Im so sad and crying for days please help

well i had a friend i have been knowing for the longest after a while i started to have some really deep feelings he was always in my mind i talked to him for hours and he would always listen it seemed as if he was always going to be here for me and after a few talks i told him how i felt about him and he said that if we lived closer he would go out with me that he did like me but the distance was just not so good i said ok because i loved him and always told him i loved him well i thought he loved me well i just got mad of him because after i told him how i felt about him he just gor further apart from me i felt bad but then i send him a message and then i told him how i felt i even shared some of my poems which were for him he said stop it i took it so bad and i also told him how he felt for me he said he liked me as a girlfriernd but loved me as a friend that hurt so bad because i was the one who always was their for him i took it bad he strated to act really mean to me and thats when i snap and said i dont want to talk to him for him not to call me or bother me he said the same that day was so bad for me i cried for days even months i spend all my days sad,alone,writting poems in a dark room i just felt badbut then one day he called i was so happy i felt for his games again and the way he would talk to me i soon found out he only called me because he was bored and he just did not have anything to do i just felt like shit and i told him off but he yet did not cared and then i stoped talking to him but we would talk some days well one day i called him and told him i had a boyfriend and he told me he had a girlfriend i was happy for him but yet sad but then i did not care cause im in love with my baby but still i was hurt and then to find out that this girl who he is going out with him lives farther then me and him i felt so bad knowing he just did me wrong that everything he said were just lies and he sure did know how to i feel like shit and saturday was his birthday i did not call because i say to myself he dont need me but the question is do i need him please can somebody help and tell me what would you do please i need help im going crazy help please

Do you think maybe you should express these feelings to him and deal with the reality of it rather than on this site?? It sounds to me like your making it more complicated and getting overly emotional that it should be...

well thank you for your advice well yes its true i try telling him how i felt but all he said was stop saying this things and he would always try change the conversation about this i just feel so bad and yes maybe iam making it to much complicated abourt this well thank you i just feel so bad

hey dear..i can understand wat u feeling..i know its really hard...just telling your feelings to him..it wont help.try to founf out wats in his mind...y he is behaving so?mayb somethg is preventing him from responding to your luv....if he listen to u for hours..n been gud frd..i dnt fink he dnt have any feelings for you....stop crying dear..it wnt lead you anywhere.....try to do wat am tell u..then u tell me..i try help u dear.....ok nw cheer up for this new frd...

Hi Cynthia

I know your hurt right now and you can't make him listen - which is I think really unfair on his behalf...but it just goes to show if he can't even hear you out and respond to you in a manner that you can understand to help you either move on or justify your feelings then do you think he's worth the tears your crying for him honestly - you seem like a sweetheart you can do better...someone who WILL hear you out for starters.

hey, tough situation..and i know it sounds so bad for you right now and you feel like s^&*.
But honestly. maybe he didnt like you as much as his girlfriend? so he took a chance on the other girl since his feelings were stronger in a girlfriend / boyfriend way.

If he loves you as a friend, then thats all you can ask for, you cant make him love you, its something that happens naturally. And if he didnt care, that you stopped talking to him.. then i think that says something on its own.

Like the person above said, You can do better. Theres a lot of good, caring guys out there, and im sure more than one is willing to treat and love you in the right way.

Take care sweety, things'll get better,
xxx