my bf cheated on me what should i do?

my boyfriend of a year cheated on me with a girl that i was friends with and now i'm not. I like giving second chance but i'm not sure what i should i do because i love him dont get me wrong but i dont know if it is going work. I want to try to work it but i dont know if i should. because he lied to me telling me he would never do that to me.

if you have any advice please answer this

I almost gave my boyfriend of a long time a second chance, but I decided not too. I made the right desicion, I know, because I have just celebrated a one month with my new bf. I am not being mean to the Manly race, Bob Shank, but I think that sometimes you get the guy thats rotten and his heart is just a black abyss. Just listen to yourself. Sit in a dark room, and think. It usually works for me.

Been there done that...its not gonna work!!! My bf and I dated like a year...he cheated on me with not 1 but 2 of my (ex) friends...history almost always repeats itself.

This will be harsh.
But if he had the nerve to cheat on you, then obviously he doesn't truly love you like you love him.

I say, go find yourself a new, trustworthy and honest guy. =]

Alright, I know this from experience. I'm known for giving everyone seconds chances no matter what, and over time people have walked all over me. That's my own fault. And now that you know that, I have given a second chance to a cheating boyfriend before, and its always haunted me. Trust became an issue and the memory itself just hurt me. To see his face hurt for the longest time because it only reminded me of what he had done...

Over all, I'd say it's your choice... But the people's comments above should point you in the right direction...

Best wishes. -Stefhy

HEY.
umm liek the comment above.. im chatting by experience..
i got cheated on by my ex.. but with a friend!
i gave him a second chance sweet an he did it again to me and i caught him that time with her in his bed!
an hey its haunted me for months! its been 7 months now! and these past 3 months ahave been the easiest time for me.. im over him.. i snaped out of it.. um but when i saw him i used to melt an remeber why i loved him!

but i agree its your choice.. i wood never give any bloke a second chance now its happended to me..
umm but you do wot you thin is right for YOU!!!

take care yeah!
xhan
xx

Throw rocks at him. Big rocks.

Kalika

Well, my boyfriend and I have almost been together for 11 months. I never thought he would cheat on me, but he did. I always told myself if my boyfriend cheated on me, I would dump him, but I didn't. My friends, knewing how I think that loyalty is really important to me, all told me to dump him everytime I saw them for about 2 weeks, but only 2 of them actually understood that I probably did not, and could not let go.

Its not just about it working out or not, what are the chances of us marrying a boyfriend now anyways? even though we all want to... but I think cheating is something that will probably happen to all of us... and if we could actually make a relationship work in the end even if someone cheated, it can sometimes make a relationship a lot stronger, and the important thing is that they wouldn't do that again because in the end they realize the one they love is you.

My boyfriend, actually lies to me quite a lot too. Most of them he can justify, some that he can't. But a question you should ask yourself is do you trust him and believe in him? Do you want to believe in him?

Even if you don't know if its going to work or not, you won't know until you actually try. It might work out even if you don't think it will. But whether or not you want to try again is your choice. And even if you make it, you might want to make him earn the chance partially. You might be giving yourself a chance to be happier, but it would actually hurt you more if you found out later that he just wanted you to stay because he wanted something stable, someone he can turn to anytime, and not because he is sorry and wants to make it up to you, or because he loves you and just wants to be there to make you happy, to look after you.

I know my boyfriend loves me, or else he could just sleep with some rich girl every night and even help with relationships with clients. But instead, he spent 2 weeks trying to cheer me up and make up to me after i found out how he cheated on me months ago. It wasn't that i was scared he didn't love me. I was scared that he would give into lust and forget about me, and that I wanted to be sure that he would do anything for me. I know he makes me happy, and I can bring him happiness. Even though he broke my heart, I tried to accept it, and I've almost completely accepted this, but I know we can't accept things like this in every case. So I guess you really have to think for yourself.

No one here knows how you feel, or exactly how much you love him, how much he hurt you, or how he treats you. No one can tell you whether or not you should break up with him, or ever believe him again. That is all up to you. All we can really do is give you our opinions, and hopefully other people who post can try to remember this, I know we all forget sometimes. Either way, I guess just take this as an opinion, and not advice, because this is your happiness, and your path that you need to walk. We are only random strangers who might have experience the same thing, who want to help you think a bit and sort things out, but we do not know your exact feelings.

-kelsie

He cheated on you with one of your friends? I wouldn't even consider a second chance, I would kick his freakin' @ss.

Aww should I care about you....

I don't care for women or men who let their partners cheat on them and let them get away with it, with excuses of love and marriage.

You are weak, pathetic and don't deserve my time.

omg that was very heartless well anyways...i think you should forget about him even if you do love him hes so not worth it.....and its even worse with you friend...just forget about him bb/c you'll find some one that will treat you better and you'll forget all about him

Well to be honest firstly Ive cheated on a girl and quite honestly i dont want to do it again i mean hell i was stupid im an asshole for doing that to her and i deserve to be hurt ive accepted it nd i dont plan on cheating again i lost the woman i truly loved you see we werent exactly in a relationship but we were inlove and fuh-duckin el i did god anyway as much as i want to say that you should give him another chance, don't coz thats da only way he will learn if he truly loves you and so that you wont be hurt more

seriously, let him go and find yourself a trustworty guy who will LOVE YOU AND NO OTHER GIRL. you deserve a better guy than that.

leave him you can do better. thus agreeing with the above statment.

u should do wot your heart is telling you.. yeah you can listen to our advice etc but at end of the day... we dont no your feelings an what your heart is saying! yeah we vmY HAVE EXPIERENCED being cheated on etc but only u no wot u truely wanty and need!....

and dont listen to that "ismail" coz that were way out of line really!!!

listen to your heart! and i do agree with that lad few messages above if u dont get back with him it will teach him a lesson and he will see u walking away from him... which does and will hurt him more than u ever no!!... itll be like he will have to settle for second best! and maybe yeah u can do beta and find someone better in due time! i got cheated on and that were nasty! it were bout 7 months ago now.. and yeah been on bout 3 dates and none have worked out coz me ex never lefted me alone ttill month or so ago!

and u no wot i got a date with this bloke this week and i tihnk im on to a winner! so it can turn out to good if u leave him!!

just follow what your heart is saying!! if its saying walk straight backinto his arms then do if not then walk away!
take care

I'm sorry....Han is it.

Let me give it to you straight:

The girl is scared to leave fearing because she might die an old spinster.

So I gave her the truth. It's not out of line.

it were lil too blunt for that to be said to her because its so easy to say it if it aint happened or happening to you really!! u no??
ummand when it is ahappening u dont wanna or need to hear nasty comments it lowers your self estem thats why i said it were lil harsh coz it werent fair for her to have that said to her really!

in my opinion a boyfriend for a year thats just wrong that he did that to you and for a year thats just not right and with a girl that u thought was your friend in my opinion i think you should let him go he does not love you ok i think you should leave him and just find out what you are really wroth ok cause u dont need that yes you must love him but think about it does he love you well as much as you love him ok just do it ok

omg if he cheated on you with your friend...well shes not a true friend...and im sry but if he loved you he wouldnt have cheated on you...i know that is hard to read but i had to realize that not to long ago...

Do you mean cheat as in...like sexual? Because if yes, then I personally would leave him on the spot. If thats the case you deserve better, and are not missing out on much. It would be his lose, not yours.

Now if cheating you mean by hanging out with another girl, holding hands, kissing, I have had some experience in that....you yell and scream at the top of your lungs, tell him he either swears never to do it again, and if he gets mad and leaves, think about it really, if it were meant to be hed of not done it, or never done it again.

You know, I don't think I'll ever understand why people cheat. It just seems to stupid and pointless.

He cheated on you once, he will most likely do it again if you give him the chance. Dump him. A guy that cheats, isn't worth it. He doesn't deserve you. There are pleanty of guys. I hope you make a good decision. Good luck.

i officially award you with the "dee dee dee" award

welcome to the world of the slow retards

My boyfriend cheated on me but I took him back...I spent 5 more years with him but dealt with CRAZY jealousy issues that caused so much heart ache...don't even take the chance. Push his butt to the curb....because mine kept on doing it. If you allow them once they'll never stop. You heard it --- once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater.