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i need advice...
I have a boyfriend I have been dating for one wonderful year but about 2 months ago i started to get a crush on a guy in chemistry class. Shortly after i had the impression that the guy liked me, he said he would have taken me to prom if i didn't have a boyfriend. I was really flattered but knew i couldn't go with him or act on my feeling towards the guy b/c of my boyfriend. Later i told my boyfriend, because i was flattered, me and my boyfriend got into this argument and almost broke up b/c he didn't like that i was "flirting" with this guy because he "doesn't date flirts" but after our fight i told him i didn't like him anymore and that i would stop talking to him. but i can't. i want to be with my boyfriend and everything but for some reason i can't just let go of this guy. i figured my feelings would go away but i guess they haven't. i even got hurt when i thought the guy liked one of my friends. what sucks is that even if i tried to break up w/ my boyfriend i wouldn't be able to b/c last time i tried he freaked out and said if i break up with him he wants my cellphone (that he gave me for christmas) and all this other stuff and so i didn't break up w/ him b/c i wasn't sure i was ready to. but lately i feel like even when i think about the guy i am being unfaithful and i don't want to be unfaithful, but i can't stop my feelings. i don't want to hurt my boyfriend but i don't know what else to do. i've been in tis situation before (and left my boyfriend at the time to be with my current boyfriend) so if i break up with my boyfriend now i'll feel like i use boys and i don't want that. plus i know that my boyfriend would do anything for me and i don't want to loose that but the more i get to know the other guy, the more i think he is "the perfect guy for me." i don't know. the stress from this has already caused a meltdown that scared the sh** out of my parents and i am so lost...

do you LOVE your boyfriend? because if you leave the one you love for the one you like, the one you like is gonna leave you for the one you love. used many times, but this sounds like a perfect situation to use it in.
and are you only staying with your boyfriend so he doesn't get back what is his? because you can always go out and get a new phone.
but if you seriously like this boy more than your boyfriend, you should break up with your boyfriend. because if he finds out he will be so hurt if he really loves you.
but the choice is yours. i don't know if i helped, but i thought i'd put my opinion out there.
hope everything goes well,
lauren

thanks lauren, but the thing is that i have tried before to break up with him but i'm scared of all the pain. i REALLY don't want to hurt him anymore than i alreadt have, but at the same time i don't want to leave the guy i may love for the guy i like. plus it's going to be hard to get over my boyfriend, especially since he goes to my school and has a few classes next door to mine, he has become such a big part of my life that it would be weird to not have him, but it would be too acward to just have him as a friend.

maybe theres a reason you can't break up with him. and it sounds like you do love him. so, if i were you, i would not break up with him. stay with him. it sounds like your relationship is so special.
but those or just my thoughts. do as you may please.
good luck
lauren

It's only lust..

this is a hard situation. it has happened to me. i broke up with my bf for another guy, who at the time seemed the best on for me, but when i was with this new guy all i could think about was my old bf. i would say hang out with the new guy with a bunch of your friends, so you bf doesnt get mad, and see if this guy is the real thing, or if he is just saying all the right things at the moment. it ended up for me that he was really just saying all the right things to me, and made me feel like he was the real thing.. instead my old bf was truely my perfect guy. dont worry though, my bf truely loved me, which i think your bf does. i think he will understand that you are going to a confusing time.
from what you are saying though it sounds like you current bf is the guy for you, and the new guy should be just one of your best friends.
hope i helped.. i know its really confusing
everything will eventually work out, just gotta tough it out =)
good luck
Kirstie

Put your bf in your situation what would you want him to do??? Not leave you...if he cares bout u then he would not even consider it. You should do the same. People always want what they cant have. In a sense its just temptation dangling in front of you. My bf has girls at his house all the time bc hes a barber...I would hate to think I had to worry bout him liking 1 of them n leaving me for some fling. Bottom _____ if u love him like u say whats the confusion??

nEVER LEAVE THE ONE YOU LOVE FOR THE ONE YOU LIKE,
BECAUSE THE ONE YOU LIKE WILL LEAVE YOU FOR THE ONE THEY LOVE!!!!
I learned this the hard Way...!!!!!!!! DOn't leave your boyfriend , trust me you'll regret it REALLY BAD!!!

You my dear, are someone who can throw a perfectly good life away, for a meaningless fling. You need to be a woman, rather than a slutty girl. I suggest you look deep within yourself, and ask should I go for my boyfriend of a year, or a guy I have a meaningless crush on.