i can't trusted men.

i can't seem to trust any men. when i was younger i felt strongly for a boy i was with and he hurt me, left me for my best friend and they both lied to me until i saw them together.
then next time id let some one close he hurt me also by tellin me how he liked my (another) friend and i said i was ok with them gettting together but i really wasn't.that really hurt.
then i was bullied which happened to be by boys i grew up with.i got depressed and was told by these same old 'friends' i was a waste of sperm so i sud kill myself. thst hurt also but after a few failed attempts of suicide i got help n am kind of better.
and last nite my best friend was raped. and i really don't no if its possible for me to ever trust another guy.
let me know if any one else feels like this, or if there are guys out there that ...i jus dnt know any more....

not all guys are like what you think.. there's just very few who you can actualy trust and feel safe around..

at an age like this, most guys are extremely horny, and all they want to do is have sex.. but you see, you just need to get to know people first and not put so much trust and faith into someone..

It's taken me about a year and a half to trust another girl since all my ex's cheated on me with more then 2 other guys.

Ha Ha Ha....

If you don't trust men, go and become a lesbian...

It's that simple.

Duh Gari....

Who else am I talking too...

Why would I suggest a person who is homosexual to become a lesbian.

Real constructive there Ismail - funny but ;o)

I think its unfair for you to paint everyone with the same brush - everyone is different just like you are and its very unfair of you to assume all boys are like this. Aside from the troubles in your life in the past Im sure there are plenty of decent guys out there who can be both friends to you and possibly more but you will not find that having such a closed mind. I suggest you open your mind to the potential poosibility of meeting nice guys and try and deal with your emotional issues from the past with a professional to help you.
Good luck
Eirisa

"If you don't trust men, go and become a lesbian...

It's that simple."

It's kind of not that simple. What if I said to you "Go become a homosexual. It's that simple." Not really simple is it.

Kim he was kidding - chill out LMAO

I wasn't having a go/ranting at him, just kinda came out that way :S

But if you think about it, if you are already this afraid, what happens when you do decide to trust a boy and he ends up mistreating you..

Is then the only solution becoming a lesbian? =P

You know, I sound kind of like you. I have some guy friends that I've known for years. But it takes me a long time to trust and get to know a new guy. And some of my reasons is the same as yours. But like what others said, not all guys are bad. And remember, getting to know a boy or liking a boy OR getting a BF doesn't mean you have to lose your independence.

ok how bout this, my one ex mentally abused me, another 1 tried to sexually abuse me and multiple ppl in my family have been raped/sexually abused etc and every guy i like either likes me but doesn't want 2 d8 me or d8s me then ends up hurting me, wen i told this guy that i really liked tht i found it difficult 2 trust ppl he basically called me a bitch and then told my m8 tht i hurt him. should i become a lesbian? didn't think so

DON"T let the jerk get into your head. Seriously, people these days call other people names such as "bitch" for no good reason. There are alot people out there that are good and respect you for that reason. I've admitted to all my close friends and family members that It's hard to trust people nowadays.

One of these days, there will be somebody who you won't trust but they will work to win it and respect your opinions.

I kid to my mom that I'll marry a lesbian because she never wants me to marry someone who isn't her ideal person for a son-in-law.

I'll tell you what... in a few years, look for a friend you trust and build on that relationship. it works. right now people seem untrustable (i want to kill every guy that even tries to stare) because people these days seem like hungry monsters. one day you will find the right one that isn't a monster.

thats why I went to women... lol...

That has to be the most pathetic excuse to not trust men. Did ALL the men in the universe do it to you? NO. Just a few, or whatever you said. Don't trust the ones that hurt you. Dont, now trust people you dont know. Thats stupid.

-Jennifer.

I think she has legitimate reasons to not trust men...hell if all that happened to me (if it's true) I'd have trouble trusting men too. Hell, I had someone I loved cheat on me and now the man I'm with has to deal with my untrusting attitude. It's life. You can NOT tell me that if you were raped or beaten by men that you would TRUST any and every man. THAT would be ridiculous. When I was younger I seen my father hit my brother and sister and now when I have children of my own I think there will be some concern there. I will fear their father in a way...it's HUMAN NATURE...it's NOT stupid.

Natalie, you dont know what I went through. To be honest, I have gone through most of that. I still trust men, overall because, simply.. they didnt do it. Just because one person or a few people that happen to be of the male gender harm you. You shouldnt take it out on all men.

-Jennifer.

What ever...of course...you've been through it all! I should have known.

I never said I have been through it all. I have been through some of it. So dont get mad at me, for being right. Thank you.

-Jennifer.

Right? No, you're not right. It's human nature not to trust people or even things when you've had negative experiences. Not everyone is like you...or how you 'claim' to be. It's normal and it's definitely NOT stupid.

No. Its stupid to blame other men, for just one mans wrongs. Yes, its human nature to not trust, but.. you shouldnt trust that man. All men, arent the same.

-Jennifer.

Like I said...it's NORMAL. If you were brutally beaten in a alley late at night by a man would you continue to walk the alley late at night if he was arrested even though you KNEW there was other men walking back there? They didn't beat you so you would feel completely safe, right? SIIIKKKEEEEE

People are different. I would walk through the alley. You might now. Others might, or might not.

-Jennifer.

not--

True, not all man are that way. But those reasons stated in here are some good reasons why someone might have a HARD time trusting people, not completely distrust people and accuse them of being a monster.

"People are different. I would walk through the alley"

You know...I find that EXTREMELY hard to believe. ANYONE will HALF a brain wouldn't walk down that alley again. I think you're saying you would to hold up your arguement...

This isnt an argument. I wouldnt be afraid of something that happened. I would live my life, without worries. If you worry, its a waste.

-Jennifer.

does the original poster even care anymore? This thread is two months old.

hahaha. Probably not..

-Jennifer.

if no one minds, I'd sort of like to lock this thread.

dude firstly i didn't mean 2 start an argument i was just stating my opinion so i'm sorry if i did and secondly, i'm sorry if talking 2 my best m8 was 'going 2 far' i didn't realise that d8in a guy ment tht i couldn't live my life ne more i know, don't brush everybody with the same brush and all of tht stuff bt @ the end of the day every1 tht i try and get close 2 ends up hurting me some way so y should i be expected to trust guys. I mean i would love to bt i just get extremely scared weneva i get close to a guy because of my past.

hey i always offered 2 b there babe =) how is talkin 2 me an lorna an tht 2 far?

sam always bitched at me n then refused 2 talk 2 me everytime i tlked 2 u, jay, heywood and all of those lot then strted with the slagin me off 4 it, made me feel like shit then acted all sweet atfa. as was always the case. n yes i know u always offered 2 b there and u always have been. lets face it u n lorna are the only 1s i trust with all of my being. hell u're the only reason i'm still here (i mean tht as well babes)

cheers hun. but think we strayed off topic!

did we? opps, although really i didnt because he was and still is one of the main reasons i cant trust men. i honestly believed tht i loved him (dnt say it dude just really dont say it) and then he would mentally beat me down then think he could fix everything by sayin tht he loved me. he refused to listen to wot i had to say on anything without slaggin me off for it and if tht's wot love and trust means then i want no part in it.

I have my days where I can not trust men. I was once almost raped, and my father abandoned me, my boyfriend hurts me mentally, sometimes it does not seem possible.

When I was little and males "had cooties" my mother would tell me "Katherine, boys lie". Then when I got my first boyfriend she told me "Katherine, boys lie" and Everytime I go on a date she tells me "Remember, Boys lie". I never took her seriously until this guy DJ...he has like the biggest Y chromosome you know. He told me he loved me and I knew he was just saying it cus thats what b/fs do, but after 6 months I beleived him. We broke up, but we stayed friends. He wanted to get back together and I said I couldnt (I have a male French penpal coming to visit me, I gotta be single to avoid awkwardness). he said that would never change.but he lied...we havnt talked since

And what was said about being a lesbian...Its not all good. They still break hearts, and they can be just as deceitful...

[PygmyPuff]

yeah, everything has a bad and good part to it.

Mark is COMPLETELY right... and a great listener. I am bi, but some GIRLS you cant trust either, so les isnt your only option. I would suggest letting up on guys for a little bit, but that doesnt mean switch to girls COMPLETELY either, or to even switch at all in the first place. just wait until the guys arent, as mark so quaintly put it, extremely horny, and older... DONT DATE OLDER MEN RIGHT AWAY THO!!!!! umm... sorry if i confused you, its about 1:30 in the morning here... yeah. so hope i helped at least halfway...

-Allanah Rayne