yes...im scared

okay so i have my boyfriend now...who i really love BUT my last boyfriend was a total asshole to me!!! i seriously was scared of him. i never knew if he could turn around and hit me all of a sudden. so my boyfriend now tells me he loves me and he won't do that to me, i mena hes the best guy ever but im scared to love him help

if you're always gonne be scared to love again...
i guess you'll never love at all.
if he's worth it, take the risk. not ALL guys will hit you. you just got a bad one. better luck with this one.
lauren

Lauren, I love the way you say:

"not ALL guys will hit you", as if the majority will.

Grow the hell up and realise that GUYS ARN'T ALL THE SAME. WE ARE INDIVIDUALS. The way you two put it, I could just as easily say:

"Theres a hore in the world, therefore, all females will sleep with a guy for money."

No two people are the same.

If you actually give a damn then show you do. If not, leave the poor dude alone, he deserves better.

forgive me andy, for being scared! yes i know all guys aren't the same...but u try being in that kind of relationship then come back to me! i was scared of him and in the end i knew i didn't deserve him. SOME guys are like my ex! NOT all of them, i got one of those bad ones...and i know that! ony ma part THANX FOR MAKING ME FEEL WORST..."he deserves better"? thanx...

thanx for your advice lauren i like it very much. i guess it might be too early in the relationship to know if he does but i really like him i just am lost!

when i said::
not ALL guys will hit you.
i didn't mean to put it like that. i wanted to say that they aren't all the same. and lena, i know how you feel so if you ever wanna talk i'm here. i've been hit by my ex before so i know why you're scared...
lauren

thanx sooooooo much lauren!! no one in my skool understood and none of my friends either. they all told me he wouldnt hit me but they just didnt know him like i did. i know wut he is capable of...other people who havent been put in this situation just are unaware. i wanna keep talking to u lauren i think we could have a great relationship based on "abusive ex-boyfriends" :)

no one in my school understands either! so did he ever actually hit you or did he threaten you? and i'm sure you'll feel a lot better after to talk to somebody who ((understands)) lol

I know what you mean. If anybody's read two of my poems *Are you listening and Another Statistic?* they would know why I think I'm too afraid to love again as well. I think I could use the advice too.

thanx all of u guys for the advice. lauren thanx for being the great girl i can talk to about these abusive A-holes! if any other girl needs help with this crap...becuz it is crap....ill talk t o u and im sure lauren is willing to help u too! thanx for that advice alison...it's kinda hard to love again but as for me im slowly gaining that trust back from guys!
much love and respect to u all

aww you're so sweet.
i'm willing to talk to anyone. just leave me a comment on a poem or something.
and i'm glad i helped you, lena XD

my ex used to hit me, abused me, bruise me and talk smack to me... So yeah, Im in the same situation hun...
Im only 15 and i have a 1 1/2 year old son namedvincent but i dont have him, my exs mom does and they left me and took the baby... So i never got to see my baby boy...

I've never had a bf who would hit me. And I think that it is okay to be afraid of a new man, because of the past abusive ass you had to deal with.

I say give him a chance, and if he even hits you once you have to get rid of him.

I agree with everyone else, you have to take a risk.

Good luck with him!

You can't always live in fear, you have to take big risks to get big rewards. You can't just never love again. I was hurt really bad, I really loved this guy, and he died in a bike accident, and then my dad died. The two guys I loved most, died in a year. I was devastated.... never to love again. But if you never love again, you'll never get over it. Maybe you're just not ready yet, and there's no hurry to fall in love, but sooner or later it will just happen whether you want it to or not

THANX everyone, needless to say i figured out the situation im in....tough! i dont think i am in love with the guy im with rite now...becuz after all the drama who wants to take that chance again rite now? i think ill get over that sooner or later...but not now!
sorry for everyone's tragedies...i feel bad making u all share them wit me but im glad u did!! much love to u all...oh and lauren sorry i havent hada chance to e-mail u back!! i'll get to it today!! love u lauren!

ha you're funny. glad you figured out the situation, though.
did you email me back? cause if you didn't i didn't get it cause the stupid power went out and i had to unplug my computer...lol...sorry if you did send it.
love u too!
lol