Its been years, but I feel it was just yesterday.

About three years ago my step dad tried to sleep with me. I never told anyone, until one day i was having this big fight with him and my mom was there, and i told her. And he hasn't tried it since then, but I still feel very uncomfortable with him. He is an alcoholic. I use to be thin and stylish, and ever since then I've gained like 40 pounds, and wear nothing but baggy clothes. He is never really around too. Always out somewhere. But, whenever I know he is home, I feel very uncomfortable. Sometimes I wish he'd try it again so I can call the cops.

I know this happens to a lot of girls, and i never though I'd be one of them. But, do you ever forget?! Do you ever forgive? Like, i feels like I will never let this go.

Oh how dreadful. I am sorry to hear that. I had a friend in a similar situation, except her father raped her. I know one thing for sure Nancy: You will never forgive, forget or let this go. It will be one of those memories that stick with you, and maybe everytime you see him you will think of it. I know it sounds harsh, but that is the reality of human beings and the way our minds work. There are certain things that just stick there. You say ever since then you went through many changes, this proves it was a life experience that moved your life in a different direction and I am sorry to hear that. You could however try and be strong, and stay away from your step-dad. Try doing many things that wouldn't remind you of him. Involve yourself in outdoor activities so that you can feel the same again. All of these things could help. Get out and make something of yourself, you have to have that confidence in your heart. Still, above all this, the most thing that will help you is someone to talk to. Friends, family...anyone who you can confide in when you feel like you can't take it anymore. Talking is a big help, because you share the burden. Trust me, even though you may feel like no one would understand what you are going through, people have feelings, and sensitive hearts...and even imagining it can put us all in your situation. Talking is a good thing, so please do that. If you need anything, I am here to talk also. PM or IM me, we can talk. For years I've helped a best friend get through a similar situation like yours.

Take care, Sarah.

Thanks, what you both said meant something to me. But it is really hard. I wasn't raped, thank god. But I felt betrayed. And, the sad thing is that after that happened, I started to drift from my friends. Eventually I lost them all. I got a boyfriend after that incident, and he means the world to me. He knows what happened, and he does help me. I have only really talk about everything that has happened to me to two people, my boyfriend and step sister. She has become my best friend, and she is so pissed at her dad, but, I think your right, I'll never forget. It's sad though, cause since then, I feel like every man out there has a dirty mind. Like, I can't look at men the same anymore. Its like I can only trust my boyfriend, and thats it. I know I'd feel better if he was behind bars. But, I know it would break my moms heart. I wish life was easier. Thanks again.

I'm so sorry, its disgusting how some adults have such sick minds. I can relate... I went through something like that once, but it wasn't with my dad or step dad (don't have one). No I wasn't raped, but came close to once. Personally, I have never forgave and to this day I still think I should have said something, to anyone.

I sort of felt betrayed but it was more of a shock if anything. Some people appear to be so nice, yet so ugly on the inside. I have a hard time trusting people, and those who I do, they mean the world to me. But even then there are things I keep to myself. Anyways, my advice would be to talk to your mom. If your that uncomfortable then you shouldn't be living with him...

I haven't forgotten, nor do I think I ever will. But when i'm with my friends, it seems as if it never happened. Sometimes it just feels like a faded dream or memory. But all I can say is, life goes on. Stay strong.

~Luvz~
~Angie~
xoxo

no... you never forget or forgive... all i can really say is good luck moving on because thats all you can do and until you move out you can never feel really safe...trust me i know