is it bad to be a little dark?

really now, is it that bad?
because i can be extremely dark and pessimistic at times, and i seem to always be shut out for it
im just trying to get people to look at more than one side, because, as you guys say, "every cloud has a silver lining"
my response always being "yeah? well that cloud still casts a shadow."

but really, people need to accept others, not shut them out
the world needs to be taught that.

i totally agree people do need to accept others.

pip xxx

I fully agree that people need to be more accepting, but unfortunately it's not possible to be accepted by everyone, especially if you are deemed as being outside of the social norm. You can't make everyone see it your way.

Personally, I am often called dark, morbid, maccabre, etc. (mainly) in my sense of humour, but am not really discredited for it. My friends accept it, and if others don't that's ok, we can't win the approval of everybody.

However I have learned that I need positivity in certain areas. Or I'd just be defeatist and miserable, negating the good things that happen in my life with an irrational and sad attitude. Just like complete optimists may appear delusional. That's why I agree with the above post too, pessimism can breed self-destruction. There's a fine line.

Getting to the point, just be yourself and be proud of it, etc. :) Don't worry about who is accepting you and who isn't. If you're confident and truly believe you're ok as you are, then that's the best you can do. Not everybody will agree, but that's life.

i agree cause personaly it annoys methat some of my friends acually care what people think about them actually one of my friends care about what people say about her friends.like if someone said i was so out of fashion she would either get me new clothes or stop hangin with me.

You should care what others think about you. But you should first identify the people that MATTER. I dunno how old all you who have posted here are, but speaking as a wrong-side-of-30 year old who wrote very negative poetry as a teenager and suffered depression in his 20s, I would say this:

Be yourself, because it will then only ever be you that someone will come to love. And when someone does, be aware that they will care about you, and as a consequence they will say things they mean that may upset you, because you are you.

Not caring about what other people think will do your soul no good. I learnt that the hard way.

thank you to all who posted

i like seeing different perspectives

thanks again!!

eternally, ashes

Is it possible to be dark? I've learned that anyone who calls themselves dark is definitely not dark. Why would you label yourself dark?

And plus, what defines dark?

no I dont think thats bad at all, everyone has a dark side to them just some people express it more often than others.

Ash there is nothing wrong at all with being dark...........some of the most amazing pieces of work have been written by people who have dark deep souls. Everyone id different in their own ways and we all have a dark side to us even if we are afraid to admit it to people.

take care, lis

No it's not bad to be yourself ! I mean it like everybody has their own personality and everybody has a dark side to them! No one is an angel that's for sure! so be yourself! I know I am I can relate!

*hugs* (sorry if u don't like hugs)

don't worry. the world seems to think that all people should be optimistic and never sad, that black is for dark people. don't listen!!! i have friends that complain about me, but if they really didn't like me as much to avoid me, i still wouldn't be their friends, now would i?

try to balance them out! i never seem outgoing until im on the pc :) just chill and if ppl annoy u, flash em a little mirror (pocket sized) and say, "just look at yourself!"

:) that's what i do. and they deserve it. lol. but try to have a little good side too. i think boys don't think i'm attractive b/c i complain too much (a friend of mine that was a guy once told me that)... very embarrasing. the thing is, try to be yourself around your true friends so they can get to know the real you. don't put on a mask all day.

well, tell me how it goes.
-Just Rain, now changed to HeartzOnIce.

Ah yes, balance. I'm seen as a dark writer/poems creator person... you know?

I'm actually a 'nice' person, with a weird sense of humor with a lack of common sense at times. Eitherway, there are different people and different personalities.
> The world would be smelly if everyone was the same ;)

I agree. Personally, I think that the world needs insight into the bad and evil that lurks everywhere. Seriously. We can't just ignore it. But like you all said, there's got to be some balance. however, a little darkness isn't such a bad thing. It increases the spectrum of imagination, allows you to express your fears, and creates a level of understanding, you know? People need to see it like that, not freak out cuz they think we are all gothic.

In my own personal experience with the "dark" people you're speaking of...without shutting them out I can't get close to them. Never in my life have I been friends with a "goth" person...if that's how I'm supposed to address people who love the color black. :) And it's not because I wouldn't want to be friends with them, it's just that they don't let me, they don't outsiders in at all. IT seems to me that these "dark" people don't let others in their little circle...so it's them shutting themselves out...

:) hey... it's summer. no more worries about them for vacation, right?

thank you guys so much! i've finally found a group of friends that really accept me, and i've noticed that, with them, i can loosen up and really be myself, dark or not. and you're right, its summer! yay! new people to meet and love! or scare... jk.

bye everyone!

I think that everything in moderation...
if a writer dwells too much on the dark things than it appears melodramatic and insinscere, but being forthgoing and honest gives more perspectives than one.

I finally showed a different side of to my friends. Yet they still accept me. Is it bad to be a little dark? No, cause I am, to me, everybody should have a little darkness in them, or they're just naive.