i see him because i loved. . . . . no i still love him. Its really hard to let him go because of all the good times we had. now i cant stay in a relationship for more than two weeks. and that is because i can't trust no one. he calls me evry now and then when my cousin is at work. sometimes he tells me their problems. and sometimes feel sorry for him because when he was with me we had no problems.

every one has preety much coverd what i would say but i just want to add that theres no way you could deserve a guy to cheat on you unless mabey you cheated first so dont put yourself down over it
good luck
Love, xxALLYxx

I know exactly how you feel. I can't tell you it will get better soon, because I don't know that it will. Me and mi ex broke up 10 months ago and I am not over it yet. Not even close to over it. Eventually tho, it will get easier and you will learn to cope better. Not saying you will get over it, but you will get used to it. I hope this helps. Keep you chin up. Don't lose hope.

thank you guys for helping me. even though i'm not even CLOSE to being over him...you guys are helping me get through this. if any of you want my help or opinion...i'm always here XD
lauren