**parental control: too young and too old**

^ true that hes just looking for some easy sex.
it's harsh but it's true

your parents know whats right because their parents knew it too learn it while you're young

look I'm 16 and I was and still is in love with this 22 year old man but he says that if i give my self (as in virginity) up to him then he'll marry me and we"ll be together for ever and well i asked for advice on here too and well they all told me this "he says for you to give up your virginity well thats saying that he only wants you for sex." so look hes too old and all older guys look for one thing in a young girl their body and SEX!!!! so dont do it. I know it'll be hard to give him up but it's something you have to do. trust me you'll be better with out him. I know cause I went through the same darn thing.

hope this helps
the1bit*ch

^ good advice ken! :)

I totally disagree with this thread. Yes some older guys go for the younger chicks for sex but not all. You cant help who you fall in love with (guys included). I feel you are being stereotypical. A guy can truely love and care about someone a little younger then her. If hes pressuring you to have sex though then thats wrong. If You feel that even without sex he would still love and care about you then keep it going. your parents dont always know what best. BUT dont choose him over your family. Even if they dont agree with it and dont like it, dont abandoned them. Nobody knows how long boyfiends will last but your family will be with you forever.

Its true, your parents are only trying to protect you from what could be a very harsh, dirty, cruel reality.
Your parents arent there to try and ruin you or destroy your life, they're simply just looking out for you, and might be seeing something that is like watching a car crash in progress.

Maybe you cant see it , but maybe everyone else can,
maybe since you have such a big crush on this guy, that maybe thats why you're " blinded" by all of this.

but then again, i cant tell you what to do, considering i dont know all the details.

Gd Luck
xxx

well i know how u feel cuz i was in da same situation b-4 and honestly i think all the advice otha people on this site have been giving u is half wrong, not all guyz are the same and they need to recognize that. some guyz are true and if they dont know that then they must be really lonely and most likely they've all been played many timez before. but anyway if u really think u love him and u think he loves uyou too well then do wateva u can to stay together. cuz i personally never could let him go and we've been together for almost a year and we're still happy in love. and the thing that mostly kept us together is that he never asked me for more than i was willing to give him. so if u wanna talk more about it email me at really_special_yuri@yahoo.com (yeah i know it sounds concided but my friend made it for me.)

21yrs old or 21 years older than you?

My partner has 15 yrs on me - age is but a number though I wont recommend my situation to just anyone...its about equality in levels of maturity, stimulation and growth and young women can often fidn it difficult to adjust to an older mans desires...still its not impossible Im lving proof of that. Its all about how dedicated you are and too each other and to making a relationship work between you...

First question: How long have you known him?
How do you know he loves you?

In this world, people can hardly recognize the difference between lust and love. Listen to your parents, they have a reason to be concerned. They TRULY love you.

Just follow:

Hope for the best, (if the love is true), Prepare for the worst (you never know)

Im 15 and my boyfriend is 20, go for it, give it a try.. me and my boyfriend have never had sex so not every older guy is only looking for that! and my boyfriend before that was 21 and we never had sex either, my parents had a problem at first but he took there rules and we went together when we could, dont give it up if you really think you love him..

5 years is not that much, yet it might not work. I mean if he's childish for the age (thinks like a 16 year old) it might work.. My grandparents have 14 years apart, and they have been married for 50 years.