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Alright, well I know this is a completely personal thing... But if it makes a difference, I'll be first to admit it (as I have many times already) - I did infact fall in love with someone I have never met. We've been talking for a while now - even on the phone. I've seen him on webcam. So basically... I've seen him, heard him, and know who he is as a person - but have never touched/held him.

I have talked to a number of you from the site who do infact have the same thing going on. And I know how hard they can be... So I was wondering, if anyone had questions or just want to talk to someone that understands this whole situation. Because I think maybe if we all came here, and sympathized/listened to eachother we could probably help eachother out.(Not to mention save a few of the same posts from being repeated over and over again)..... Maybe there's success stories that could lift our spirits for the hopes that things will work out?

Well I dunno, but I'm extremely bored and I felt this might be worth it... Guess I'm gonna wait and see how many people join in :P

-Stefhy

P.S. The topic was cut short... *totally compatible strangers - etc

Yes my girlfriend and I met on line and met each other for real a few months after,and still love each other 5 years on,I wish you luck...it can work

Yeah, I had A guy on Xbox live and well, he emailed me, msgd me, talkeed to me on the phone and yea, we met each other 4 real but then we werre together for ten months and then we called it quits :( so yeah, It workssomtimes and somtimes it doesnt, it depends on the person u are :)

Bob Shanks and Sunny.

Successful story.

Expecting twins.

It -does- work.

~Atomic

Bob Shank and Sunny met online?

Wow, I had no idea. Talk about an encouraging story though. Consider my hopes rising :).

And thanks for all the responses to this. I find it very helpful to think that I have so many people to relate with - and that if needed we're all here to help eachother out.

Though, it is hard to deal with some of the responses I get from people around here. I mean normally, I don't really care what people think - I'm in love with him and nobody is going to change that. But that doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt when they're looking at me and telling me that he could be... Not who I think he is. The other night I went out for dinner with my friends, and I can talk to them about some stuff. So I mentioned that I phoned him, and the people at the next table overheard that I had phoned a boyfriend I had never met - and they just thought there was something wrong with me. Even started talking about it, and how stupid something like this is. Why would anyone (especially eavesdroppers!) do that - and make sure I hear them for that?!... lol it must be normal, pfft, and silly me thought it was rude.

well anyway to be honest the 1st time I had ever fallen inlove was wit a girl I met here

shes an amazing young lady ive never seen her pic till just recently and why i saw it i saw eyebrows were really think i laughed not in a mean way but coz i cud careless i mean this is the woman i love so dearly and well i love her for who she is aslong as im wit her im happy...

Me and my boyfriend met online almost a year ago now. [First anniversary soon :) ] And sometimes it gets hard because we cant find anything new to talk about, not being together and all. He comforts me alot though and I live in Scotland, he lives in Australia, so the time differences make it difficult. But we're doing well :) I'm allowed to call him for an hour once a week, and every other day for 10 minutes. [We got a cheap deal on long distance phone calls] and he calls me when he can. Sometimes I get up in the middle of the night to talk to him because I miss him alot. But he is planning ways to get me out there to be with him. I cant wait to see if we work out. And I wish everyone else luck

Hey. I definately know what you mean, it's really hard with such long distance. Has anyone found it hard to sleep at all knowing that the one you love isn't beside you, and do you ever get the feeling that maybe they never will get the chance to?... I know I get insecure about it alot...

its possible. me and my boyfriend made it work n we live in DIFFERENT COUNTRIES. lol i live in the USA n he lives in Belize. if u really love him and want it to work, go for it. dont let other people keep u from happiness.

Ahh..My current Boyfriend, and I have known each other for well over a year, and dated for four months, but Split up in January, we both decided, that we loved each other, and are once again going out, he lives on the other side of the Country, but I've got to know the REAL him, I've seen him, and heard his voice. (Which.. By the way, makes me all giddy and happy each time I hear it..)

He's a bit older then I myself, but I could careless..I do love him, and his age doesn't matter, yet people don't seem to understand him..He has a tendoncey, to really reallllly show how oppinionated his is.. Which people see it as him coming off as a know it all or many other things.. I seem to understand what he gets at, and even when he shows his oppions with me, and they seem to be rude, I know he's not meaning them to be that way.

I don't want to Jinx anything by saying.. I'd marry him, and live my Entire life with him, cause well..it's life..things happen, and not always for the good..I know alot of people especially parents like mine, say that I can't be "Head Over Heels" in love with someone..I've felt as if I was before with previous boyfriends, but it nevers seems to work out, we always stop talking and what not..

It's just diffrent with Gin..we both get along wonderfully, and when he talks to me, or hugs me (RP wise..) It makes me all tingley and happy he's once again close to my heart.. (He's always been, but..I never told him when we split up in January..I couldn't bring myself to it..) So..yeah..I think online dating is perfectly fine..and I trust Gin with all my heart, and I know he'd never in his life hurt me..

Hmm...seeming as I blabbed on for ages about it..I think I am about to go to bed..since Gin got off earlier. (He has Huge Exams and Tests For College Tomorrow) And talking about him, made me think of him, and therefore thinking or talking about him, unfortunately makes me miss the crap out of him..I need to go to sleep, so I can not be wishing it was tomorrow in order to speak with my Darling..

Xxx Megan

haha...i know that feeling all too well. The days spent thinking about that one guy, just talking to him can make the worst feeling in the world.. just disappear... and just the thought of being with him is all that matters...

its an emotionally great sense..but torturing as well.

I did try the whole online relationship thing one time, and I will never do it again. It went okay for a bit, but eventually we sort of drifted apart. Don't get me wrong, I love talking to him, I think he's great. But then I met someone who I cared a lot about and it wasn't an online thing.

Having a long-distance relationship is kind of like wishing for something that you'll most likely never really have. Maybe that's just for me though, because it sounds like a lot of you have successful stories to tell.

Wow these stories are amazing. And this was a great idea Steph. Hearing the stories of others really help. And of corse makes you want to share your own story. I met Connor online. I wasn't really expecting much. I'd met guys before and dated them and they either moved, or lived nearly an hour away right off and I didn't want that again. It was so hard and I didn't want to deal with the aggrivation. Him and I talked for hours and hours for the first time and after that it only became longer. We started talking every night and I began to fall for him. He told me he loved me for the first time and it didn't take long for me to realise I'd fallen in love with him too. That was nearly 3 years and millions of tears ago and him and I are still together. It has been hard and I have wanted to give up more than once but we have both stuck it through and now I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Next year I'm moving in and we are starting our life "together". Its the most amazing feeling in the world and well worth the wait...trust me goodluck guys!

There's the type of story I was looking for hehe. Not that I don't appreciate the other comments on how things won't work out, thankyou guys for writing... But happy stories have always suited me better. Walking on the bright side of life is much more fullfilling :P.
Thanks for your story and best wishes to you and Connor! I'm happy for you both :)... and best of luck to everyone else whom is still waiting as I am.

Thank you very much ..Me.. I really appreciate it and I am glad you enjoyed my story I was happy to share. Online dating can work very well. My uncle met his wife and the mother of his new born son. VERY successful story. I have never seen my uncle so happy and I NEVER in a million years expected him to have a child. But he did and hes very happy. I am not saying online dating is the easiest. It can be very difficult if, for someone who is under 18, have parents that do not accept it or understand it it may become nearly impossible. It is rough to not have the person with you and that is something you must face in going into that type of relationship. It requires LOTS of patience and trust. If you doubt either of those, chances are it will not work. And jealousy only makes it harder. But as you can see it is very possible and if you hang on it is worth it. But I encourage precautions. A lot of people who look down on those of us that have online relationships often don't have an open mind about things. And judeging someone by that is unfair. One of the many good things about online dating is the fact that because you can't see one another very much or at all for a long period of time you get to know the person and the personality of the person. The physical part is not there but the emotional part is. And you fall in love with who they are not appearences. Ahhh I could carry on and on in a conversation with someone with this topic. I swear to you most will never know or understand until they have expierenced it because it is so unreal. Whoever says you can't love online, obviously hasn't.

I saw this and had to quote it:

"Long distance relationships require a special willingness and understanding that can test love like no other type of relationship can. It requires constant communication and a desire to continually create your relationship, using the only real tool you have... your words."

and actually they have sites that have some great ideas to keep long distant relationships alive one of the best in my opinion is : http://www.lovingyou.com/