In luv with my bestbuddy that happens to be surrounded by girls

I met this guy the first day of school, and the first time I saw him, I felt something, I didnt talk to him at first coz I was too shy but he spends time with my friends so he also talked to me. Well first, he only smiled at me from the other side of the classroom and then he aproach me and 8 months later were best friends but hes also the best friend of 10 other girls and their always hugging him and playing with him and touching him and it kills me inside. People are always bugging us and telling us were married coz we always act like we are, like we argue about little things and then we smiled, we also play and bug each other all the time. And girls everytime am with him, they come from out of nowhere and he completely shuts me off. He invites other group of girls to the movies and restaurants but he never invited me to anyplace. But in school he is always telling me to go with him whereever he goes. I dont get him at all, he wants me with him but only in school and when noone is around. He likes telling me when he is sad and I luv hearing himcoz I feel special when he talks to me instead of all the other girls. He makes me do things that I've never done before like one time we were talking and this girls came as they always do but I wasn't even finishing my sentence and he shut me off. I completely didnt even think about it and I throw him out of his chair and he fell on his face and everyone laugh and like I am such a good girl, noone thought it was me so they all thought he fell. I was so in shock I had never done something like that.
Everytime I just want to tell him how I feel but I dont think he'll take me serious... I'm so scared... I wish it could be just the two of us in an island were nobody could stop us and he'd paid more attention to me like he does with all those girls. i havnt told anyone bout this Ever but im desperate... If I tell him how I feel, would i scare him off? Everything will change? Will he pay me more attention? What would he do?!!

I think you should just talk to him about it... tell him your true feelings... i mean he would understand, hes your best friend.. he wouldnt make fun of you or just be shocked... just talk to him!

U make it sound sooo easy like if he doesnt feel what I feel, he's gonna keep talking and playing the same way... I think he's gonna feel awkward around me if I do, and if he doesnt... then I'll feel awkward.... I have never EVER felt something like this... I ve never been kissed or loved or anything by a guy. and no im not ugly Itsjust that I'm... complicated... and i dont want to feel this... I never did... coz I knew this will happen... the fear of rejection... Or the fear of commitment. I'm also afraid of what may happen If we become a couple... I dont know what todo. I've never had a boyfriend. and people always say I will never be ready for commitment...

I simply dont know.

Flirt with him. Get him running after you.

How old are you?

Just Tell him bout it thats the only way I'm telling you Its hard but its better than doing nothing, love is a complicatedthing it happens to anyone but it wont come if you dont do anything tell him how you feel its not easy i know but just do it for yourself and you dont know after that he might feel the same

well this is one tough situation. i went through almost the same thing... and well, i told him the truth and everything, but i was rejected... but i'm not gonna discourage you or anything.... it all depends on the guy. think about what he would MOST LIKELY do after you tell him. if you think that hes the kind of person who will reject you, then keep quiet until further notice.. but if hes the kind that will still love ya as a friend or whatever, and accept you anyhow, then talk to him ... and tell him. but make sure that you know at least 99% that he will never reject you or leave you. wish u luck in everything.

Im 16 years old and fear have prevented me of many relationships. I think I love this guy coz u really can't tell what hes gonna say next but at the same time its expected... it's weird but exciting. He's funny and smart and hot and he makes me feel different but that's not the point. coz even if he'd said we'll still be friends it'll NEVER be the same, at least not for me. As well as I know myself I know I wouldnt be ok being in the same room as the guy that rejected me.
Isn't there like a way to know if he likes me without having to ask him?

you could have someone you trust ask him for you...you know, he sounds like a good guy but he also sounds full of himself.(i may be totally wrong lol) hes probably not right for you anyways. i mean the way he treats you...god comeone you dont deserve that hun. hes nice to you when your alone but if he made you mad enough to like throw him out of his chair lol theres something up...
if you really care about him keep on trying to work this out but think about what i said. things will work out if theyr supposed to i promise
feel better =)

It seems like you are in love with the boy, and jealousy and insecurity has crept up on you. So you want to be possessive. Make him your own, well in the real entire world that will not happen.

You should take the time to take care about yourself, and try to forget about him being with all the other girls. It will only make you more of a possessive fool.

I suggest you take some time to real dig deep and try and find out what your feelings are and where the jealousy is coming from.

Ok, I cant tell someone to tell him coz this is really important and it will be worst. And I took some time to think about it and I definetely love him or at least feel something reeeaally special towards him. And yeah, I did tell him how i feel without having to actually tell him. U wanna know how? I know that he likes guessing what music im singing so I sang a song about not getting attention from the one u care because of all the other girls. and he started laughing coz it was a pretty lame singer and then i told him not to laugh coz it was pretty much all about him and then he told me that if I liked him and i laughed so he told me he didnt like anyone and I acted like it didnt matter to me so he thought I didnt felt anything and we kept playing...
So i didnt suffer any embarrasment and he didnt didnt feel awkward. I still love him but at least I know that he doesnt love anyone even if he doesnt love me.But he could still feel something...Right?
I dont want this to be the end... I cnat stop what I feel. Maybe it is coz I never felt this before.
Now all I have to do is to make him fall for me...
And how do i do that exactly? I cant flirt with him... itll be weird coz hes my friend.. I already am pretty... am funny...am smart.... what else do I need to make him fall for me?

You cant make people feel a way they dont feel...either speak up directly to him, speak of your feelings (be careful not to scare him off) and deal with the results. Either something can blossom from this being a relationship or friendship or you may be hurt in finding out where you stand and can start being proactive about getting your emotions together and getting over this guy. Try concentrating on your friends, having fun and your studies as a starting point :o)
Good Luck
Eirisa

make him flirt with you and make him call you but dont try to hard...and give him advice if he asks you about other girls...and make him realize it...

He IS my friend and I always hav fun with HIM and we help each others with our studies... I had friends but when I changed schools my old friends always try to hang me up, I try inviting them to the movies and stuff and they always shut me off. and I tried getting new friends but everyone in this school already hav friends and their always gossiping and you cant trust them with anything coz five seconds later the whole classroom will know.
And How do I make him flirt with me?

PS:I wanna take this opportunity to thank you guys for being here on this site and for this site existence coz if it wasnt for this site I could hav never be able to express how I feel coz as U already know I cant trust my classmates and my family expects so much of me and they never give me a break so THANK U ALL FOR BEING BORN!!!.

oo girl he likes you but i was in the same situation

mine did not turn out good cause at first the girls were my best friends then they had a thing for him adn talked him out of it and into goin with them well since then he has learned his lesson and he knows he likes me over all of them he would choose me.

but i refuse to go with him now cause of wat happend my heart was truly broken

so all you have to do is make sure taht all of the girls like you as a friend and make sure none of them like him and if so lay down some laws

ok then you need to watch him and make sure that when you are around he is the one holding you not them that is how it should be that is how it was with me til the 2nd and last tiem we went out cuase that is when you knwo they munipulated him.

well just watch wat you do . w/e you choose to do do it slowly and write down a plan it helps even though you feel really weird .

hey if you want him you will do it

he totally wants you

diva