Expressing myself

My mom found all my poems because i printed them out to put in a box or something and she found them. Me and her got in this huge fight because she thinks I am unhappy living with her and she thinks I am suicidal. She made a comment saying:
Maybe your so depressed that I should send you to the hospital for it!

She threatened to call a probation officer about my 17 year old boyfriend who is turning 18 June 29. Well actually I just broke up with him 30 minutes ago. She was threatening to throw him in jail whenever he turns 18 and i couldn't let that happen.

She knows I was raped and molested by my brother and she is mad at me because I don't always feel comfortable talking to her about things. She said that she doesnt understand how i can write everything down but I can't talk to her. She doesn't understand that writing is the way that I express how I feel. I am not very good at talking about stuff.

Anyone got any advice???!!
PLEASE

I can't truly understand the way your mother is handling this situation because i have no children and i have absolutely no idea what it would be like to be a parent who found out these things about someone that they believed they were so close to.

So i'll wait by my computer to see if someone like Sunny will drop into this conversation...from what i've read about her in these forums and judging by her comments, she has some experience in this field of parenthood...

Another thing...it was a little foolish to be in a relationship with someone older than you...no matter what the situation is, it can turn very ugly.

All you can do is deal and face what these problems will bring.

-Nora-

Your mother is worried like any mother would.

She may be someone you think hates you and will do anything to make your life a living hell. That is not the case. She is someone who do not know how to handle when her child has all these problems and does not go to her. It shows her that she is a bad mother. She is not, but she thinks that way.

Time is a great healer, so just take some time to calm your mind, and tell your mother what you feel. You will never know until you try.

Well, I don't know what you're doing dating at all at the age of 14-- Kids shouldn't be dating. They gots schools to think about. "You ain't dating til you're married" line my dad always gave me.

-- let alone a 17 year old. But I don't know your situation. Just ask yourself why he can't get a girl his own age.

Probation officer maybe a little over-the-top. but hopefully, it's just a bluff. Use force to threaten you and his sense of safety to gain control. Parents, I tell ya...What, me bitter?

No no no he doesnt have a probation officer..my mom knows one...
And maybe i feel comfortable with him..he has helped me through everything and no we have not had sex and we did not PLAN on having sex. We both discussed this all. And the whole situation is is my mom sees it as why cant he get a girl his own age. But I was the one who started talking to him and everything. If i didnt feel comfortable with him or didn't think he was a good person to be dating, I WOULDNT BE WITH HIM...you know? My mom just doesn't want me to end up like some other people she knows who is sitting in a house with a little baby to take care of but she doesnt have to worry about that...

And how has he commited a crime in ohio? he is not 18 yet...

Confused: If you are defending someone you know has done something wrong.

There is a saying "Men come and go, but family is forever"

So I can't believe your stupidity when you are defending someone instead of your mother.

Pathetic!

Lol....

but the thing is we have NOT had sex..and I am not trying to defend him. I just care about him. But i do understand where my mom is coming from. She is just trying to look out for me.

And I am not pathetic...He is like my best friend

It always sucks when mom finds out, eh? I try to hide my poems in my backpack... the only place my mom doesn't look.

....hide them in a huge folder, backpack, purse, locker, something that your mom would never dare to look (especially dont hide it in your room!)

Well thats all i can give you for good hiding places. oh ya... tell ur mom that you just need to express yourself and you do it better through art and poetry...

i hate whenever my mom finds out. she threatened to lock me up in the crazy house.

Confused: Try and talk to your mother like an adult, you mother is treating you like a child, because you act like it.

Speak to her, as an adult would where you discuss your problems and try and find solution where she won't bug you and you try and see less of your boyfriend.

It was just kind of making me mad how you 2 were calling me pathetic and things when all I am trying to do is keep the person who actually listens to me AROUND..You know? When I try to tlak to my mom..she just yells..

How am I acting like a child?
That is what I do not understand

I understand Confused,

You think you have no one, and the only person who would listen to you is your bf, I know how you feel.

But you have to have a conversation with your mother, you have to tell her your true feelings without rebelling.

She can only listen by then.

Ok I like that advice ALOT better...I mean..I don't know..I'll have to figure out something

Why not think of it,

Just try and understand that your mother loves you, and only wants the best.

yeah i know that....

ah so complicated

now my best friend told me that it was either her or him...

I dont think that is fair