is it that bad?

last night i was writing in my diary, then my mom came in and told me to go try on some rugby boots, so i just slid it under a cushion, when i got back it was gone. later that night i went into mums room and checked under her duvet and of course, there it was. again this morning my mom took my diary off me cause she thinks i have serious problems, i write everything in that diary!! i dont trust her not to read it. is this really a big problem or am i just worried

i write everything in it and i mean EVERYTHING!

what should i do i need help

hun she has already read it if she has taken it off you again.
best you can do is just take it as it comes. you could always steal it back and if your so worried destroy it or find a better place to hide it! xxxxx

no she hasnt read the whole thing she only read the page that i was writing at the time when she walked in

Maby she took it 'cause she was worried about you, My mum used to always steal my diary when i lived with her, I hated it. So i can see where your coming from, 'Cause you have alot of private things in there. But i guess all you can do is maby wait for your mum to confront you. But if she doesnt, Try and steal it back, I always did lol
But good luck =]

luv natz x0x

If you took someone's diary and wouldnt give it back to them, I am pretty sure you would have read at least half of it, lol. But anyway, I would just explain to her how you feel about her taking it, 'cause it seems pretty harsh to me. If not, just start a new one :p

Britt: Just because she is thirteen, doesn't mean that her mother can invade her privacy. Girls and some boys write in the diary mainly to explain how they are feeling and try and sort out the world they live in and to recount days past. And no parent should see it. Unless it is dire.

To the post starter: Try and hide it in the last place your mother would ever think to find. Or buy a box where with a lock, where you can use the key as a key necklace. Makes it stylish and safe.

Ismail: There is no such thing as a privacy act in the common house-hold. Which means the invasion of privacy can, and will happen. Mainly because the parent is concerned.

SuidicalPrincess: It is indeed wrong for you mother to be snooping around in your room reading your personal writings. However, she is concerned about you, and if she is approachable, maybe you can tell her what's on your mind, not all of it, but so she doesn't have to worry enough to go into your room. My mother is very nosey and notices the slightest of things. If I leave my bag home, and come back later in the day, she will have questioned me on whether or not I went to school that day. Hide it. Hide it well. That's all you can do.

But what I'd like is for the child to console his/her mother about everything that happened in their lives. If a child does that often. It shows that the mother done a great job raising him/her.

Agreed.

My mom's mom was always going through her things, and my mom remembered how that made her feel, so she NEVER did so with me. I'd probably use this as a way to talk with your mom about what was written, and your own feelings about her reading and ask her to share too. If she was reading my diary, I'd know she was judging me, and I'd want to know what those judgements were.

I don't think she should have stole your diary. You guys ARE right though, since you are living under her roof then your things are her things..But still...You should have SOME privacy. I don't think it was right that she took your diary. That was YOURS not HERS. Sit her down and talk about it. That is the only way to go. Good luck hunn..

thanks guys

but she isnt going to give it back

I no how you feel

My mother went into my room and rooted through all my stuff, found my diary, my poems, my blade, my ciggarettes, everything. Words can't describe what I felt, what I'm sure you're feeling now, but the only thing you can do is just keep telling yourself that you're not the one in the wrong. If she doesn't like what she hears then she shouldn't have taken it. You wrote how you felt and if she can't understand/ take it then it's her own fault

stay strong
love
XxFeEBeDeExX

Heh...that sucks.

Hmmm Maybe your mom feels that she should invade your privacy cause you don't talk to her enough.... Like Maybe she wouldn't feel the need to snoop around in your stuff if you told her somthing.... Unless your on drugs, drink, or smoke of course but i'm gonna try and say your not... cause your 13... Anyways even if you don't want to tell her anything... just make somthing up... Like "ya i like so and so and so and so kissed so and so today and that made me mad cause i like so and so" hmm okay that was a really bad example but ya know what i mean. I really don't know where your coming from but don't feel the need to hide EVERYTHING from your mom.... My mom and I always joke around all the time... She usually knows what i like now... I used to hide EVERYTHING from her and it was BAD.... she kept geting all mad all the time and stuff... Like after you got home from a friends house... ease your moms mind... just tell her stuff that you did if she asks....... Don't say "Not much" cause that leaves her room to wonder! Good luck!

last time she went through my room she read my old diary found my smokes and told my dad about everything that she had found it sucked

i cant trust my own parents anymore!

Yeah well... I hate to say it deary, but if she found smokes and alot of other stuff in your diary, then she only did it because she couldn't trust you to start. Right?
Come on, trust and respect can only be given if you show some first. That's just how it works. If you were more open with her, she wouldn't have needed to do that. She's just taking care of you like every parent should. You're lucky to have her, and don't ever think differently.