why do people feel so much pain and how do u stop it?

In short, you can't stop them. I work in mental health and there's little one can do other than support. I have helped someone to stop cutting but she was just one person and I believe that my words helped her to focus on something beyond cutting. But who am I to say. It is hard to understand, but then I smoke and that's a form of self harm stemming back to childhood s**t, which is where most of our behaviour patterns stem from. We're talking about coping mechanisms, forms of survival in a world that often reflects our inner turmoil back to us.
When we view life with a more positive outlook then that is reflected back and so on... but the hard part is convincing someone that there is another way of looking at life than the one they CHOOSE to take part in... and there's the rub, anything in life always comes down to our own choice.
Hope this helps in some way

I also wrk with mental health, as a support worker,
I try to help other ppl as I never got the chance to help my mum, she killed herself two yrs ago.
The best thing you can do is offer your support listen to there reasons for wanting to do this and try getting them the help they need.

Talk to the person. If you don't talk to them they might get worse and you could really lose them forever. I know from personal experience.

Coming from a person who does cut. I personally dont think there is way to stop your friends cutting. I love my two best friends with all my heart, And i try my hardest not to cut for them, They are the only reason im here. But when the time comes and im upset. I always block people out. I wont talk about it, Or anything, And i always turn to the blade. I always think its the right thing to do at the time. But then when ive done it. I think about how stupid it is. The most you can do is be there for your friends, Dont critisise them for cutting. Just be there for them.

- luv natalie x-x

^My opinion is I think there is a way to stop someone from cutting. You can stop what's making them cut. Again I know that from experience. I cut too. But I think it's kind of different because I cut because of my friends.

Natalie said it best, because I do the same and think the same way, I'm not saying at all cutting is an answer, it is not, I'm merely saying cutting is an addiction and worsens the more you get used to the little cuts and need more to "make" the pain go away.

-corey

^Yeah so true.

People feel pain from things like break-ups because in todays world, your social-status can be your life, so when it is threatened you feel pain, a break-up threatens it so it is infact just like a stubbed toe, the difference lays only with the origion of the pain where one comes from a brick wall the other comes from saddness, and just like kicking a brick wall, the pain isn't able to be stopped by you, it has to keep going until your brain believes it is out of danger, in short do other people. To the guy above, yes stop hitting walls, people think you're crazy for it.