Chatting Vs Forum

I was thinking of writing this seeing as it has come through my mind...

One thing that bothers me is that children the age of 12 go into chat sites and chat obviously...And seeing as we had the little incident revealed to us.

So I was thinking which of these poses as a threat to the children: Chatting or Forums.

I would like to hear your opinions on this.

chatting to people that they believe to be their own age and then turn out to be adults is out of the question and dangerous to young people.

Chatting because they tend to slip up more, I think.

Chatting will allow you to know the pearson in front of you more than writing in the forums. for a simple reason.... when you write in the forums you think once twice maybe sometimes three times about the wording and how to put it...

But chatting is more on-the-spot... so you tend to slip up more there supposedly that we're talking about liers.

i believe that they are both dangerous to children. For one thing you don't exactly know who the person is most of the time and for the other how do you know if they are the age that they say they are?
I believe that there should be a certain way to stop children from going into chat rooms untill they are a certain age like 16 or something. IDK but that is just my opinion

I think the reason they lock the threads I speak in is because I am right, and seeing as you are for chatting, me and you arguing is a liability at best to them.

You saying children are sluts and paedophiles is laughable and a pathetic attempt to prove that chatting is infact harmless. In fact you just helped my cause...

Underage girls may emulate their idols, and may even try and seduce, but isn't it the job of an adult to stop that child and scold her for her behaviour.

I think many people like you Ken think with their "p****" rather than your brain...Therefore justify that it is a child's fault they seduce adult men.

I ask that you rethink who is the real paedophile, because if you were a police officer right now, the world would be a spot more worse than it actually is.

Sayonara..

What you are basically saying, that every girl and boy that is getting abused. It is partially their fault for being kids. Right!

It does not matter whether they wear less clothing or they parade around naked for all to see or even seducing a man who has the capacity to know what is right from wrong the fact of the matter is it is wrong and sick for these men to target and molest these children. Full stop.

They may act like hellraisers, they may be flaunting around, they may even be seducing men twice over their age. THEY ARE STILL CHILDREN.

Think about what you say Ken, because even to the most intellectually inadequate you sound like a chauvanist.

Have a nice day.

Ken:

Children are basically naive personified. They do not know to seduce a man twice their age, nor do they want to. They emmulate what is seen in tv, and copy that. That is what they do, copy from a role model.

They do not make their own decisions, their parents do, until the age of 18. Their parents decide whether their friends are good, their parents set curfews, their parents basically run their whole lives because they are children, and they do need guidance.

So what I am basically saying is. Men who are in their early 20s 30s 40s 50s have the capacity to think "Is what I am doing wrong". Do you understand..

I agree with both your views. In todays society - children have a lot more freedom, individuality and stronger personalitys than they (we) did 5 years ago. However, I can see that younger children are unaware, very naive - even today. Is it right that a sexually abused six-year-old should go to court, charged for their deciscions to meet with somebody on the internet, thinking they were a friend. Surely - that's the parents fault for not knowing where their child is, with who etc. However, I can see that twelve-year-olds are more than capable of saying NO to a stranger on the internet, or at least sensible enough to meet them surrounded by a large group of friends - to minimise risk.

If I take it from your point of view Ken, you basically want to punish children for the clothes they wear and the playful attitude they all possess.

We do not know who done who, but never have I heard or seen a victim being wrong.

Especially the children. What adults possess that chilren do not is what is right and what is wrong. And frankly people take advantage of that lack of right or wrong.

Can I add just one thing please? We recently found out our 15 year old daughter had sexual intercourse with a man of 21. We were angry that a man of 21 didn't use his head and care that this was statutory rape. We were ready to press charges..the whole nine yards....Then we took a look at the situation from the man's point of view (as if it was one of our sons) (not that we would condone this) We concluded that our daughter isn't 2 years old. At 15, she knows right from wrong. So, if she decided to WILLING have intercourse with this guy (seducing him just as he seduced her) WHY should he be jailed and she just gets grounded or something, when she had just as much to do with it as he did? Sound fair to you? What if that 21 year old was YOUR son? How would you feel about it? Honestly? We decided NOT to press charges & we BOTH feel that we made the right choice. Not all, but a lot of these young girls these days are not as innocent as you would like to think. It's not like when i was 15...not even close.
On a side note: Child molestation is a TOTALLY different story. That is RAPE and not consentual.
Also...we DO NOT allow our daughter to dress the way Ken is speaking of, but as he said, they can change at school or whatever...you can't watch them 24/7.

All that can be expressed over chats and forums is sexual innuendo... that is fustrating, yes, but it has nothing to do with molestation.

If a picture is posted or sent, concent is needed, therefore, the female or male sending the picture is at fault regardless of how old the receiver is.

As Ken rightly puts it - this is no difference between the two.

Furthermore, if you ditch the chat room, or the forum, where do you think all the crap people say in the then destroyed area will go and spread their woffle? But of course, in the forums or chat room which is still up and running and is a place they can announce their opinion 'freely'.

peace