So Confused!!!

Damn! I don't know who I like at all, or rather, who I should like or what I should do!!!!!

There's this one guy, Trent, and I have liked him for about 3 years. Well we have both liked each other for the past 3 years, but we've never gone out, and only kissed once, which was the last time I saw him. He is best friends with my best friends brother-so I see him pretty much whenever I go to their house. We hadn't seen each other in about 2 months (besides just passing each other and saying hi) and so when I was at Amanda's house and he was there we were majorly flirting. The problem is, he has a girl friend. So we were talking and everything, and watching a movie later with Amanda and her brother, and we ended up holding hands. And it was the best feeling ever when he took my hand...It's hard to explain it (but I did in the poem "That Feeling"). So I was thinking about him for the next week until I saw him again, and we ended up watching a movie again and cuddling, and after Amanda and her brother fell asleep we were staring into each others eyes like really close to each other's face for like 5 minutes, then he kissed me. And I was so happy!!! OKay, Trent is 18, and is a player, I know that for a fact. But I don't have a problem with is so much, because I dont' think it would ever evolve into much more, and if it did I'm sure he would NOT play me because just...I just...can't explain it but I know he wouldn't...he doesn't cheat on everyone...just certain types of people.

Then there's this other guy, Kyle. I've only known him for about half a year, and I know he's had a major crush on me since the first day he met me. He is my best friend's (Amanda) boyfriend's (Jake) best friend. So that's how I know that he likes me. So we went out on a few dates with Amanda and Jake, then he went to bootcamp, and he got back about a month or so ago. So we went out last weekend, and hung out and everything and he is a really sweet guy, and he's caring and not too "foreward" and all that stuff. So I know I like him and all...and I know that is who Amanda would rather me like and 'be with'. btw-Kyle is 19 (I am 14, pretty close to 15 though!!)

So now the part about how I'm confused. Okay, Trent still has a girlfriend, but I kinda think I like him. OKay...I'm not actually going out with Kyle, we're just kind of seeing each other right now, or more hanging out more often and maybe holding hands and kissing...lol. But see, when I go over to Amanda's house Trent will still be there. And I can't just stop flirting all together, partially because I know he does like me some and I don't wanna make him mad, partially because I am a HUGE flirt and it would be impossible for me not to flirt...and partially because I think I kind of like him!! But when I asked Amanda last night if he was coming over...she got really mad and started chewing me out and saying that I wasn't allowed to like Trent and that I couldn't do that to Kyle and all this stuff. But I'm just wondering...should I listen to Amanda, or should I continue to flirt with Trent. And do you think it would be wrong to 'flirt' with both of them? And am I horrible for liking Trent even thought he has a girlfriend (who by the way is Amanda's cousin). I wasn't the only one he was cheating on her with, there were at least 3 other girls, and Amanda called (her cousin) Dessy and told her to break up with him. Gosh I have a screwed up life...and I don't know what to do!!!!

Im the type of person that goes for the one I like rather than the one that likes me... stupid in a way but that's me, so let me ask you this, which one do you like more?? Just looking from a 3rd person's point of view I think you should go with Kyle, because Trent is with Amanda's cousin and causing them to break up could possible cause a crack in you and Amanda's friendship... besides, you did say Trent is a player... :/ Im not really happy with the answer I just gave but that's the best I can do for now, best of luck is all I can say :)

Thanks Allen...

I guess I just don't really know which one I like. And I think Amanda's cousin is going to break up with Trent anyway because he has been cheating on her with a few other girls. Now I see I'm trying to defend Trent! Gosh!
Well Kyle is the safer choice, and I do like him some too, but I just don't know if I should completely forget Trent yet.

Well Sierra, you are right, Kyle is the safer choice. Just if, you and Trent get together, would that be easy for him to leave all the other girls alone?? Trent may be able to make you really happy but he does have more potiential to make your heart break :/ (sorry if I sound really anti-Trent...) If only I knew the two guys in person, I would be able to give you more useful advise... go with your heart, Im sure you know your heart's desire... and again, best of luck :)