need help trying get get over the lose of my husband that past a

im so sorry.. but im not sure what to do, im sure you will handle it in your own time, and it may take a very long time, but you shouldnt try and rush things, it will hapen in its own time, but he will stay with you forever in your heart, and you shouldnt try and get over that, and always remember that. i know im probably not helping much, or telling you anything you dont already know.. sorry i cant help more.....
Ben

I am sorry for your loss, Naomi. It is one that I can relate to.

I lost my husband suddenly after five and a half years and two children. It turned my life upside down and I still feel some lingering disruption even after years have gone by. On the positive side, I became compelled to engage in recovery and personal growth through which my own identity emerged. I became a stronger and more independent person. Until then I had, for the most part, lived a sheltered, protected life.

When I was really down I found two authors whose written works were of immense consolation and help on the road toward healing. They were Harold Kushner who wrote “When Bad Things Happen to Good People” and Peter McWilliams, who wrote several very helpful books, particularly “How to Survive the Loss of a Love.” The last one has been published on the internet at http://www.mcwilliams.com/books/books/sur/srtoc.htm
Best wishes in the future and always. —Lydia

Naomi, I'm glad to hear that you are finding those books helpful.
Wishing you the best. ---Lydia