unaswerd love forever?

when I first saw her, it was love at first sight, well from my side anyway, she was also the kinda girl of wich i knew that she was way out of my league, by some luck and coincidences we did get a little togheter 3 years later, not realy togheter, but we went out sometimes, a movie a drink , shopping, bought her a necklace, told her all i felt, yet every time I seemed to get a little closer, she took a step back , things faded away, and she said that it would have never worked,now she's getting married, and stiil i promised her that no matter what i would love her always, I'm propably ruining my life by waiting for things that will never be, but then again, hope springs eternal,doesn't it
is it just stupid to go on like this and wait, or is it somehow understandable and real love that is worth to give up on other posiibilities in love

Well, to tell you to do something that you feel so strongly about, I will not, But I can tell you this when you find true love your heart will know and you will never want to let go. It may be painful to let go, but maybe you to can be really good friends. Friends is always better then becoming her enemy. You should be happy for her, and just continue on, it will take a while to recover, but you will be ok in the end.

Peace, Joe

Wow... it's amazing how long you waited for her...
I would encourage you to make the move, but..she's getting married- and thats a huge step for a couple..

And if she said that it would've never of worked out with you and her.. then i guess there's nothing you can really do...

Maybe for just one last time, pull her aside and tell her how much you feel and love her etc.. and just say that , you just needed her to know that.

And I agree with joe, it is better for you two , to become good friends instead of enemies.. and if you do love her so much, it will be extremely painful for her to get married...
But you'll eventually need to let go; it just might take a long time, considering how much you're in love with this girl...
But it's for the best; so you can find another girl to love, who will love you back..

Take Care, Gd Luck
xxxx

I hate to say it or even bring it up, but 'if you really love someone, sometimes you have to let them go' ... I don't know if that's the exact quote, but it's so true (especially in a situation like this). I know it's going to hurt, but if she's getting married it means that whoever she's with makes her happy and she loves them. And if you truly love her, then her happiness is all that should matter to you.
Believe me, I know how much it may hurt, but I think maybe it's about time you let her spread her wings and see what happens. Spread your own, and see if you can't find someone else special. If in the end you find eachother again, then it was meant to be...

On the other hand,I don't actually believe in soul mates... Or that things go as you want, you've gotta strive for them. *sigh* I hate the ability to see both sides because now I'm only contradicting myself. But I think, for now atleast, I'm going to stand by my first argument. I'm sorry. And I hope things work out for you. Best of luck with everything, and take care. -Stefhy

ty for the replys

um, if she's getting married, there's probably slim chance for you. there is something romantic about the 'girl next door' so close, but so out of reach, but their comes a time when you need to move on.

besides, you can't have waited too long for her. you're only 27.