Why must love occur over great distances?

So much pain emences from within me do to the fact that I'm in love with a girl who is so far away...there is no possible way I can have her. If this has or is happening to you, please reply. I feel so lost.

I am in a long distance relationship now. It is the subject of my poem *A Trio of Roses*. Right now I miss the guy all the time. But there is no point in being in any relationship that is not going to satisfy your needs. This will only work for me if there is an understanding and a forseeable likelihood that we will be together in the near future. Otherwise it is too much like chasing a rainbow. It is wonderful to follow a dream but after a couple of frustrating experiences, I hope I have learned to avoid being vulnerable to the hurt that comes from romances that are simply impossible dreams.

You seem like a decent guy and your poems also indicate that you are. Why don't you open your heart to girls that are truly available instead of someone that is out of reach?

Best wishes and best of luck ----Lydia

If it is for sure impossible .. then you must start trying to forget that dream. But if you really want it to happen nothing is impossible. God will open some door for you. I also posses a long distance love. Yes, its hard..it needs a lot of trust and patience. But if you really love.. IF you really feel your heart so much yearning for that person..go for it. Try sincerally. You will win.

Mine was an impossible dream. I had never spoken or expressed my feelings to the guy i loved. Infact the guy believed i hated him. I had simply prayed to god. I did nothing else. After a long wait of 8 years I got him! Still i am far away.. i won't see him for few more years.. But i live on the hope of one day meeting him. I barely have chances chatting with him.. or contacting him in anyways.. Still we love each other. And i feel proud of my love every moment.

Belive in your love.. IT will come to you. But don't forget to do your part. God will do the rest. Good luck.

I believe that love can occure anytime, anywhere, and at any age. I am able to cope with the problem. I can only pray that God or fate will intervene and have us finally unite. I dare not to give up on her for she is the second girl I ever truely loved. We both realize how the relationship is and are dealing with it. Yet we both pray day and night for our dream to come true.

if you two were meant for each other then 'love will find a way'. but as long as you can, just hang on, for now.

its hard and well ya I understand and can partially relate, Ive been in a relationship where we barelly met, even tho we lived in the same city and were a 10min drive away, her parents didnt support much of her decisions and well we kept the conversations on msn, phone and then we also sometimes met but well its hard, I know... I cant really say its possible or its impossible because it all depends on you, how strong you are and your partner, I mean if you are both havin doubts, not sure if it will work, cant find a common language or sumfin like that, then dont bother tryin because the longer the doubts are gonna go on the more it will hurt someone at the end

My boyfriend lives far away, and your right it does hurt. But we manage because its love!

my boyfriend lives far away and i have never really met him but if it is true love, you will last. But i think if there is alot of doubt, maybe you should not be with them. Talk it over with your girl...and good luck

I was head over heels for a guy I met online who lives in New York City. Crazy?! I thought so!!! No one understood, and all of my 'friends' made fun of me. We were madly in love, or so I like to think. Unfortunately, it didn't work out. We knew eachother for about a year, and then I WENT UP TO NEW YORK TO MEET HIM!!! It was the best day of my life ... We went to the empire state building, groun zero.. so and and so forth.

It was a devastating end. We both knew that distance could and would keep us apart. Eventually he gained feelings for another girl who lived near him, and I was left in the dust. To this day we are the best of friends, and we both still have hope for a relationship in the future with eachother. Distance is a problem now, but it won't separate you forever, and the gap can be filled in... Miles is just a number ... Love endures all things. Love never fails.

I'm in a very loving and happy relationship right now and it all started out as a long distance relationship. We were about 15/16 and we met over the internet... We we're friends for ages and then began to fall in love when we got to know each other more. We made train visits as often as we could, and it wasn't cheap. It hurt like hell each time we had to say goodbye, and the second we we're apart i missed him and just wanted to be with him again. After a lot of going back and forth circumstances made things easier but slightly harder at the same time. I fell pregnant with our little girl and he moved closer and i moved out of my parents house and we got a little place together. It certainly wasn't a fairy tale but it shows long distance relationships can work out some way or another. Ours was probably down to Jessica ( our daughter) but still.....
The best of luck in your situation, i hope everything works out for the best.

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