help...friend in big trouble...:(...:(...:(

i used to cut myself but i dont anymore ....

and i just found out my freind cuts really bad and she has had stitches a few times and im really worried as i cant see her go thorugh what i went through...

does anyone know what i can say to her to show her she is hurting everyone around her and that she can talk to someone .....

im someone who always has advice on this topic but my head just goes blank when it happens to me personally

thanx a toone

2moroNEVAcame

If you say you used to cut and you stopped, there must've been a reason. Maybe that reason can help your friend come into realization also?

Let her know you used to cut, and how wrong it is. Offer her help, and maybe if it is really bad and her parents don't know, I encourage you to tell them. That would be the actions of a true friend. I don't know. You may PM me if you like, I'd be glad to help more.

Definately tell her your story, and then be honest that you are concerned for her, and get her help. She will be angry at you for a while no question, but this is her life she is gambling with, and she is obviously not okay. You love her, and you know what game this is that she is playing at. You were lucky to make it out alive, but she might not be, so help her out and give her a way to get back on track. My best friend did that to me, and it didn't cure everything, but it stopped me from trying to kill myself (which I tried several times) and it made me thing about what I was doing and how it was hurting others around me. Let her know how much you love her, show her your scars if you have them, tell her how horrible it is and how much it ruined your life. When I first started cutting my boyfriend got really worried and tried to talk me out of it. But here is the thing, he used to cut himself, though I didn't know at the time. If he had had the courage to tell me that honestly, and explain what it was like and what it did I might have not done some of the things I did. But no, her waited for a long time, until my cutting made him start again himself, and it ruined both our lives, pluse the relationship we had with eachother. I know it is hard to talk about this stuff, but think about it, this is her life. More than half the teen suicides are accidental, don't let your friend join that statistic. Best of luck baby, and if you need me, I am here. I have a lot of poems on this subject or similar to if you want to use them I can give you more spacific titles, but not here b/c we aren't supposed to advertise our poems. My email is tainted_freedom_from_insanity@yahoo.com so email me whenever you need it and I will get back to you as soon as I can. It might be good for you to go to counseling too, just to help you through this b/c I know that telling on me just about destroyed my best friend. Hugs to you baby, and a billion more.

-Tainted Mikochan

Thank you so much

she is coming over today so i think im going to sit her down and just talk to her and try and see what i can do to help....i will tell her about myself yes

you guys i realy hope this helps and thank you so much for your help....

andyone else with anymore ideas please feel free to tell

thank you again

*~CrImSon__TeArS~*

oh and Tainted Mikochan- and extra thankyou ....it really helps to know you ahve gone through the same thing.....

*~CrImSon__TeArS~*

what you need to do is be there for her and make sure she can always cry on your shoulder, make sure she feels loved and just do the things you used to do when you were little like play dress ups attack eachothers hair play makeup that kind of thing. i have gone through the same thing, you will need a lot of patience, try to have some fun with her and maybe join a club or a gym or something to keep you both occupied. i world recomend the gym because then you can focus your depression/anger/stress into making yourself stronger and fitter =]

hope that helped

pip xxx

number one rule in this: is to tell her that your there for her every step off the way, because you know exactly what she is feeling. everyone who self harms feels isolated and alone, like no1 understands. talk to her, and make time with her dont egnore this problem! i have been there myself, but unfortunity i lost my best friend, i no i did everything to help, but she was very very very far gone, and had made her mind up.

be there for her.

a best friend is the person who walks in when everyone else walks out.

Thank you so much to everyone ...yesterday we had a hugr talk and i just made her tell me evrythign that was going on and she just cryed and well i told her i would be here weneva she needs and thats really helped ...then i took her shopping and its really seemed to help thatnk you so much to everyone

XoX *~CrImSon__TeArS~*

Opps, just realized I screwed my email address, lol. Its: tainted_freedom_from_sanity@yahoo.com. Best of luck babe! IT sounds like things are going better for you and her, and I hope they continue to. You are a good friend love.

-Tainted