friendship tester

i found this in my 17 magazine...

HEALTHY - if you check three or more, your friendship is going strong
[ ] They reaches out: they call, IM and wants to hang out and do things as often as you do.
[x] They’re supportive: they give advice when you ask for it and lets you vent without interrupting.
[ ] They boosts your ego: they let you know why they like you, so you feel good about yourself.
[x] They share with you: they want to know about your life and they tell you about theirs.
[x] They’re direct: they tell you when they’re angry or upset, instead of acting cold with explaining why.
[x] They respect you: they know what your values are and they don’t ask you to betray them.

UNHEALTHY - if you check any of these, go to the “What To Do” box (AT BOTTOM)
[x] they hold back: you call, IM and invite them to hang out but they don’t really do the same for you.
[ ] They judge you: they criticize your choices before they truly understands the situation.
[ ] They’re undermining: they often bring up your insecurities, so you doubt yourself around them.
[ ] They’re self-absorbed: somehow your conversations always seem to end up being about them.
[x] They bail on you: you can’t take plans with them seriously, they usually end up canceling them.
[ ] They’re self-destructive: you worry they might draw you into their reckless behavior, like drugs.

WHAT TO DO (if your friendship is bad)

WHEN TO HOLD ON
If they just start bailing on you or acting selfish they might be stressed. Ask if they’re ok but if it keeps up for several weeks…(go to the following)

WHEN TO REPAIR IT
When you’re alone with them, say something like “ I feel like you’re [insert action] and that hurts.” If they don’t try to change…(go to following)

HOW TO BREAK IT OFF
You can’t make someone change so stay away from them so you don’t get hurt more. Say something like, “I feel like our friendship has changed and I think we should take a break for now.”