Long and very confusing :)

Ok, I'll start at the start - I'm in love. The problem begins here - it's my best friend (another girl - lets call her J) and she is relatively homophobic. Right. I know I'm in love because - even if I could rewind time back to before I met her - I would still want to fall in love with her - even though she will never love me. I've told 3 of my closest friends all the details and J knows that I love somebody in our school (all girls) but doesn't know that it's her. Problem is - she's not so stupid as to not realise, considering one of my friends who I told guessed it ages ago - and we (my friends and I) think that she already knows and is pushing it to the back of her mind and hoping that it's going to go away. However 2 of the 3 friends think I should tell J how I feel. Bearing in mind she seems homophobic - I don't want to lose her as a friend - because I can barely survive the weekend without her - but one of my friends think there may be a chance she feels the same way. One of my friends thinks there is absolutley no chance of that - but then before I told one of my other friends we thought she was homophobic - she's very christian - but it turns out she is a lesbian. Please help me - I don't know whether to tell J and risk losing her (she might understand) or keep my secret - though it's kiling me not telling her and I used to burn myself to stop myself from saying anything. And it is definately a more intimate love than just wanting her to be a really close friend. Thanks everyone xXx.

Peace. [Sole]

I am sorry but your chances at love will be an un-requited one. I suggest you stay friends, your crush for her, will pass.

You don't want someone who has imprinted in her head, that being gay is wrong...

Friendships are much more important hold onto that :o)

I agree with the above posts. I know how much that sucks, and I can only imagine what you're going through. But... I'd hate to see your love go to waste.

Having her as a friend will atleast always keep her there with you. Even though you have feelings, what's worse - losing her all together and having to get over a broken heart without that person that makes you smile, or keeping her as a friend for as long as possible and gradually finding a way to get over it...

Anyway, I've always told myself to fall in love with someone who can love me back, and love me just as much as I love them... There's no promise she can do that for you.