Being the new girl for three years...

I've being in these school for three years and I still feel like the new girl... I dont know whats wrong cause im funny, smart, pretty and I dont know coz they all laugh at my jokes we talk and I help them with homework or whatever they need. I'm just being me and for some reason its not enough. I dont handle loneliness very well coz in my other school I had seven best friends and we did everything together and now I hav none. I know that htey dont consider me their friend coz when they go to the movies or someplace they never invite me and their always whispering when im around. And my other friends, when i changed chools they dont talk to me like they used to... they always try to hang me up. I'm so sad and I just want Know...

HOW THE HEAVENS AM I SUPPOSE TO GET SOME FRIENDS?

Dont be so desperate to impress everyone just be yourself hun I know its hard and alot easier said than done but if those people dont accept you for who you are then are they the sort of people you really want as mates?
You know I lost alot of friends in high school moving schools too, I kept very few and I am still friends with those few today.
Try some extra curriculum team activities where you can meet people with similar interests that live close by like sports, social or craft groups whatever your into. Youll meet plenty of people with lots of things in common as you in the same district.
As for school use it as an opportunity to concentrate on your studies.
Good Luck
Eirisa xoxo

You'll find some friends.. trust me. You've still got to get 'into their group' kinda thing.. I dunno it's what a lot of girls have.. groups..

Maybe you should be the one to ask them to do somthing after school or on the weekends. Don't wait for them to ask you.... Maybe they just need to get to know you outside of school walls! Other than that join somthing non school related, so you can get to meet some friends outside of school.... Such as youth group, 4H clubs, the local park sport teams. Or try and find a job where you can make a good friendship with a co-worker or somthing. Good luck! Brigitte

"... I dont know whats wrong cause im funny, smart, pretty"

Stop being so bigheaded?

Not all friends hang out alot after school. I'm almost never the time to ask some one to go some where with me after school, and most of my friends just do other stuff after school. I have like one friend who's found an actual good spot uptown to visit, and everyone else never really does anything.

Don't let the 'kinda friends' bother you, there's always going to be some one who likes you, but for some reason wount let themselve be friends with you. Don't be too friendly. One girl at my school is like that, super friendly, and super clingy, everyone is nice to her, but also avoids her.

And try not to limit yourself to a standard of friends. Don't only turn your head when the stinky kid comes up. Maybe start breathing through your mouth. People tend to like people they feel are being themselfs, who don't care to much about what others think, people who they feel will alow them to have the most freedom.

Don't spend all your time in school with the 'sorta friends' either, your wasting time you could be spending finding some one who you'll really click with.

I've had to make an effort in making friends up to this year. I finally got free of the one or two that weren't really there to begin with, and started making loads of new ones. Sticking with a group of 'sorta friends' can be worse then no friends in my opinoin.

Note I'm only 14, I don't know everything. Anything I said could be wrong, so take it into consideratoin before jumping on it.

WOW! that was long...

I did invite them to the movies and they all ditch me...like three times... It was so sad and after that I decided that if their like THAT then so be it. I was really upset so when went to school they didn even said they were sorry they just started laughing. So I made sort of a bad thing ( im really sorry about that now ) I turned them all against each other. Coz they all gossip about each other in the school so i just said to those what each other said( it was a little funny) and they all started hating each other. And thats how the group separate into reagge, rock dudes, freaks, reeeally cristians, slackers and populars...
and im in all of them but theres no best friends just classmates that share interest.