What's in a word, words?

I hate your momma jokes. My mother is over a hundred miles away living in another state and I miss her tuns. My brother will tell me a your momma joke and I just shake my head and remind him that his momma is mine too.

Words are ment to cause another to react in some way. In a word is a effect, a reckonisable connectoin, often enough in a word is nothing but stupidity.

Hmm..Well.. I never got into physical fights. I'm just too scared.. Afraid I'll get hurt or something. So I try to keep my mouth shut.

Doesn't mean I'm relax or cool with it. I always feel that rush of adrenaline.. and the aggresion.
And I just don't know how to handle it.

I can't shrug it off either. It really haunts me for days. Till I go crazy!
And I try to tell myself that it's ok and that the person was just being stupid, but it doesn't help.

I try so hard no to care about what others think. But still I do.
I don't know.. maybe I'm just don't have enough confidence in myself.

*sighs*

I don't know why words can hurt so bad, and I don't know why people hurt others that way. And I couldn't care less, I just wish I could handle it and not care that much about it....

Where the hell am I anyway? Am I at my psychologist or on this forum?

hahaha

Lotsaaaa love
-xxx-

Words are like medicine when properly used it can heal some of the deepest wounds. Like when a friend or family member comforts you when you face disappointment, heartbreak, or evil. But also medicine has the power to sting, hurt and damage us.

In fifth grade I had the hardest time with this one guy because he would pick on me all the time, but he’s actually pretty nice, he was having problems at home but it still hurt every time he said something to me. Words are just one of the ways we communicate with another and express our feelings and thoughts. Which can cause us to feel or believe something. They are actually pretty powerful. Like poetry, we use words all the time to express an emotion or thought to the reader, to bring a message that we may believe.

Right now I’m doing a research paper about bullying, answering the questions about what may cause it to happen, how big of a problem it is and the effects of bullying for the bully and the victims. Of course I read articles about Columbine High School and the shooting and this one article just really got to me about it. There were a lot of signs before the shooting. But those boys were bullied all the time. After reading the articles about that school shooting and others that have occurred I can’t stand the saying “They’re Just Words” because to some people words are just so hard to let go of, and they can cause things that you can’t erase.

~Jacklyn

If someone told me a "yo momma" joke to me, i'd simply laugh it off, if it was in a joking context. But if it was someone that actually knew my mom, what she looked like and what she did, then it's ON. I have an undying respect for my mother, and the sacrifices she made for me to be standing on the feet under my ankles today.

I don't actually know why...i think there's a sense of pride and defense for yourself. Not sure, though.

Words are, techinically, only words. It's people with tools like a conscience who decide if they sum up to a meaning of hurt or not...or no meaning at all.

//Ari\\

Geeze, so you get picked on, big deal. I consider that a good thing. Getting bullied can help to build character and dealing with it and surviving it can help to build confidence. I look upon bullying as a right of passage. I personally look upon the years I was bullied and tourmented foundly, for it help to build my strength. All the bullying I got just help to re-inforce that I could overcome, prosper, eventhough there might be those who would relish and revel in seeing me do otherwise, and personally, I love "Yo Momma" jokes and thoroughly enjoy watching mtv's "Yo Momma". Just this past Friday night I was entertaining my movie buddy with some "Yo Momma" classics. Boy, was I on that night. Funny is good!!! Seriously, if I held on to the stuff people said about me in the past, I might never leave house, but nay, lo, the world is going to love me. Poeple, lots of them, think I'm weird, strange now, but I much rather be the quirky, somewhat out there guy you remember then the guy five mimutes later you forget. Some of history heralded and greatest figures were thought to be strange, different, weird by some of there peers, contemporaries, that is, until there brillance, genius, greatest where shown through, by time. Many consider my attitude strange, but I'm never sent home crying and am almost always happy, and some poeple consider that real strange, but they would love it, if they could be as strange as I am, I know!!!

I say, just enjoy life and don't let the bullshit get to you, take you down. Yes, mean people do suck, but they don't have to suck the life out of you!!!

Bob - have some more respect for your Mum...I dont know a great deal about your situation but carrying you around for nine months, giving you life and bringing you into the world REGARDLESS of how, what, where, why or when and what happened after deserves at least some respect.

I agree with you though I used to fly off the handle but learnt to box fairly young so I used to do the ass kicking and where required I still do.

See then I learnt about this powerful tool called CHOICE that can be used in every aspect of my life and I can utilise to control EVERY aspect of my life. I can't control other people, its taken me YEARS to learn this but I can control how what they do and say affect me - by exercising my CHOICE. They can call me every name under the sun the only time it ever means anything is when I let it get it to me, when I chose to get emotional or react (not ACT, reACT) about it...

Listen and learn lil ones I wish I knew this before the years of tears and heart aches i went through :O)

Words tap into the Collective Unconscious. They go to our roots.

You can talk about my momma all you want...but if you TOUCH her....oh you WILL get it!!! LMFAO

Bob I understand what you're saying and it makes total sense but when someone is slandering your home (family, friends, yourself, what ever) you get defensive. I say ALL the time that people can say what ever they want about me and for the most part that's VERY true because I LOVE me and as you said if they have no knowledge of my life how can they say anything...even if they DO I'm STILL going to be me...but believe that there are a few tender spots. The children in my family as many well know are my life and when little twits mess with them I go off the deep end. I turn into super woman...super woman with the worst kind of attitude...LMAO So if words hurt someone dear to me that hurts me....which causes a chain reaction. If they can not defend themselves then I will do it for them. Later down the road we'll think what the hell...it wasn't even that serious....but the anger gets the best of us...well ME anyway...HAHAHA

maybe you can deal with bullies better than other people. but some people can't learn from it like you have. ya i'm over what happened to me but there are a lot of different situations where it may not be as easy. Bullying can have a lot of effects on the victims and the bully themself, both short and long term. It's actually better to try and stop the growing problem of bullying to reduce the number of teenage suicide, and try to stop possible high school shootings. There are plenty other hardships that kids and teens can go through to learn character, but i think schools should fight bullying the best they can. There are some students that just fear going to school not because of grades but because they are bullied. that's just sad.

~Jacklyn

Words. things humans have invented to convey meaning put simply and depending on that meaning we tend to become physical or destructive or calm or pensive or a multitude of other states. Me? i was bullied from the time i was 3 till the time i was 12 and a half. it helped to spawn one of the worst part of my life it also did teach me how to defend myself, how to control myself, and how to deal with things. while violence is not always the answer, anyone who tells you it has never solved anything is flat-out lying to you. Words ar a thing that can be good or bad or indifferent, provoking or calming or neither. In the end it is just our interpretation of the words another says that makes us react to them, whether that reaction is one of love or hate.
~jacob

Robert Gardiner, im sooo with you

frankly im a weakling, so instead of getting all worked up about i learned to deal with it. when i was real young i would get all upset about people messing with me. but now im like whatever. say what you wanna say. most of the time its not listening to.

and yo momma jokes are mad funny bc they arent meant to be really insulting anymore. i suppose they started out that way. i think they are funny. my brother tells me your momma jokes all the time.

although i will say bullying to an intense degree is bad. i know some people who really felt it because i went past words to like tripping and stuff. this girl is now homeschooled. so people generally do need to watch what they are saying but a bit of insulting is healthy

a bit is healthy but most of the time it goes to far. personally i just think there are enough other hardships that kids can learn from other than bullying.

~Jacklyn

I agree with you Bob,Words can cut you deeply especially if your a sensitive person like I am,but you can`t let it define who you are,sometimes you just have to shrug and say"say what you will I know who I am".

The only time I used to get upset with peoples harsh words whether aimed at me or my family is when what they were saying was hurtfully true, I didn't get angry though I just get upset.. The rest of the time I never let it bother me as I know they know nothing.

Verbal bullies are really usually pathetic individuals with very low self-esteem

Having said that I believe there is such a thing as constructive criticism

There is also such a thing as destructive criticism

The best defense is usually a strong offense thus people that are not satisfied with their position in life are more offensive, and less likely to let the truth get in the way of a verbal attack

Food for thought: http://www.imao.us/docs/Violence.htm

"Words are more powerful than we tend to think." [Sartre]

To me, words are only as strong as the strength you put behind them. We as writers use them to heal as well as hurt. I was raised with 7 brothers, and let me tell you, They were big and brutal. My only defense against them was words. Not only the words I used, but the way I used them and where I used them. Believe me, something said at home between me and them didn't have the impact than when it was between me, them and their buddies.

I have a very dry wit and sometimes people think I'm serious about my sarcastic remarks. I never deliberately go out of my way to hurt someone, but on occassion, someone might think something I said was serious. And I end up apologizing to them for something said in jest.

As for being bullied in school. If you ever want to get back at those who bullied you in school, go to your 10 year reunion and let them see what their taunting did. Then thank them for helping mold you into the person you became. When I went to my reunion, nobody recognized me. Lets just say I finally lost my baby fat, my face cleared up. I got a haircut that actually flattered me. I sat in the back and looked at all the cheerleaders who let themself go, before I introduced myself.

It was pure heaven to let them know that I was better off because I had an inner strenghth that they gave me from all their taunting earlier.

Happiness
Jeannie

^As soon as I can get my scanner working, will do. I'll send you a pic of when I was 28 and on my way to class reunion. Of course, the thing I forgot to tell you, is that you have to walk into that place with confidence, even if your falling apart on the inside. I learned a long time ago, never let them see you sweat... and never let them see you cry.

Happiness
Jeannie

^Very cute. I hate biggots, by his remark he wasn't in possession of any intelligence, so how could he judge.

My one experience with this sort of problem, was at Christmas a couple of years ago. I was helping a family out [which we do every year]. I had taken a bunch of gifts to their door, and because I wanted to make sure they were recieved, We were waiting by the side of the house until the door bell was answered. The mother came to the door and upon finding the gifts, called her family to help get them inside. After the door was closed and the family safely inside, my children and I came out of hiding and headed to the car that was parked down the street. The neighbor across the street, having witnessed the whole thing, came running up to me. He said that those black people [not his words either] wasn't worth anything and if I wanted to give help at Christmas, why didn't I pick a nice white family to assist. Of course, My blood was boiling, but before I could say anything, My 11 year old daughter, drew back her leg, and kicked him right in the shin. Personally, I think it would have been more beneficial, had she aimed a little higher.

Happiness
Jeannie

Bump (Due to Spam)

Bob, You know, its at those times [when they do something that you wish you had done] that make you feel proud that at least they were listening to the lessons you were trying to teach them. My children never cease to amaze me, at their perception of life. Guess that's what makes being a parent so rewarding.

Happiness
Jeannie

HAHAHAHA I love 'your momma' jokes....but its only funny when use it on my own mother, she's cool like that. I say 'your momma is ugly' and she will say 'your momma is....shut up' lol. Ah good times
You rock Bob....;)

I only say it to my mother though, in the end she is making fun of herself and she knows it....its our little humor between us and most people get a kick out of it. But I just want to slap the people who try to make it as an insult they just sound stupid and childish.

Well.. that's why when people say things of my family.. I just agree with them. Give them everything they don't want. They'll stop sooner or later.. I wont ruin my clean record for them.

Yes my mom and I are like best friends and joke around alot.
I see a lot of people who dont have relationships with their parents...I am just glad I have a strong one with one of mine.